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Post by scrapaddict702 on Sept 22, 2016 1:20:42 GMT
As I was discussing various things with one of the school monitors (we seem to chat every morning about everything under the sun), the topic came to clearance clothing and then turned to a consignment pop up shop that I attend to stock up on things (and get rid of some things) for the kids. We chatted about how they haven't had one on our side of town in a while due to issues finding a short term lease so they keep doing repeat sales in the same location clear on the other side of town and she mentioned an area that is owned by the city on a street with lots of government buildings. She said I should suggest it to them and said they rent out the space for all sorts of things ALL the time, it has partitions so it can be used for various sized events and then randomly mentioned 'for scrapbooking groups' as the only specific type of event.
It took all of me not to squeal and start talking about scrapbooking. I chat about it with my husband and his eyes glaze over (unless I'm talking about a sale, then he tells me to shut up and just buy it so it doesn't sell out while I'm talking to him about it) and my friends and family think I'm weird for being so obsessive about it. I acted like it wasn't interesting at all and just kept on with the conversation. I don't relate well to people IRL all that well as it is, I wasn't about to go on and on about something that is seen as dumb to so many people, even if SHE mentioned it first.
Would YOU have started chatting about scrapbooking and diverted the conversation? I have a really hard time relating to people as it is, so I figured if I turned the conversation towards scrapbooking, it would have either been weird because I would have rambled forever or she might not actually be a scrapbooker and I would have been disappointed by the lead in, lol.
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 22, 2016 1:24:55 GMT
I would have turned it that way and watched to see if she was interested. Why not? I think the key is making sure the other person remains interested. If not, then pick another subject. Just like kids do out at recess.
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 22, 2016 1:26:38 GMT
This weekend I am going to a four day crop to help a friend sell page kits. I don't get paid, but it is fun to go see what other people do and create. It is in Wichita, Kansas. Plus iI need some time away from this male centric house. There will be football on the entire four days I am gone.
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Post by Mary W on Sept 22, 2016 1:30:29 GMT
I'm so desperate for a scrapbooking friend, I would have just come right out and asked her if she scrapbooks. If she doesn't, talk about something else. If she does, then there you go! She might have mentioned it because she was looking for a reaction from you to see if you scrapbook!
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Sept 22, 2016 1:38:02 GMT
I'm so desperate for a scrapbooking friend, I would have just come right out and asked her if she scrapbooks. If she doesn't, talk about something else. If she does, then there you go! She might have mentioned it because she was looking for a reaction from you to see if you scrapbook! I have a local SB friend...we haven't seen each other in over 2 years (when I told her I was pregnant with my now 18 month old daughter and saw her new house), lol. We chat on FB all the time, mostly about sales and opinions on things scrappy related, but sometimes not. It almost doesn't feel like a local friendship, but we do send each other running for sales when we find them nearby (it's nice to know I can tell her exactly where in a specific store something is or vice versa). We actually met when I was selling some PL cards in a group and she asked if we could meet up to save shipping and we lived nearby...chatted a bit and I liked her so much that I asked her if she wanted some things I was accidentally sent duplicates of from a giveaway (I don't like the idea of profiting off of a gift) and we've chatted and periodically swapped stuff ever since. She lives near where my husband's second job is so he even delivers things to her from me every few months, haha. I then found out a few months later that a YT video of hers was the inspiration for the washi storage that I went with in my room, so it really is a small world!! It would be nice to have someone to chat with, but I've found that a lot of people aren't into the big brands or don't learn about them like there is a test any day on it like I do. I'm definitely more fanatical than most people I meet who have the hobby. |
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Post by vjlau on Sept 22, 2016 1:48:31 GMT
I would have mentioned it as well. I'm also in the "desperate for a scrapping friend" group! Even if she's only into it a bit, it's still a fun conversation starter on the school yard.
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Post by grammadee on Sept 22, 2016 3:22:34 GMT
When someone mentions scrapbooking, I will ask, "Do you scrapbook?" If they respond yes, I wouldn't care if they scrapbook on old cardboard boxes or have all the latest greatest papers and trendy tools, I would talk scrapbooking with them. When I first started, I knew very little about name brands, and wondered how people could instantly name the brand of a particular paper. I used CM tools and HOTP and WRMK books of pp. The more I talked to people, both on line and in person, the more I learned. I now have a style of product I like and it isn't the same as what other people necessarily like, but I don't care. For me, it's cool just to hear what other people are doing and what products/tools/styles they are using. The best way to find that out is to ask a lot of questions. And that's a good way to start any conversation!
In this case, if I asked and she said no, I would ask why she suggested it for the pop up store? Maybe your child said something about scrapbooking? Or you made some teacher cards last year and someone mentioned it? Either way, it could start a conversation.
In fact, if you didn't ask today, and you are wondering, you could still ask her tomorrow, "Remember when you mentioned scrapbooking yesterday? Do you scrapbook?" If she says "yes", then ask about it. If you realize after you've talked to her awhile that your tastes are completely different, you don't have to end up as scrappy bff's. But it seems you already find a lot of things to talk about, so who knows?
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Sept 22, 2016 4:06:32 GMT
When someone mentions scrapbooking, I will ask, "Do you scrapbook?" If they respond yes, I wouldn't care if they scrapbook on old cardboard boxes or have all the latest greatest papers and trendy tools, I would talk scrapbooking with them. When I first started, I knew very little about name brands, and wondered how people could instantly name the brand of a particular paper. I used CM tools and HOTP and WRMK books of pp. The more I talked to people, both on line and in person, the more I learned. I now have a style of product I like and it isn't the same as what other people necessarily like, but I don't care. For me, it's cool just to hear what other people are doing and what products/tools/styles they are using. The best way to find that out is to ask a lot of questions. And that's a good way to start any conversation! In this case, if I asked and she said no, I would ask why she suggested it for the pop up store? Maybe your child said something about scrapbooking? Or you made some teacher cards last year and someone mentioned it? Either way, it could start a conversation. In fact, if you didn't ask today, and you are wondering, you could still ask her tomorrow, "Remember when you mentioned scrapbooking yesterday? Do you scrapbook?" If she says "yes", then ask about it. If you realize after you've talked to her awhile that your tastes are completely different, you don't have to end up as scrappy bff's. But it seems you already find a lot of things to talk about, so who knows? Great suggestions. Socializing isn't a strong suit for me. This is helpful! Thanks! |
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Post by LisaDV on Sept 22, 2016 10:20:44 GMT
When someone mentions scrapbooking, I will ask, "Do you scrapbook? Yep, But then you have to find what's the comfy spot of conversation. There are scrapbookers, and there are Peas. Peas get it! They think it. They breathe it. lol. I would feel the other person out without relaying that I'm completely obsessed unless the person is also obsessed. KWIM? |
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Post by sleepingbooty on Sept 22, 2016 13:01:04 GMT
As a rule, anything even vaguely brought up by any participant in a conversation is subject to detour or complete change of direction of what we're talking about. Or that's how I see it at least.  I probably would have jumped on the mention of scrapbooking. "Oh, scrapbooking! Do you or someone you know scrapbook?" And voilà, off you are. If the answer is a no and it was just something she randomly mentioned, you can just steer the conversation elsewhere again. "I just asked because it's one of my hobbies. What a funny coincidence you brought it up though! So, do you do anything creative in your free time?" And you pick up again from wherever their answer leaves you two at. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2016 9:43:48 GMT
I agree with grammadee. I would say "I am a scrapbooker. I didn't know about those events. Thank you for telling me. Do you scrapbook?" I am very shy in real life. I do always try to start a conversation. Even if they don't scrapbook they might bring up another hobby. I know a lot of people nowadays are very shy, social anxiety, don't feel like they can live up to an Instagram feed. They just don't have anybody to talk to about their hobbies. They might also have the family members who say hurtful things about their hobbies like "Wish I had the time." I know us Peas have heard that one a few times. "I wish I had money to waste on that." A casual friend or acquaintance might feel very shy about their hobby and not bring it up to anyone. Trust me a casual friend can turn into your best scrapping buddy.  |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Sept 23, 2016 13:16:19 GMT
I met a pea ( acd) at my last crop. She's also a refugee from SC. I wasn't paying attention and just heard "pea" and raised my hand. There were about 80 scrappers in the room. We walked around the room looking for other peas. We found one former that gave the stink face when we mentioned the peas, so obviously she was not a fan! 😁 I was lucky to meet 2 scrapbookers at work. One is a few years younger than me and does traditional DPL. The other is in her 20s and scraps 8.5x11 in a more Smashbook style. Both are single ladies so not the typical scrapping for the kids. |
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Post by nitad on Sept 23, 2016 16:54:31 GMT
When someone mentions scrapbooking, I will ask, "Do you scrapbook? Yep, But then you have to find what's the comfy spot of conversation. There are scrapbookers, and there are Peas. Peas get it! They think it. They breathe it. lol. I would feel the other person out without relaying that I'm completely obsessed unless the person is also obsessed. KWIM? We are not obsessed....we are passionate!! |
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Post by mikklynn on Sept 23, 2016 17:34:40 GMT
I'm so desperate for a scrapbooking friend, I would have just come right out and asked her if she scrapbooks. If she doesn't, talk about something else. If she does, then there you go! She might have mentioned it because she was looking for a reaction from you to see if you scrapbook! I'm definitely more fanatical than most people I meet who have the hobby.We are all fanatics, or we wouldn't be here . |
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Post by cmpeter on Sept 24, 2016 3:07:10 GMT
I would have totally asked her if she scrapped...never pass up the opportunity to meet a new scrapbooker!
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Oct 1, 2016 11:27:37 GMT
She does! We are going to Utah today to the AC WH sale and I mentioned it. No chance to really get into it as some kids were misbehaving and she had to address it, but hopefully we can discuss more later. |
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Post by FurryP on Oct 1, 2016 23:17:01 GMT
She does! We are going to Utah today to the AC WH sale and I mentioned it. No chance to really get into it as some kids were misbehaving and she had to address it, but hopefully we can discuss more later.  Yay for you! Have fun in Utah Save |
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