#holdtheline (from Glennon Doyle Melton/Momastery)

ahiller
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#holdtheline (from Glennon Doyle Melton/Momastery) Nov 10, 2016 13:34:07 GMT via mobile coaliesquirrel and used2scrap like this

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Post by ahiller on Nov 10, 2016 13:34:07 GMT

I saw this this morning and wanted to share for my liberal friends. I'm not going to tow the line either anymore. Just copying and pasting from Facebook since I am on my phone.

Hi.
It's 6:30 am. Yesterday your team and I worked hard to follow through on Holiday Hands. We weren't sure we could handle it, or if we SHOULD. We felt pissed about it, to tell you the truth. We felt like: Here we go again. Let's just take this on the effing cheek again. Let's let the country screw us, forget us and tell us we don't matter and then KEEP WORKING. Cause Love Wins! Cause that's what women dooooo! For God's sake that's getting old. I was torn. But in the end we decided that yesterday- for us- leadership looked like keeping our heads down and staying hopeful and working: so those of us in our community who needed to - could drop out and rage and cry and REST. We wanted to say to you: you can rest, knowing we won't.

Today feels different to me. Adrenaline is gone and I'm too tired to harden my heart again today. Yesterday changed me- in a true forever way. It changed my kids: I saw it in their eyes. Telling Tish that America voted into office the man she heard on TV saying the things he said about grabbing women...well, that was a low point in my life. She bawled. She understood what it meant. Then, later- before she went to bed- she looked at me and said: "Mommy- maybe he isn't that bad." And that killed me. Because that's what girls and women do, right? When a man abuses us or minimizes us or harasses us or discounts us and THE WORLD does not say: NO, that is not okay. When the world disbelieves us or takes his side - when it tells us that he is worth more than we are...In order to survive- we eventually agree. We give up. We think: maybe he's right. Maybe it's all okay. Maybe I'm not worth more than I got. Maybe I should just fall into line.

Maybe he's not that bad.

Anyway. This morning I'm just angry and so, so sad. And I just wanted to come here and say: misogyny and racism and Islamaphobia and mocking the disabled and homophobia: they really are that bad. I'm not going to fall into line: I'm GOING TO HOLD THE LINE. I accept none of it. And I am going to spend my life fighting like hell against hate and fear and division. We are tired, yes...but giving up out of exhaustion and fear is a privilege we don't have anymore. Just ask our brothers and sisters of color, who have had to fight day in and day out bloody and exhausted and discounted. My dad used to say: "Fatigue makes cowards of us all." We are not fragile and weak. We are tough as nails. We have always done the real work of the world. And we need to be in this for the long game.

Trump supporters: I am not against you. I love you. But know that this platform will be used day in and day out to fight bigotry in all its forms. If that will bother you: Unfollow now or forever hold your peace.

The love warrior fights. Not against people- but against deadly ideas that infect humanity like cancer. She fights for justice equality peace beauty: LOVE. And Good Lord: I think I know why we've spent the last decade gathering the troops. We were made for just such a time as this.

Carry On, Love Warriors.

I'm here: gathering strength. I love you. I do. Let's stay close.
G

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#holdtheline (from Glennon Doyle Melton/Momastery) Nov 10, 2016 14:47:03 GMT

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Post by Peamac on Nov 10, 2016 14:47:03 GMT

That is well-written and thought-provoking. My concern is that many will take it to the extreme of "if you don't act/talk/believe the same way I do, you're a vile racist homophobic xenophobe." A lot of us have been falsely accused of such things since the 2008 election and it's getting old.

Getting to a balance is what we need as a country, not swinging to one extreme or another. It seems like so many (politicians, media, etc) want to keep us all at odds with each other that they focus on the small percentage of reprehensible behavior (causing us to become overly defensive to the slightest hint of disagreement), rather than on the great majority of people who are kind (even when disagreeing), helpful Americans. I would hope that it wouldn't take something like 9/11 to jolt America out of all this division and back into better unity.

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#holdtheline (from Glennon Doyle Melton/Momastery) Nov 10, 2016 14:50:17 GMT via mobile

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Post by used2scrap on Nov 10, 2016 14:50:17 GMT

Nov 10, 2016 14:47:03 GMT Peamac said:

That is well-written and thought-provoking. My concern is that many will take it to the extreme of "if you don't act/talk/believe the same way I do, you're a vile racist homophobic xenophobe." A lot of us have been falsely accused of such things since the 2008 election and it's getting old.

Getting to a balance is what we need as a country, not swinging to one extreme or another. It seems like so many (politicians, media, etc) want to keep us all at odds with each other that they focus on the small percentage of reprehensible behavior (causing us to become overly defensive to the slightest hint of disagreement), rather than on the great majority of people who are kind (even when disagreeing), helpful Americans. I would hope that it wouldn't take something like 9/11 to jolt America out of all this division and back into better unity.

So called 9/11 unity got us into wars that in case no one noticed we are still fighting, and arguing about. I don't even think something 9/11 like is going to magically unite the divides in this country.

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#holdtheline (from Glennon Doyle Melton/Momastery) Nov 10, 2016 15:57:56 GMT via mobile used2scrap likes this

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Post by ahiller on Nov 10, 2016 15:57:56 GMT

Nov 10, 2016 14:47:03 GMT Peamac said:

That is well-written and thought-provoking. My concern is that many will take it to the extreme of "if you don't act/talk/believe the same way I do, you're a vile racist homophobic xenophobe." A lot of us have been falsely accused of such things since the 2008 election and it's getting old.

Getting to a balance is what we need as a country, not swinging to one extreme or another. It seems like so many (politicians, media, etc) want to keep us all at odds with each other that they focus on the small percentage of reprehensible behavior (causing us to become overly defensive to the slightest hint of disagreement), rather than on the great majority of people who are kind (even when disagreeing), helpful Americans. I would hope that it wouldn't take something like 9/11 to jolt America out of all this division and back into better unity.

If you follow Glennon at all, then you know she isn't like that. I find her writing very inspiring.

I think many people are running on fear right now, fear of losing healthcare, marriage status, a path to citizenship, etc. because the candidate himself has used language meant to scare them. People are lashing out because they are afraid and because he hasn't yet given them a reason not to be. Many of his supporters haven't either. I can only hope that in the near future, he might consider making a statement addressing some of those fears/apologizing for some of his hateful language. Until he does, it's not going to stop.

I read a tweet yesterday from a woman who said that her niece got on her bus yesterday and 3 white girls looked at her and said "Don't you belong in the back of the bus now?" One of our own peas posted on another thread about a very scary and troubling experience she had yesterday. These things are what Glennon is talking about holding he line against. Not normal everyday people. Again, I point to the candidate who made this sort of language "normal" - you wanted the chance to lead Mr. Trump, so let's hope for all of our sakes that you do in a way that benefits us all.

ETA: I just saw a tweet with video that shows white middle schoolers in a Royal Oak, Michigan (my suburban area and a pretty diverse community, meaning there are more than just white kids at that school) chanting "Build the Wall". @shaunking if you want to see it. Do we still think our kids weren't listening?

Last Edit: Nov 10, 2016 16:13:19 GMT by ahiller

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#holdtheline (from Glennon Doyle Melton/Momastery) Nov 10, 2016 16:02:52 GMT ahiller and used2scrap like this

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Post by eleezybeth on Nov 10, 2016 16:02:52 GMT

Yes! Exactly! And maybe eventually when "you" get tired of being called a bigot then "you" will decide to do something about it. Your words speak loud, your actions speak louder. I accept none of it too.

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#holdtheline (from Glennon Doyle Melton/Momastery) Nov 10, 2016 16:21:28 GMT

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Post by Peamac on Nov 10, 2016 16:21:28 GMT

Nov 10, 2016 14:50:17 GMT used2scrap said:

Nov 10, 2016 14:47:03 GMT Peamac said:

That is well-written and thought-provoking. My concern is that many will take it to the extreme of "if you don't act/talk/believe the same way I do, you're a vile racist homophobic xenophobe." A lot of us have been falsely accused of such things since the 2008 election and it's getting old.

Getting to a balance is what we need as a country, not swinging to one extreme or another. It seems like so many (politicians, media, etc) want to keep us all at odds with each other that they focus on the small percentage of reprehensible behavior (causing us to become overly defensive to the slightest hint of disagreement), rather than on the great majority of people who are kind (even when disagreeing), helpful Americans. I would hope that it wouldn't take something like 9/11 to jolt America out of all this division and back into better unity.

So called 9/11 unity got us into wars that in case no one noticed we are still fighting, and arguing about. I don't even think something 9/11 like is going to magically unite the divides in this country.

Then change it to Blizzard of the Century/Hurricane of the Century/Creepy Clowns/Feel Good Story of the Year- my comment was about something to jolt (shock, startle,wake up) us out of this focus on the division that we hear so much about in the news and show us that we are better than that disunity.

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#holdtheline (from Glennon Doyle Melton/Momastery) Nov 10, 2016 17:21:54 GMT via mobile

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Post by used2scrap on Nov 10, 2016 17:21:54 GMT

Nov 10, 2016 16:21:28 GMT Peamac said:

Nov 10, 2016 14:50:17 GMT used2scrap said:

So called 9/11 unity got us into wars that in case no one noticed we are still fighting, and arguing about. I don't even think something 9/11 like is going to magically unite the divides in this country.

Then change it to Blizzard of the Century/Hurricane of the Century/Creepy Clowns/Feel Good Story of the Year- my comment was about something to jolt (shock, startle,wake up) us out of this focus on the division that we hear so much about in the news and show us that we are better than that disunity.

My point is a lot of people think blind unity for the sake of unity was a bad idea. And no feel good story of the year is going to make me hold hands and sing kumbyeya with people supporting sexist/racist/homophobic/xenophobic ideals. This isn't a minor issue like how the toilet paper should hang for petes sake. These are not minor divisions being exposed with a magnifying glass, this is civil rights and being set back decades in the name of "greatness".