are children accomplishments of their parents?

I don't know...ask me again in 16 years or so when she (should) graduate college

Really, though, her accomplishments are just that -- hers. I don't take credit if she scores a goal or gets a gold star or whatever. That's hers. Not mine.

I don't have kids, but I do have parents-- so:

I don't know how my parents would answer this, but as their child, I DEFINITELY believe they helped mold me into the person I am today, and that I wouldn't be where I am today with any of my accomplishments, education, etc. without their encouragement, assistance, and the opportunities I had in life by virtue of being part of our family and being their child.

No, my accomplishments themselves are not theirs, but they have played a part in what allowed me to do the accomplishing.

I think it's really a complex question.  Who I turned out to be most definitely was influenced by the parents I had.  Likewise, I think we all strive hard to be the best parents we can for our children because yes, it makes a difference.  It's harder to overcome a crappy childhood and turn out into a good, productive person, it's entirely possible, though.  But having said that, sometimes you can do everything right and still watch your child make bad choices that you don't support.  So honestly, if I can raise them to be good, productive adults then I have done my job.  But do I think I should take credit for their accomplishments, not really.  Just like I know I'm doing my job raising them to the best of my ability and I will try not to beat myself up or call myself a failure if they screw up.

It is very hard to not take my boys' failures as my own at times. Over the years you pore so much of yourself into your children. When they don't live up to their potential you start to wonder if you did something wrong along the way.

Ultimately, my boys' accomplishments or failures are truly their own.

I think my kids' accomplishments belong to them, but I'm proud of them all the same.

For me, I feel more free to be proud of their accomplishments than of my own. Isn't that strange? When I do something well I feel the need to deflect compliments and spread the praise around. When my kids do something well, I'm happy to just acknowledge their big accomplishment.

Same here

All three of my children are different from each other. They all have different goals, accomplishments and drive. I raised all three of them but they are not me and I am not them.

I'm very proud of them but their accomplishments are their achievements not mine.

I had a goal with my kids... to raise them to be ethical hardworking upstanding citiizens.  I feel like I did accomplish that so to a degree they are my accomplishments. And, yes, I'd feel a sense of having failed if they had turned out otherwise. 

I used to tell them that after they were 18 their life was fully theirs to do with as they wished. Before 18 I had a responsibility to them to make sure they reached 18 with a good foundation to build their adulthood on.

But, what THEY have accomplished in terms of awards, kudos, promotions, accolates or whatever measurement is THEIR accomplishment.

I somehow feel both ways about this... It annoys me to no end when my mom uses our accomplishments to brag about herself, when I probably would have been better off being raised by wolves. Because I feel like I had to work twice as hard just to be able to function as a normal human being, so don't you dare claim any of the credit, lady. Ahem. Mommy issues.

Conversely, my ultimate goal in life is to raise happy, well-adjusted, kind children. So, it's not that I count my children as accomplishments... I don't know, maybe I do? It's more that I take validation from their successes... that maybe I'm doing better for them than my parents did for me. Maybe I'm not irreparably screwing them up. Maybe devoting 30+ years of my life to them will have some benefit.

My dd's make me very proud in many ways but I, in no way, take credit for their accomplishments ... a child needs to be able to take credit for what they do in order for them to feel that sense of accomplishment   

I embrace the concept that my childrens' accomplishments belong to them, but have a hard time separating their failures from myself.

Nope. I feel like I raised him the best way I knew how and tried to give him the tools and ethics he would need to become a productive member of society and a decent and caring human being. Once he became an adult he is his own person. One I'm proud of to be sure, but his accomplishments are his and his alone. He worked hard to achieve them.

My son's accomplishments are his own.

One of my accomplishments includes being a good mother. I was not perfect but I give it my all.

My husband and I believe education is important. Our son is bright and we have invested a lot of capital to insure he got the best education we could provide so that he has opportunities that we didn't have.

I will admit to thinking "wow, I made that" when watching my DD do gymnastics or dance. I guess because, I did, you know? Those lovely feet and legs, that expressive, beautiful face- I made that! From like, almost scratch! I grew and nurtured this person who is so lovely to watch on stage, with a body that does so many amazing things, and it really is amazing to me. I am proud of that, and of her, though her accomplishments are hers I suppose it's me being proud I supplied the raw ingredients, lol. Or not so much proud as awestruck a bit, over what she can do.

I do feel my childrens academic accomplishments are a reflection on me, but we home school so I think that is natural. I am less quick to take credit for the successes than the failures, I don't really know why. At this point (13 and 16) it's a matter of having given them the tools to use themselves, and seeing if they can.

I have seen kids with terrible parents do great things, and kids with every opportunity tank, so I know it is really up to the individual child to sink or swim. Despite this, I do feel it's a reflection on me, how they turn out.