Post by River on Sept 7, 2016 16:26:44 GMT
Update: They have been located 9 hours north in Ohio. We had put missing post on Facebook with their pictures and this friend in Ohio saw one and called the girls parents. They are with her at her house. I'm afraid my young relative will run again before facing his fathers wrath. I'm working to find a safe way to bring them home. I do not know anything about the girls situation or why she would run. I appreciate the prayers and positive thoughts.
Original OP:
Sorry this may get long. My young relative seems to have run away with a girl. He is 16 (will be 17 in early December) and his new girlfriend is 17. They go to school together, but I’m not sure how long they’ve been a couple. I just know that it’s only been a few weeks since he updated his FB profile to say “In a relationship”. His profile has now been deleted except for an old one from early 2015.
Background: My young relative does not have the best home life. His father and his mom are both mentally disabled and the father is now physically disabled (really not sure what is physically wrong with him as we don’t have a very good relationship). He only lives about 20 minutes from me but I only see him a few times a year. He usually drops his son off with us to stay during the summer and never calls or checks in on him during that time. My young relative is a great kid when he stays with us, but never opens up to me or my sons (his age is in the middle of my two older sons). I did catch him smoking this summer and we laid down the law like he was our own. Smoking is not permitted at that age and especially not at my house (inside or out) and I would not have that around my sons. He claimed he had been smoking for a year and that his dad buys him his cigarettes. I called his dad and sure enough he does allow it. Said he was getting tired of his son stealing his own cigarettes and it was just easier to buy him his own. :shock: But that shows just how lazy of a parent he is. He also has a huge problem with anger and no control over that at all (which is why we have a strained relationship). They go gambling and on cruises a good bit but never take their son. I’ve never known them to do anything as a family. This family also has a daughter that is away at college in her last semester. When she comes home, she stays with her grandmother or us and her brother always comes with her.
Last year he was kicked out of school for missing too many days and come to find out he was saying he was going to school, but would leave as soon as he got off the bus. He was apparently shacking up with an older girl doing pot and maybe other things. I do not know how this played out in the end as it was never discussed and the boy would not talk about it when staying with us. He was permitted back in the same school this year though and that’s all I know about that.
So yesterday I get a call from the boy’s father asking if I’d seen or heard from him and if I could check with my sons also. We have not seen him since school started and my boys said they haven’t heard from him either. (We live in a different county and my boys go to a different school then my young relative). The girl’s parents showed up at his house about 6 pm looking for their daughter. My young relative picked her up at 7:30 that morning to take her to school. The school had text that the girl was not in school that day and the parents could not reach the girl on her phone. My young relatives phone was on his bed in his room and it appeared that clothes were missing. The dad called the police but they can’t do anything except look out for the truck and license plate at this point. This morning, there has still been no word from either of them. I have no idea if they even have any money. The young relative had been working at McDonald for a few months, but quit when school started back. The boy’s grandmother is in my ear worried sick over this (which I am too) and wants to know what will happen if they either come back or are found by the police. Does anyone have experience in this at such a young age or know what kind of trouble him and the girl would be facing?
BTW…we all live in a very rural area and the larger towns are an hour away.
Original OP:
Sorry this may get long. My young relative seems to have run away with a girl. He is 16 (will be 17 in early December) and his new girlfriend is 17. They go to school together, but I’m not sure how long they’ve been a couple. I just know that it’s only been a few weeks since he updated his FB profile to say “In a relationship”. His profile has now been deleted except for an old one from early 2015.
Background: My young relative does not have the best home life. His father and his mom are both mentally disabled and the father is now physically disabled (really not sure what is physically wrong with him as we don’t have a very good relationship). He only lives about 20 minutes from me but I only see him a few times a year. He usually drops his son off with us to stay during the summer and never calls or checks in on him during that time. My young relative is a great kid when he stays with us, but never opens up to me or my sons (his age is in the middle of my two older sons). I did catch him smoking this summer and we laid down the law like he was our own. Smoking is not permitted at that age and especially not at my house (inside or out) and I would not have that around my sons. He claimed he had been smoking for a year and that his dad buys him his cigarettes. I called his dad and sure enough he does allow it. Said he was getting tired of his son stealing his own cigarettes and it was just easier to buy him his own. :shock: But that shows just how lazy of a parent he is. He also has a huge problem with anger and no control over that at all (which is why we have a strained relationship). They go gambling and on cruises a good bit but never take their son. I’ve never known them to do anything as a family. This family also has a daughter that is away at college in her last semester. When she comes home, she stays with her grandmother or us and her brother always comes with her.
Last year he was kicked out of school for missing too many days and come to find out he was saying he was going to school, but would leave as soon as he got off the bus. He was apparently shacking up with an older girl doing pot and maybe other things. I do not know how this played out in the end as it was never discussed and the boy would not talk about it when staying with us. He was permitted back in the same school this year though and that’s all I know about that.
So yesterday I get a call from the boy’s father asking if I’d seen or heard from him and if I could check with my sons also. We have not seen him since school started and my boys said they haven’t heard from him either. (We live in a different county and my boys go to a different school then my young relative). The girl’s parents showed up at his house about 6 pm looking for their daughter. My young relative picked her up at 7:30 that morning to take her to school. The school had text that the girl was not in school that day and the parents could not reach the girl on her phone. My young relatives phone was on his bed in his room and it appeared that clothes were missing. The dad called the police but they can’t do anything except look out for the truck and license plate at this point. This morning, there has still been no word from either of them. I have no idea if they even have any money. The young relative had been working at McDonald for a few months, but quit when school started back. The boy’s grandmother is in my ear worried sick over this (which I am too) and wants to know what will happen if they either come back or are found by the police. Does anyone have experience in this at such a young age or know what kind of trouble him and the girl would be facing?
BTW…we all live in a very rural area and the larger towns are an hour away.
