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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2016 2:08:03 GMT
I work with a woman about 55 years old - I've known her 4 years, 98% of the time she has many chin hairs and hair on her cheeks (brown not black hair) but quite a bit and very noticeable - I've never understood how she could not know it's there more often than not. She and her sister are best friends and she has 4 nieces she is very close to and husband and sons. Not sure why no one tells her - Last week she was having a coworker take pictures of her face for before and after for some face wash she is using - she came to me and said she was mortified to see the close up pictures and see she had hair on her cheeks that she never knew about. She was so embarrassed and couldn't believe it. (I wanted to say just your cheeks?) Not really
Makes me wonder how she has a perfectly smooth face about 6 times a year (for a week or so) if this was all such a surprise to her
My question is do you have that trusted person that would say something to you if you needed attention and / or would you say something to a coworker / friend. I know if I were really close to my sister I know she and I would have that understanding.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 15, 2016 2:27:25 GMT
I'd like to think my DH would tell me, but his near vision is crap now without cheaters so odds are he wouldn't see them either! I don't see any of my other friends on a regular basis in person so they're no help either. Pretty soon I'm going to break down and buy one of those big lighted magnifying mirrors so I can take care of business myself. TBH, I can *feel* those little suckers way before I can see them, and just feeling one poking out is enough to drive me to the brink of insanity if I can't go pluck it immediately.
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Post by kate on Sept 15, 2016 2:37:36 GMT
No, I don't. Not at all. DH either wouldn't see, wouldn't care, or wouldn't want to hurt my feelings. LOL
I have a dental defect due to an old injury, and it pains me a bit when people point it out. There's no perfect cosmetic solution, so it really doesn't help. I don't mind when people ask, "What happened?" but I mind very much when people point it out to me as if I didn't know.
I wonder if the facial hair is somewhat the same? Maybe she has to let it grow before she gets waxed, so has to be hairy a certain percentage of the time, or something?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2016 2:46:53 GMT
I don't know, but that makes me think of that meme of having the best friend that will delete your browser history if something happens to you, that you should have that best friend who would come in and pluck for you if you end up in a coma.  |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2016 2:51:51 GMT
Gia HAHAHA so true
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Post by cmpeter on Sept 15, 2016 3:23:01 GMT
I have a deal with DH and DD that they need to tell me if I don't notice a stay chin hair. I am good about checking now using my magnifying mirror.
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Post by secondlife on Sept 15, 2016 3:29:30 GMT
I don't have a person who I would want to tell me I had a hairy face.
There seems to be something in the girl genes I didn't get, but unless something is going on that is actively humiliating like my ass is showing or something... I don't prefer feedback on these matters.
So I also wouldn't tell someone else they had a hairy face or ask about it. If it's smooth a few times a year then she already knows and obviously it is what it is.
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Post by grove420 on Sept 15, 2016 3:34:40 GMT
Two former co-workers (and still friends) and I have a pact that when one of us dies, the other two will be first in line at the casket with a pair of tweezers to pluck any stray chin hairs.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Sept 15, 2016 3:48:28 GMT
My DH would tell me, as would my friends.
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Post by joylynaroundthebnd on Sept 15, 2016 4:00:01 GMT
DH does, and while I appreciate him telling me, I still get a little embarrassed. Crazy, I know.
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Post by Flowergirl on Sept 15, 2016 4:01:36 GMT
DD17 and I tell each other about weird things that need attention--facial hair (both of us), stinky feet (her), hair going all flippy-do (me--always), wardrobe or make up malfunctions, etc. Actually, my mom who is advancing with Alzheimer's has lots of facial fuzz, but it's not something that we would address with her at this point unless she noticed it and asked us to. I asked DD to just please take care of it for me when I'm older if I become unable to recognize I have something that needs attending. Of course, I probably wont care at that point either but she assures me she'll take care of it!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2016 4:02:59 GMT
DH does, and while I appreciate him telling me, I still get a little embarrassed. Crazy, I know. It's not crazy. I've been reading this thread and trying to decide if I want to ask my husband to let me know about such things. I think maybe I don't. But then I don't want to be all Billy Goat Gruff and not know. I'm conflicted.  |
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Post by Nink on Sept 15, 2016 4:08:12 GMT
There's a gal at work that has full sideburns and black facial hair. There's no way she could not see/know about it, but it must not be a big deal to her. The other bone density tech and I are also very good friends. We have a facial hair pact.
ETA: and I know she WOULD tell me because the other day she asked if I needed to borrow money to have my eyebrows done. Lol. They are bad at the moment.
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Post by AussieMeg on Sept 15, 2016 4:09:44 GMT
My question is do you have that trusted person that would say something to you if you needed attention and / or would you say something to a coworker / friend. I know if I were really close to my sister I know she and I would have that understanding. Yes, DSO would definitely tell me, most likely in a teasing way.... "Hey Santa Claus, it's time to shave" or soemthing like that! (I should point out that I don;t have facial hair..... yet.) DD would also tell me for sure. I have also instructed various friends to tell me if they ever see a booger hanging out of my nose. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2016 4:16:52 GMT
My dh giggles at me when he sees me going after a stray hair chin. He calls them "goat hairs!" He has promised to always tell me and assist me with the tweezing if I can't do it myself! |
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Post by femalebusiness on Sept 15, 2016 4:23:38 GMT
Some women are just clueless. If they've never worn much make-up maybe they don't know they should do anything about the facial hair. I don't understand women who wear thong sandals with big black toe hairs. If you shave your legs, shave your damn toes too.  But honestly I think it just never occurs to some women. |
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Post by tanya2 on Sept 15, 2016 5:03:00 GMT
this is what I count on my aesthetician to do! She's great about that stuff when I go for monthly facials
my dh would never notice - and i would never want him to
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Post by anniebygaslight on Sept 15, 2016 5:17:06 GMT
Two former co-workers (and still friends) and I have a pact that when one of us dies, the other two will be first in line at the casket with a pair of tweezers to pluck any stray chin hairs. Same here, although we don't do open coffins here so for us the venue is the intensive care unit, or the old folks home. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2016 5:27:34 GMT
I work with a woman about 55 years old - I've known her 4 years, 98% of the time she has many chin hairs and hair on her cheeks (brown not black hair) but quite a bit and very noticeable - I've never understood how she could not know it's there more often than not. She and her sister are best friends and she has 4 nieces she is very close to and husband and sons. Not sure why no one tells her - Last week she was having a coworker take pictures of her face for before and after for some face wash she is using - she came to me and said she was mortified to see the close up pictures and see she had hair on her cheeks that she never knew about. She was so embarrassed and couldn't believe it. (I wanted to say just your cheeks?) Not really Makes me wonder how she has a perfectly smooth face about 6 times a year (for a week or so) if this was all such a surprise to herMy question is do you have that trusted person that would say something to you if you needed attention and / or would you say something to a coworker / friend. I know if I were really close to my sister I know she and I would have that understanding. About six times a year is about every two months.... Maybe her sister or nieces talk her into going for a facial with them and hair removal is done at that time then she doesn't realize how fast it grows back in. |
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 15, 2016 5:34:55 GMT
I trust my daughters to tell me what needs telling. The important part of this bargain is to NOT be defensive when they do tell. That way they will continue to do so.
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Post by cycworker on Sept 15, 2016 6:17:00 GMT
I have a bit of facial hair; I go get it waxed every other week. It's the best I can/am willing to do. If folks want to judge me for that, so be it.
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Post by gar on Sept 15, 2016 6:31:42 GMT
My DDs have promised to tell me. I ask them to check occasionally as well, just in case they've seen something but have chickened out of telling me!!  I'm pretty vigilant though and can't really imagine it escaping my attention. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2016 7:27:57 GMT
There's a gal at work that has full sideburns and black facial hair. There's no way she could not see/know about it, but it must not be a big deal to her. The other bone density tech and I are also very good friends. We have a facial hair pact. ETA: and I know she WOULD tell me because the other day she asked if I needed to borrow money to have my eyebrows done. Lol. They are bad at the moment. |
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Post by jenjie on Sept 15, 2016 10:05:13 GMT
That's what my kids are for! They aren't afraid to tell me it's time to pluck. Of course my boys are not kind about it!
I keep meaning to leave a pair of tweezers in the car. I always see those suckers in that mirror.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 15, 2016 10:21:02 GMT
I don't have someone who would tell me about facial hair.
They wouldn't want to hurt my feelings.
Amazing how facial hair is something to feel ashamed about when you are a woman.
And for the record, I definitely have plenty of facial hair. I pluck goat hairs on my chin daily. I shave peach fuzz on my cheeks. My eyebrows are wild and it is a daily chore to tame them, and I have a thick mustache if I don't get rid of it often.
I hate the chore of ridding myself of facial hair.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Sept 15, 2016 11:17:24 GMT
I have a trusty mirror and use it often  It is lit and magnified and I use it every couple of days to make sure there is nothing horrifying going on in the chin hair dept. |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Sept 15, 2016 11:18:20 GMT
I think there's a difference in pointing out "a" stray facial hair (like a chin hair) and pointing out overall hairiness like your co-worker has.
I would not hesitate to point out the one hair to a friend as it can be easily addressed. Much the same as wanting someone to point out if you have food in your teeth or your skirt tucked into the back of your underwear. It's fixable... on the spot. And most importantly, can save you from continued embarrassment that day.
But for a more pervasive situation like the many hairs she has on both face and chin/neck, I wouldn't say anything. Especially to a co-worker.
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Post by gizzy on Sept 15, 2016 12:05:36 GMT
My DD has promised she will tell me. I hate those suckers.
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Post by secondlife on Sept 15, 2016 12:57:28 GMT
Some women are just clueless. If they've never worn much make-up maybe they don't know they should do anything about the facial hair. I don't understand women who wear thong sandals with big black toe hairs. If you shave your legs, shave your damn toes too. But honestly I think it just never occurs to some women. I've never worn much makeup, but I still don't see that women "should do anything about the facial hair" - I think they should only if they feel it important to them. I recall a few years ago there was a Sikh woman whose picture was posted on Reddit because she had a large amount of dark facial hair. I think her name was Balpreet and I remember her being very clear that your legacy is what matters and that is about inner virtue and not having a hairless face. She was very influential to me in that she reminds me that it doesn't matter if I remembered to shave my toes or not. You should if you want to, but I am not about to start removing the hair from my face. Aside from those stray wiry hairs which can be itchy and uncomfortable to me - but I don't feel embarrassed if I miss one or dont notice when they've grown in. (Sometimes I get accused of being too serious but I really do feel serious about our bodies being okay as they are - hence why I usually bristle a little against "should".) |
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Post by runner5 on Sept 15, 2016 13:05:36 GMT
this is what I count on my aesthetician to do! She's great about that stuff when I go for monthly facials my dh would never notice - and i would never want him to For the win ... eta - I had a dental cleaning right before an annual physical. This was the year I realized the dental cleaning was more traumatic as I could only imagine what my hygenist could see with her strong lights, my head forced back, etc. Fortunately she has a sense of humor, she's my age and we can joke about anything. |
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But honestly I think it just never occurs to some women.
I'm pretty vigilant though and can't really imagine it escaping my attention.
It is lit and magnified and I use it every couple of days to make sure there is nothing horrifying going on in the chin hair dept.
