Hey Feminists "The husband is the guy who's in charge....

I have a friend who believes this very much. She is southern and Christian and while I don't know if those are the reasons, I am neither and in my house, the woman is in charge .

Ha! DH would tell you I'm in charge. I'd tell youthat I agree with him! DH thinks I walk on water. I'm fine that he believes that.

DH pays the bills because he's good at it. I'm involved but have no interest in the day to day bill stuff.

My dh would be the first to say that without me he wouldn't be who he is and the great thing is that I feel the same. We are a team. No one runs the show and when one of us tries to it is like trying to help a person drowning who is chaotic and pulling you under. We just pull one another down and no one wins. 

DH refers to me as CinC House. In military terms, that's Commander in Charge of the House. He has a few things he does around here, but he's home so little and has so little to do with our day to day life that I pretty much make the decisions for the family. I'll run stuff by him if it affects him, but otherwise he just doesn't want to know.

TFS the reminder. I've been enjoying that series when I remember to see it.

It was such an interesting and also tremendously impactful time. My mom and I were just talking about how things have improved for women in general.

First, she remembers her first "office secretary" job. She told me she used to get chased around by one of the bosses, and how she felt incredibly trapped with no recourse. She had two babies to support, and she dealt with the situation as best as she could. She is thankful women (and of course men, too) are protected more these days against sexual harrassment in the workforce.

I told her I had a crappy situation with my first job as a legal secretary...at our Christmas party, the old guy from our firm, a retired judge, shoved his tongue down my throat. As a 20 year-old in the early 80s, I was petrified to do anything about it. I mean, he was a judge, and I worked at a law firm! I dealt with it.

I am happy that my daughter is living in the time frame she is now; she has options to help her if she is ever placed in a situation like the above referenced ones. I like to think my mom and I helped her become an empowered young woman after what we experienced back in the day.

Times were very different for women back then, and not all good.

That's a good description of our relationship, too.

I have a dear friend that has never said her husband is in charge, but from the things she says, he is. I believe it's part of their church teaching. It's hard to not say anything when she says "DH would never let me buy that" even when it's a simple decoration or some other little item.

I could not live like that.

Shhhh...don't tell my dh.