zella
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Post by zella on Oct 15, 2016 22:48:28 GMT
I'd be pealivid.
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Post by Nink on Oct 15, 2016 22:49:28 GMT
Holy crap! I'm thankful your kids are okay, but yeah, I'd be pissed too.
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Post by KelleeM on Oct 15, 2016 22:51:48 GMT
Wow. I can't imagine how angry I'd be.
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Post by YooHoot on Oct 15, 2016 22:52:09 GMT
You left without telling your niece you were leaving? And that your husband was going too? I don't know that I would be upset with her if she didn't know you both had left.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Oct 15, 2016 22:52:50 GMT
My niece came by with her 2 kids this morning having issues with my sister (they live together). After leaving them here alone for a while to do the things we planned to do, we came home and put the younger 2 to bed for their nap. My husband and I took our oldest (who no longer naps) to Walmart to grab some groceries. When we got home the house was really quiet and I just figured everyone had laid back down (her kids were sleeping when we got home the first time but the oldest woke up as we were leaving). About 5 minutes ago (we've been home about 30 minutes now) I get a text from my niece thanking me for letting her come over, that she left clothes here and would be back for them later and that she left to take her estranged husband to work. In other words, she fucking left my 19 month old and 3 1/2 year old children in the fucking house ALONE!!!! I texted her back immediately 'omg, you left my kids home alone?' and she replied back with she assumed my husband was here sleeping. Not only did she leave them here alone, the front door was unlocked because she doesn't have a key to our house. WHO THE FUCK LEAVES A HOUSE WITH 2 VERY YOUNG KIDS ASSUMING THERE IS ANOTHER ADULT IN THE HOUSE AND LEAVES THE HOUSE UNLOCKED ON TOP OF IT, ADULT HOME OR NOT??? I wouldn't leave and not try and at least say something to the adult I think is there...especially with kids in the house. I'm all sorts of livid. She was in a fight with my sister over her estranged husband and came here for help. She literally scooped them up in PJ's without shoes and came over. We fed the youngers breakfast and CLOTHED her kids, let her use our diapers and stuff while she was here because she didn't even have those and she thanks us by abandoning my kids. My husband was left alone with DS and he was passed out drunk. I nearly killed him I was so mad. Your situation is worse. I would have screamed the house down. You're better than I am! |
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Oct 15, 2016 22:53:06 GMT
Oh I'd be livid.
Sounds like there's good reason she having problems--she creates them.
OMG 😲 how irresponsible!!!
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Post by cindyupnorth on Oct 15, 2016 22:55:34 GMT
Yea, I'm not following how she didn't know you all left? didn't you tell her?
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Post by scrappychick on Oct 15, 2016 22:56:18 GMT
That sucks, but why on earth did you both leave the house without making sure she knew it?
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Oct 15, 2016 22:59:00 GMT
You left without telling your niece you were leaving? And that your husband was going too? I don't know that I would be upset with her if she didn't know you both had left. We mentioned it to her when we got home and were putting the kids to bed (her kids were in my kids' beds and we were trying to find alternate places for them to sleep...mostly the 19 month old because there is only 1 crib in the house now and we didn't know where to put her without risk of her rolling off of wherever we put her). |
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Oct 15, 2016 23:02:38 GMT
I'm just glad I didn't get the text message while we were still gone.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2016 23:04:18 GMT
This is confusing. You were home for 30 minutes before you realized she and her two kids were no longer there and only realized that when you got her text? If you didn't know she wasn't still there, how can you be mad at her for not knowing one of you wasn't still there?
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Post by myshelly on Oct 15, 2016 23:06:05 GMT
You left without telling your niece you were leaving? And that your husband was going too? I don't know that I would be upset with her if she didn't know you both had left. We mentioned it to her when we got home and were putting the kids to bed (her kids were in my kids' beds and we were trying to find alternate places for them to sleep...mostly the 19 month old because there is only 1 crib in the house now and we didn't know where to put her without risk of her rolling off of wherever we put her). I'm still not understanding. Did you ask her to babysit? Did she agree? It sounds like there was miscommunication. No, she shouldn't have left without seeing an adult and she shouldn't have left the door unlocked, but I can't imagine leaving my kids without having a very explicit conversation along the lines of "we're going to Walmart, we'll be back in an hour, we have our cell phones if you need us, Suzy likes milk when she wakes up, etc." |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2016 23:06:34 GMT
She obviously was an idiot but it doesn't sound like there was great communication from your side either.
I'd be pissed, but I also wouldn't leave my kid(s) with someone else without making it clear they were in charge until I got back.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2016 23:06:58 GMT
I'm all kinds of confused. You said you left "them alone" but then get mad when your niece left "them alone". Who does "them" refer to in each instance?
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Oct 15, 2016 23:10:06 GMT
This is confusing. You were home for 30 minutes before you realized she and her two kids were no longer there and only realized that when you got her text? If you didn't know she wasn't still there, how can you be mad at her for not knowing one of you wasn't still there? When we left, there was an adult awake, in the loft. We told her we were leaving again (just not right when we walked out the door). When she left, she saw no one. I just want to delete this and be over it. I was furious, absolutely furious...but clearly she and I have vastly different ways of leaving someone else's home and I can see this being picked apart and turned into my fault when it wasn't. |
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Post by ~summer~ on Oct 15, 2016 23:10:21 GMT
I'm also confused.
If you didn't tell her when you were leaving and if you didn't ask if she could watch them I don't think you can be upset. Sounds like there was a bunch of assuming going on on both sides.
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Oct 15, 2016 23:11:15 GMT
I'm all kinds of confused. You said you left "them alone" but then get mad when your niece left "them alone". Who does "them" refer to in each instance? Them bolded = my niece and her children. |
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Oct 15, 2016 23:11:46 GMT
I'm also confused. If you didn't tell her when you were leaving and if you didn't ask if she could watch them I don't think you can be upset. Sounds like there was a bunch of assuming going on on both sides. After mommy fury died down...this is my conclusion as well. |
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Post by YooHoot on Oct 15, 2016 23:13:32 GMT
I'm also confused. If you didn't tell her when you were leaving and if you didn't ask if she could watch them I don't think you can be upset. Sounds like there was a bunch of assuming going on on both sides. After mommy fury died down...this is my conclusion as well. Yeah, sometimes we just have to sit back and take a breather to see things rationally. |
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Oct 15, 2016 23:15:19 GMT
After mommy fury died down...this is my conclusion as well. Yeah, sometimes we just have to sit back and take a breather to see things rationally. I still don't get why you'd leave someone's home without attempting to say goodbye or let them know you're leaving (which to me would have avoided the whole thing). Just walking out is a very strange concept to me. Could very well be a generational thing. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2016 23:17:39 GMT
Yeah, sometimes we just have to sit back and take a breather to see things rationally. I still don't get why you'd leave someone's home without attempting to say goodbye or let them know you're leaving (which to me would have avoided the whole thing). Just walking out is a very strange concept to me. Could very well be a generational thing. It sounds like she thought everyone in the house was sleeping, so maybe that's why she left without saying anything and sent the follow up text a bit later. |
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Oct 15, 2016 23:23:31 GMT
I still don't get why you'd leave someone's home without attempting to say goodbye or let them know you're leaving (which to me would have avoided the whole thing). Just walking out is a very strange concept to me. Could very well be a generational thing. It sounds like she thought everyone in the house was sleeping, so maybe that's why she left without saying anything and sent the follow up text a bit later. I could see this. Our room door was shut, but we had been up there earlier in the morning (when I was trying to fish out clothes that would fit her kids and get my 3 dressed for the pumpkin patch) and kept having to close our door every time someone went in and forgot to close it on the way out because we didn't want her kids getting into anything in there...it's all new and fascinating to her 2, it's not exciting to mine because they're in there every day. Her son is into EVERYTHING...even getting his head stuck in the railing while he was here, giving her a repeat performance of what I went through thinking I was going to have the call the fire department the first day I babysat him last year (took me a solid 30 minutes and trying to saw off the railing to realize he had slithered his body through the rails but his head wouldn't fit rather than he had gotten his head through and his body was stuck...I'm still kind of traumatized by that experience, but it was comical today because I knew how he managed it). |
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Post by ~summer~ on Oct 15, 2016 23:31:23 GMT
Yeah, sometimes we just have to sit back and take a breather to see things rationally. I still don't get why you'd leave someone's home without attempting to say goodbye or let them know you're leaving (which to me would have avoided the whole thing). Just walking out is a very strange concept to me. Could very well be a generational thing. I agree with that. It's rude to just leave. But maybe she thought he was asleep or you guys were busy  |
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Post by georgiapea on Oct 15, 2016 23:40:04 GMT
A sleeping person is NEVER an appropriate caregiver of children. Your niece had a responsibility to make sure someone was awake before leaving the house with the door unlocked. She sounds like a very irrisponsible person.
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Post by used2scrap on Oct 15, 2016 23:41:38 GMT
She was stressed out over estranged husband/sister fight, kids in pjs no shoes, so you left her your kids and went to Walmart? Did you tell her she was babysitting or did you just leave and assume she knew she was on duty? Sounds like miscommunication on your part not irresponsibility on her part.
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Post by used2scrap on Oct 15, 2016 23:42:13 GMT
A sleeping person is NEVER an appropriate caregiver of children. Your niece had a responsibility to make sure someone was awake before leaving the house with the door unlocked. She sounds like a very irrisponsible person. You do know parents sleep right? |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2016 23:46:10 GMT
A sleeping person is NEVER an appropriate caregiver of children. Your niece had a responsibility to make sure someone was awake before leaving the house with the door unlocked. She sounds like a very irrisponsible person. Of awake children, sure. But a sleeping parent and sleeping kids happens every night. Nap time isn't really any different - "sleep when the baby sleeps" is one of the most common pieces of advice for new parents for a reason. |
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Post by myshelly on Oct 15, 2016 23:48:12 GMT
Yeah, sometimes we just have to sit back and take a breather to see things rationally. I still don't get why you'd leave someone's home without attempting to say goodbye or let them know you're leaving (which to me would have avoided the whole thing). Just walking out is a very strange concept to me. Could very well be a generational thing. Ummm but didn't you walk out without going to tell her you were all leaving? |
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Oct 15, 2016 23:58:13 GMT
I still don't get why you'd leave someone's home without attempting to say goodbye or let them know you're leaving (which to me would have avoided the whole thing). Just walking out is a very strange concept to me. Could very well be a generational thing. Ummm but didn't you walk out without going to tell her you were all leaving? Indeed we did when we arrived home to put the littles to sleep. |
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Post by scrapaddict702 on Oct 16, 2016 0:01:33 GMT
She was stressed out over estranged husband/sister fight, kids in pjs no shoes, so you left her your kids and went to Walmart? Did you tell her she was babysitting or did you just leave and assume she knew she was on duty? Sounds like miscommunication on your part not irresponsibility on her part. I left her sleeping kids...that is hardly work. But thanks. |
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