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Post by iamkristinl16 on Oct 7, 2016 14:28:11 GMT
I am selling something on a Facebook group. I had one person (A) immediately send me a message asking if I would take $10 less. This person has said she wanted four other items of mine, offered less, and then just disappears with no other comment about changing her mind, etc. So, I don't really trust her when she says she wants something. I told A that I wasn't going to lower the price at this time. In the meantime, someone else offered full price and said she could meet this weekend or Monday. Lady A now says that she can pay full price and meet Tuesday. I told her that I had someone who was going to meet sooner but if that fell through I would let her know. She then says "I thought I was first to comment." I replied that she was first to comment but not first to be able to pick up and I wasn't sure how serious she was since there have been other items that she has said she wanted but didn't actually buy. Her reply was that if she knew it was first to pick up she would have had someone else meet me for her.
So, should I tell her that if someone can pick it up sooner, she is first in line? Or just keep it as is? It is a slightly higher priced item and ultimately I want to sell it but don't want to piss anyone off, either.
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Post by myshelly on Oct 7, 2016 14:29:58 GMT
I wouldn't give Lady A a second thought.
You flake on me I don't deal with you again.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 7, 2016 14:31:00 GMT
I wouldn't give Lady A a second thought. You flake on me I don't deal with you again. exactly this. |
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Post by agengr2004 on Oct 7, 2016 14:31:37 GMT
She wasn't the first person to meet your terms so don't feel bad. Had she immediately agreed to full price after you declined her offer then yes, it should go to her. But she didn't so...
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Post by cannes on Oct 7, 2016 14:33:59 GMT
She might have been the first to comment, but her comment indicated she wasn't willing to pay the posted price. Therefore, she wasn't really first in line because she wasn't willing to meet your terms. The fact that she's flaked on you before is just reinforcement.
The first person to comment that they are willing to meet the terms of your offer gets it. I'd leave it as is.
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Post by jennyap on Oct 7, 2016 14:36:55 GMT
What they all said ^^^
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Post by Gingergirl on Oct 7, 2016 14:37:56 GMT
I agree with the others. She was the first to comment but she immediately offered less. I would go with the second person.
I think I would block her so she can't see your posts. She seems like too much trouble.
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Post by bigbundt on Oct 7, 2016 14:39:04 GMT
What are the terms of the group? I know the sales groups I am a part of have a specific set of rules with regards to this, both for the seller and the buyer. Buyers usually can't claim an item for infinity just because they commented first.
Even if she is the first to comment, she made an offer that wasn't accepted. That usually frees you to sell it to someone else. If she has done this on four separate occasions I would report her to the admin of the group and block her from seeing your sale posts.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Oct 7, 2016 14:40:19 GMT
I agree with the others. She was the first to comment but she immediately offered less. I would go with the second person. I think I would block her so she can't see your posts. She seems like too much trouble. I had thought about that after the last time but didn't. I hate to turn her away if the other person ends up backing out, but history told me that she wasn't serious. She always asks for a lower price. Two of the times I did agree to the lower price and she still left me hanging after messaging back and forth. |
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Post by miominmio on Oct 7, 2016 14:45:48 GMT
I agree with the others. She was the first to comment but she immediately offered less. I would go with the second person. I think I would block her so she can't see your posts. She seems like too much trouble. I had thought about that after the last time but didn't. I hate to turn her away if the other person ends up backing out, but history told me that she wasn't serious. She always asks for a lower price. Two of the times I did agree to the lower price and she still left me hanging after messaging back and forth. ^^^ I would block her from now on. She didn't agree on your terms, so she really isn't first in line. And even if she had been, flaking on you four times is more than enough reason to tell her "no". |
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Post by Gingergirl on Oct 7, 2016 14:49:37 GMT
I had a lady offer me 1/2 of what I priced an item. She wanted me to call her. I did and had to hear her story of why she could only pay that much. I felt bad and said sure I'd let her have it for that price. Asked her where she wanted to meet then she tells me she can't drive asks if I can bring it to her. So I was getting less money than I wanted plus she wanted me to deliver.
I did not go through with that sale and I think that was the last thing I posted for sale. Too much trouble.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Oct 7, 2016 14:49:58 GMT
When you responded that you were not taking offers at this time, any dealing was over and she went to the end of the line. Because she did not offer full price until after the other person means that she is actually 2nd in line now.
I agree with the others, block her. Life is too short to deal with flakes.
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Post by Peamac on Oct 7, 2016 15:44:56 GMT
What are the rules for that Facebook group? I'm in several groups like that and all have different rules for who gets first dibs- first to comment, first to show up with money, etc. Some also have rules about how long to wait after someone flakes, if you should notify the admin when someone flakes, etc. If this same person has flaked on you before, I'd let the admin know, since she's probably doing it to others in the group also. I wouldn't feel bad for not letting her buy it, and I'd restate the group rules to her if they say anything about flaking or trying to get a cheaper price. ETA- Nevermind- bigbundt already said it better! |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 7, 2016 15:52:21 GMT
First person who offers full price gets first dibs. The fact that they can meet sooner than the other flaky buyer is a bonus.
And I agree with the others who say block her from now on.
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Post by Prenticekid on Oct 7, 2016 16:05:12 GMT
I agree that you should check your rules/guidelines so that you can use them to back you up. Otherwise, you are obligated to take the first reply agreeing to the full price. Technically, your person A was second replying with the full price as long as you didn't agree to hold the item if she came up with more money. Her first contact was simply a question. FWIW, my group is very specific that it is the first person to reply and agree to the full price. If anyone could reply first with a lower offer and have you be obligated to them, then everyone would do it, kwim? The rules of my group are specifically designed to minimize back and forth haggling and flaking.
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Post by littlemama on Oct 7, 2016 16:08:07 GMT
Person A said I want the item at $10 less
You said, no, I am not lowering the price, effectively declining her offer
Person B said I want the item at full price.
You accepted Person B's offer because at this time, you do not have any other offers ahead of hers.
Person A then made a second offer of full price.
Person B was the first to make an offer that met the terms of the sale.
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Post by Anita on Oct 7, 2016 16:13:46 GMT
If there was no agreement to purchase between you, she has no leg to stand on. I'd definitely block her. I hate flakes.
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Post by leftturnonly on Oct 7, 2016 16:34:01 GMT
First person through the store door who does not actually buy the item for sale at that time has no claim on that item.
This is no different.
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Post by papersilly on Oct 7, 2016 16:40:26 GMT
the minute someone flakes, I move on to the next person too. it's not fair to the others who are willing to pay more and complete the transaction.
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Post by Bitchy Rich on Oct 7, 2016 16:50:10 GMT
Obviously all FB sale boards have the exact same flakes. I sell on ours and have the same problems. I don't mind holding items for a couple days but NO WAY does a known flake get any hold time. You have been burned by her before, and she has shown that she doesn't have any consideration.
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Post by pierkiss on Oct 7, 2016 17:09:20 GMT
Forget her, she'll probably back out on you again at the last minute. Go with lady B, and finish the sale. Don't feel guilty. Besides, it's not 1st offer of any kind wins, her first offer was less than asking. You are allowed to say no to that. Next offer was for full price and you accepted. Done and done.
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Post by breetheflea on Oct 7, 2016 17:15:45 GMT
Our local facebook selling group you have to take buyers in order, which I think is really dumb since I just want the stuff gone, not be flaked out on by 6 people before getting to one who shows up.
I also had one that wanted me to drive to her side of town (20 miles) to deliver the item...um no. I broke the rules and skipped her!
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Post by blue tulip on Oct 7, 2016 17:26:19 GMT
go with lady 2, and I would tell lady A why (expressed interest before and flaked). then, block lady A from seeing your posts so you don't have to deal with her again.
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Post by SabrinaP on Oct 7, 2016 17:33:23 GMT
Our rules are that the first person to respond with a full price offer gets it. A person can choose to take lower.
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