Okay I need advice on a good diet

     I agree with this 100%. First of all diets don't work. It's fairly easy to lose weight on a diet if you stick to the diet, but what happens when you reach your goal? 98% of people go back to their regular way of eating and gain back the weight they've lost and then some. I know, I've done it over and over. 

Do you want to measure portions, count calories, write down every morsel you eat, or weigh your food for the rest of your life? In order to have sustainable weight loss (keeping to the goal weight for over 2 years and more) this is what it will take if you choose those methods. Because once you stop, the weight will creep back on. 

In 3 months I'll have been on a whole foods, plant based diet (diet meaning way of eating for the rest of my life, not a temporary restriction plan to lose weight) for 4 years. I've lost 64 pounds, am down to 123 lbs on my 5 foot 3 inch frame, and my physical therapist told me 1 1/2 years ago my goal weight should be 125. So I'm made it and guess what-it was so easy! That's the best part. It's easy! No weighing, no measuring, no counting calories. The weight literally seemed to melt off and I've kept it off for over a year now. Mine came off slowly due to me being hypothyroid (slows down your metabolism), in the middle of menopause, and not being able to exercise (due to a physical injury that required surgery on my shoulder). 

But the point is it came off easily and it's staying off. I weigh myself every morning, so I can keep an eye on it. I drink wine when I visit my parent's and it goes up a pound and then comes down again. 

A whole foods, plant based diet is the most healthiest diet for every human. It's been proven again and again. My cholesterol was 220 when I began this diet, the last time I had my blood taken it'd dropped to 165! No pills, just whole foods. 

How to get started? Watch the "Forks over Knives" documentary with an open mind. It's not gory (no horrible animal abuse is shown). It basically teaches you what the standard American diet does to our bodies, why heart disease is the number one killer in the USA, and how by not eating meat and dairy products you can eat yourself (using whole food) to optimum health. Forks over Knives means being able to use your fork to cure yourself and keep yourself healthy vs. a scalpel cutting into you if you continue eating the typical American diet down the road-heart disease, and so on. Honestly I was flipping through the offerings on Netflix one day in February 2014, and just happened to come across this documentary. I sat there watching it mesmerized and astounded that losing weight could be so easy (just buy vegetables, fruits, whole grain bread and pasta, beans, nuts and so on) and skip the meat and diary. Finally the answer! 

For me going cold turkey was the best way for me to succeed. Doing that helps numb the cravings faster because instead of giving up a food gradually, you do it all at once. Within 3 weeks all of my cravings for meat and diary (even cheese) were gone-although I have to admit cheese is the hardest and lots of folks say that. But the cravings do stop. And the food on the whole foods, plant based diet is delicious! It is colorful and tastes incredible. I can eat as much food as I want-really! I feel full so much faster with whole foods, because of the way they are designed vs. processed, american diet foods. The video will help explain this too. And if you suffer from constipation kiss it goodbye. One week on this diet and you never will again. That's because you'll be getting much more fiber which is what most Americans do not get enough of. 

After you watch the video, I urge you to try it for 28 days. Anyone can do it for 28 days, right? Try it and see how you feel at the end of those 28 days. DH and I felt so much better we just kept going. 

Nowadays, they have a wonderful book for beginners called, "The Forks over Knives Plan". It takes you week by week through the first month. They didn't have it when I did it, but I wish they did. 

Also, a huge help is the "Forks over Knives Cookbook". I use this one every week. BTW, they just published a new one called "The Forks over Knives Family Cookbook" or something like that. 

Lastly there is a website www.forksoverknives.com that you can go to and there is a lot of information there including encouraging stories of other people who have traveled down this path. People who have completely reversed their high blood pressure, and diabetes.  

OP you say you can't eat right. Have you ever really tried? If you were given a clear cut plan like this, and you knew about the health benefits and how easy it was to lose weight like this (and keep it off) would you try it for 28 days? When I started I weighed 186 (which is a lot when you are only 5 foot 3 inches tall) and I had clothes in my closet from size 18, XL all the way down to size 6. That was from yo-yo dieting through the years. 5 years ago I decided to do something about my health. I gave up soda, fast food and processed food. Then in 2014 I tried whole foods, plant based eating-it was what finally worked. And it can work for you too. You just have to decide you're worth it. And my motto-"nothing tastes so good, as feeling thin feels". Nothing.