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Post by kelly316 on Aug 7, 2014 23:38:23 GMT
Or is it just me? I've been trying to lose a few pounds and I've planned what to wear. This weekend will be the first time I've had to be around him in a few months. My son has a game and I'm dreading seeing the ex. I don't know why I care what I look like. I wanted the divorce AND I don't want him back. Anyone?
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Post by YooHoot on Aug 7, 2014 23:40:28 GMT
I think it's natural, showing him what he missed out on. More like a "pretty" version of the middle finger!
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Post by susans sister on Aug 7, 2014 23:43:05 GMT
I don't have an xDH, but I do have a few XBF floating around town. I always look the very best I can when I leave the house in case I run into one of them. Hopefully your X will eat his heart out when he sees you looking so good. Looking good is the best revenge.
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Post by momofkandn on Aug 7, 2014 23:44:31 GMT
Even if you you don't him back, your ego would feel good if he wants you back. Or you want him to see how much better you are without him.
I've done the same thing. I think it's perfectly normal. I've been separated for a year and definitely do not want him back. But when I know I'm going to see him, I'll take a minute to make sure I don't look like frumpy mom.
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 7, 2014 23:56:51 GMT
No...but we have been divorced for a really long time. These days? He is welcome to see the pony-tail, yoga pants (on an ass that clearly doesn't do yoga) and no make up me. He watched me give birth to two kids so I figure I really can't hide much from him.  |
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Post by amom23 on Aug 8, 2014 0:23:07 GMT
No XDH, but I have an XBF I run into every now and then. You bet I wanna look my very best. It's my way of saying piss on you, my life is great.  |
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Post by Yubon Peatlejuice on Aug 8, 2014 0:45:57 GMT
Hell no
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Post by ladygodiva on Aug 8, 2014 1:15:03 GMT
Yes. I think it's only natural to show your good side. It gives a visual " look what you gave up" and "look how great I'm doing". When you look good, you feel good and you project self confidence .
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 1:39:14 GMT
Yup....even after 9 years. He left for my "hotter " best friend....she isn't' hot any more so I do make sure I'm not in PJ's whenever he picks up DS.
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Post by J u l e e on Aug 8, 2014 2:16:46 GMT
I never ever see my ex-husband. He's in another country. And that is fabulous!
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Post by SallyPA on Aug 8, 2014 4:30:57 GMT
Nope. I don't give 2 shits. My kids are 9 and 11. He comes over all the time to see the kids (he lives 3 hours away), we spend many holidays and birthdays and the like together. We've shared campers, hotel rooms, etc. We were married for 13 years; he sure saw me in sweats and yoga pants during that time without a bra or makeup and grungy hair. So he can see it now. I don't aim to please him anymore and don't really care what he thinks lol.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 4:47:54 GMT
I never have to see my ex, and I am eternally grateful for that. But if I did, I really wouldn't care what he thought.
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Post by kelly316 on Aug 10, 2014 1:35:32 GMT
I'm glad I'm not the only one.
Needmysanity- I'm sorry that happened to you years ago.
I survived the game today. He texted me later in the day and told me I looked pretty. Gross! Mission accomplished!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2014 1:43:00 GMT
M'eh, I don't really care anymore. I'm easily 30 pounds lighter than his gf. I used to get texts from him no matter what I wore. Too bad she didn't catch him. He finally knocked that off.
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Post by ScrapsontheRocks on Aug 10, 2014 6:52:06 GMT
I'm glad I'm not the only one. Needmysanity- I'm sorry that happened to you years ago. I survived the game today. He texted me later in the day and told me I looked pretty. Gross! Mission accomplished! I am glad for you. In (belated) answer to your question- anything that makes you feel good/ more yourself is the way to go. Living well is the best "revenge", for want of a better word, and if looking good is part of that, go for it! |
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Post by transprntbutterfly on Aug 10, 2014 16:52:58 GMT
No. I don't try to look good for the ex. I really don't care what he thinks and haven't in a very long time. Besides that, I seldom see him and like it that way.
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Post by valincal on Aug 10, 2014 17:49:45 GMT
I survived the game today. He texted me later in the day and told me I looked pretty. Gross! Mission accomplished! That made me laugh! |
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