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Post by sbartist on Aug 7, 2014 23:56:05 GMT
I have been estranged from my brother and his family for about a year now, for many reasons.
Yesterday, a bouquet of flowers was delivered for my birthday today. Keep in mind that they almost didn't arrive because for the second time (and yes, the first time I notified them of this) they were delivered to our home. We live in a condo in a secured building, plus we are not home during the work week, so no way for them to be delivered to our home. Not to mention, they put down my husband's old cell number, which was actually his work cell number. We do have a current land line number they could have used and previously have. Apparently, the floral delivery person called the old cell number and of course the person who now has that number is still an employee with a division of the company my husband transferred to. That employee emailed my husband, and in-turn, my husband called the floral delivery guy and gave him my work address, so the bouquet was rerouted to my work.
I am in the process of writing a handmade thank you card. Unfortunately, I really don't have anything other to say than just a simple thank you, which fills only one-half of the card:
Dear ___ family: Thank you all for the surprise of beautiful flowers for my birthday. Very thoughtful of you to think of me. Hope you are all doing well as school winds up again (my brother is a principal, SIL a teacher, and my nieces are school aged).
What else could I possibly say to fill up the card a little more?
Don't really want to say anything about us, because if they really cared, we would not be estranged. |
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Post by airforcemomof1 on Aug 8, 2014 0:19:40 GMT
Could you elaborate more on the flowers? Were they your favorites, your favorite color? Was the vase exceptionally nice? Maybe say how they will brighten your desk, etc.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 0:21:31 GMT
Could you elaborate more on the flowers? Were they your favorites, your favorite color? Was the vase exceptionally nice? Maybe say how they will brighten your desk, etc. I like this suggestion. Add in one sentence about the flowers, and I think your card is complete. Maybe sending you flowers for your birthday is their way of reaching out to you. |
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Post by sbartist on Aug 8, 2014 0:32:36 GMT
Thank you for the suggestions. I was kind of beyond the point of writing about the flowers after I made the school comment. Our mom and aunt are coming to visit in September, so I went that route!
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 8, 2014 0:38:28 GMT
Maybe they were trying to be less estranged?
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Post by styxgirl on Aug 8, 2014 0:41:59 GMT
Write that really big?
It was a nice gesture ... Perhaps an olive branch?
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Post by theboydbunch on Aug 8, 2014 1:00:49 GMT
Could you elaborate more on the flowers? Were they your favorites, your favorite color? Was the vase exceptionally nice? Maybe say how they will brighten your desk, etc. I like this suggestion. Add in one sentence about the flowers, and I think your card is complete. Maybe sending you flowers for your birthday is their way of reaching out to you.  |
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Post by sbartist on Aug 8, 2014 1:03:40 GMT
I'm am sure it is them reaching out. Honestly, they (more like my SIL) owes our dad a huge apology. They are estranged as well. So it is not just me.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2014 1:52:54 GMT
Are you open to having a better relationship with them? Unless there was abuse involved maybe you can start over and try. Also for some people their love language is gifts. They show love by giving gifts. It's not my love language and took me forever to figure this out. But they are trying. Perhaps you can too.
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Post by librarylady on Aug 8, 2014 2:21:09 GMT
Could you elaborate more on the flowers? Were they your favorites, your favorite color? Was the vase exceptionally nice? Maybe say how they will brighten your desk, etc. That....... |
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Post by caro on Aug 8, 2014 2:32:37 GMT
Sounds like a nice way to reach out to you. I would describe the flowers and tell them how it brightened your day.
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