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Post by mcscrapper on Nov 27, 2016 19:21:23 GMT
I'm just not feeling festive this year so far. Not a depression or anything but just so busy I haven't had time to get in the holiday spirit. I don't want to drag all the ornaments out nor put up a tree. My tree is about 95% all Peanuts ornaments and I love them but just not feeling it this year. Plus, I don't really want to buy a dried up tree since our area has had such a huge drought this season.
I've got to take my very last final exam today or tomorrow for grad school. I graduate on 12/11 and I'm leaving for a long weekend soccer trip with my DD next weekend. Then we are headed to Orlando on 12/28 for another big soccer event. I guess I've lost all motivation to put up a tree and everything that goes with it.
Anyone else just not feeling it this year? How can I snap out of this funk?
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Post by padresfan619 on Nov 27, 2016 19:23:05 GMT
I'm not feeling it either. I am hoping getting the tree up and decorated will put me in a more festive mood. I only just started my shopping last night and I am feeling so uninspired.
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Post by Sam on Nov 27, 2016 19:30:13 GMT
I'm just not feeling festive this year so far. Not a depression or anything but just so busy I haven't had time to get in the holiday spirit. I don't want to drag all the ornaments out nor put up a tree. My tree is about 95% all Peanuts ornaments and I love them but just not feeling it this year. Plus, I don't really want to buy a dried up tree since our area has had such a huge drought this season. I've got to take my very last final exam today or tomorrow for grad school. I graduate on 12/11 and I'm leaving for a long weekend soccer trip with my DD next weekend. Then we are headed to Orlando on 12/28 for another big soccer event. I guess I've lost all motivation to put up a tree and everything that goes with it. Anyone else just not feeling it this year? How can I snap out of this funk? It's NOVEMBER still!!! You don't HAVE to feel festive at this stage - it could be that you don't until, say December 14th - who cares?? Don't snap out, just wait til it comes, otherwise you will try and force it and end up all 'bah humbug'!!! Stick up a little piece of tinsel at some stage and concentrate on the day itself - or allow DD to have free reign over decorations.
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Post by gsquaredmom on Nov 27, 2016 19:43:15 GMT
We have a 4 ft prelit tree that is very pretty even without ornaments. Last year we put it up Christmas Eve and took it down Christmas afternoon.
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Post by finaledition on Nov 27, 2016 19:49:38 GMT
We have a 4 ft prelit tree that is very pretty even without ornaments. Last year we put it up Christmas Eve and took it down Christmas afternoon. Now that's my idea of decorating! We had a toilet overflow and flood 3 bedrooms. All the contents of the bedrooms are in various parts of the room while it all dries (on a slab so big fans are helping). So the last thing I want to do is to clean this mess up and then drag out more boxes of crap to put out. In addition, we have a puppy and dealing with him and the tree may push me over the edge. We won't even be home for xmas. We put the lights up outside and i think we will call it good!
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Post by anonrefugee on Nov 27, 2016 19:52:41 GMT
LOL about it being November. So hard to remember when even the grocery store started playing carols weeks ago!
I could be a slacker or underachiever. We've had a few years where we weren't feeling it due to other commitments, fun travel. Maybe I'm blessed with flexible family but we all survived and enjoyed the other things happening. The holidays, all of them, still happen no matter what level I've reached decorating.
Last year we took a vacation size trip over Thanksgiving. We came home ready to rest, prep for finals, etc. Decorations were bare bones. I was a little disturbed because it was one kid's Senior year. It turns out it didn't matter. The kids were happy to be home relaxing and we ended up doing more family nesting things, not commercial events. I just looked at the photos and we look very happy!
I think the fluff or traditions matters to us as Moms, but the kids don't take it as seriously. In the long run we're probably benefiting them by teaching them to enjoy the moments and experiences.
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Post by LeaP on Nov 27, 2016 19:53:41 GMT
Some years you don't feel it. Go out or stay in and do something fun. The ornaments will keep until next year.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 27, 2016 20:07:23 GMT
I'm just not feeling festive this year so far. Not a depression or anything but just so busy I haven't had time to get in the holiday spirit. I don't want to drag all the ornaments out nor put up a tree. My tree is about 95% all Peanuts ornaments and I love them but just not feeling it this year. Plus, I don't really want to buy a dried up tree since our area has had such a huge drought this season. I've got to take my very last final exam today or tomorrow for grad school. I graduate on 12/11 and I'm leaving for a long weekend soccer trip with my DD next weekend. Then we are headed to Orlando on 12/28 for another big soccer event. I guess I've lost all motivation to put up a tree and everything that goes with it. Anyone else just not feeling it this year? How can I snap out of this funk? Why do you have to snap out of a funk? You are very busy right now and in the foreseeable future; it isn't a funk it is a reality of living. Create a new idea of Christmas that lets you go with this year's flow. Next year will be a different year. Next year you can drag out all the decorations, or, go with the new alternative you establish this year. I'm pulling out my tree/decorations and going full tilt on the decorating. It has been about 4 years since I've had it ALL out. Some years I put out the tree only. Other years I've put out my nativity only.. one or two years it has been just my door hanger (a metal plague type of thing). Do what makes sense to you and don't get hung up on all the decorating hype others are doing.
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Post by lesley on Nov 27, 2016 20:11:36 GMT
It's NOVEMBER still!!!You don't HAVE to feel festive at this stage - it could be that you don't until, say December 14th - who cares?? Don't snap out, just wait til it comes, otherwise you will try and force it and end up all 'bah humbug'!!! Stick up a little piece of tinsel at some stage and concentrate on the day itself - or allow DD to have free reign over decorations. This made me laugh. It was one of my mum's pet peeves, and has become one of mine. People complaining anytime before the 20th December that it doesn't feel like Christmas. That's because it ISN'T!!!
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Post by Mystie on Nov 27, 2016 20:22:03 GMT
I'm just not feeling festive this year so far. Not a depression or anything but just so busy I haven't had time to get in the holiday spirit. I don't want to drag all the ornaments out nor put up a tree. My tree is about 95% all Peanuts ornaments and I love them but just not feeling it this year. Plus, I don't really want to buy a dried up tree since our area has had such a huge drought this season. I've got to take my very last final exam today or tomorrow for grad school. I graduate on 12/11 and I'm leaving for a long weekend soccer trip with my DD next weekend. Then we are headed to Orlando on 12/28 for another big soccer event. I guess I've lost all motivation to put up a tree and everything that goes with it. Anyone else just not feeling it this year? How can I snap out of this funk? Why do you have to snap out of a funk? You are very busy right now and in the foreseeable future; it isn't a funk it is a reality of living. Create a new idea of Christmas that lets you go with this year's flow. Next year will be a different year. Next year you can drag out all the decorations, or, go with the new alternative you establish this year. I'm pulling out my tree/decorations and going full tilt on the decorating. It has been about 4 years since I've had it ALL out. Some years I put out the tree only. Other years I've put out my nativity only.. one or two years it has been just my door hanger (a metal plague type of thing). Do what makes sense to you and don't get hung up on all the decorating hype others are doing. I totally agree! Some years I get out the big tree and do it all up, and some years I do a tabletop tree, and a few years we haven't had a tree at all. Same with decor--some (most) years it's just a trinket here and there. It takes a lot of energy and sometimes I just ain't got it. I haven't decided what to do this year. I'm thinking a fresh tabletop tree so I can chuck it when the holiday is over. I did that last year and it felt freeing. :-D
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Post by used2scrap on Nov 27, 2016 20:37:31 GMT
Perhaps just put up a small pre lit tree, with one red ornament and a blue blanket at the base?
Seriously, it is ok not to feel it this early, or ever. If you are worried about kids, ask them their top priority, and let the rest go. It is ok!
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Post by beanbuddymom on Nov 27, 2016 20:37:32 GMT
I'm not either - I was...until thanksgiving when we were presented the news that we would be hosting christmas this year - I kind of expected it but I'm not too happy about it now that reality has set in.
I had planned to relax Xmas Eve with the four of us and now I'm hoping I can keep my self from not stressing out over the impending company the following day .
Plus DH is having surgery to fix a torn shoulder which is something unplanned - and will be home with me for the next month. DH is the worst patient and I'm the worst nurse when it comes to him and his crankiness so the month can't possibly be more miserable sounding filled with cleaning and cooking with him here all day every day - omg someone kill me now.
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Post by Sam on Nov 27, 2016 20:45:32 GMT
I'm not either - I was...until thanksgiving when we were presented the news that we would be hosting christmas this year - I kind of expected it but I'm not too happy about it now that reality has set in. I had planned to relax Xmas Eve with the four of us and now I'm hoping I can keep my self from not stressing out over the impending company the following day . Plus DH is having surgery to fix a torn shoulder which is something unplanned - and will be home with me for the next month. DH is the worst patient and I'm the worst nurse when it comes to him and his crankiness so the month can't possibly be more miserable sounding filled with cleaning and cooking with him here all day every day - omg someone kill me now. This always kind of amazes me....you were "presented the news"? Was this some kind of mob gathering? Why don't people just be honest about what they can and can not do??
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Post by mcscrapper on Nov 27, 2016 20:47:51 GMT
It's NOVEMBER still!!!You don't HAVE to feel festive at this stage - it could be that you don't until, say December 14th - who cares?? Don't snap out, just wait til it comes, otherwise you will try and force it and end up all 'bah humbug'!!! Stick up a little piece of tinsel at some stage and concentrate on the day itself - or allow DD to have free reign over decorations. This made me laugh. It was one of my mum's pet peeves, and has become one of mine. People complaining anytime before the 20th December that it doesn't feel like Christmas. That's because it ISN'T!!! Made me laugh, too!! I do appreciate y'all putting it into perspective for me. I just took this beast of a dog for a walk and I did notice that my neighbors are all still blowing and raking leaves, it is 62 degrees, and I'm not the only neighbor that doesn't have any Christmas stuff out yet. I don't feel so Scrooge-like now. I think I am just overwhelmed with everything I have going on right now. We are also "test driving" a dog that really needs a new home and the owner specifically asked me to try him out. I want to make a smart decision for both my family and the dog. I also realize that we can still have Christmas w/out a tree. It isn't the tree or decorations that make Christmas!!! It is US!!!! Sometimes we just need some perspective. Thanks y'all!!! SaveSave
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Post by warrior1991 on Nov 27, 2016 20:58:53 GMT
I live in SE Minnesota and we don't have snow yet. Which is fine by me. We don't need snow on the ground to make it "feel" like Christmas. My sister-in-law thinks I'm crazy that I don't want to listen to Christmas music all day long for 4 months leading up to Christmas day. I get the winter blues most years, but it usually starts in January. I did very little for the holiday last year, and it was completely fine. This year I'm excited about decorating and I don't mind a Christmas song once and a while. I agree with everyone, make the holiday what you want it to be. If you force yourself to be happy about it, you will feel worse. This year is a good year for a new tradition.
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Post by refugeepea on Nov 27, 2016 21:07:22 GMT
I haven't felt it for a long time. I'm done making my house look like it threw up Christmas. It's a giant PITA. Only 1 child cares but not enough to help put it up and put it away. I put a few things in my living room. I live in a house with small rooms. I don't have the space for the big tree this year. I'll use the white one above our entertainment center.
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Post by mikklynn on Nov 27, 2016 21:25:50 GMT
Some years I just do the minimum and that is ok. Other years I go all out.
Cut yourself some slack. You have a LOT on your schedule.
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Post by anxiousmom on Nov 27, 2016 21:27:50 GMT
I've had a couple of years like that. For me, the solution was limited decorations (the only consistent was the stockings hung on the fireplace mantle) and a table top tree. I always thought that this is one of those things that I get to decide how I want to celebrate. If it makes you feel any better, there will be NO Christmas decorations around here this year. I am packing to move and the very last thing I want to do is unpack Christmas (which will then have to be repacked because my closing date is December 27th) while packing up the rest of my house. No thanks and anyone who wants to judge me because I don't have a tree can suck it.
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Post by Scarlet Ohana on Nov 27, 2016 22:11:25 GMT
I hear you. With my parents passing a few weeks ago I'm seriously not feeling it. But my dd 17 who is a senior looked at me and said "Mom this is the last year I'm home for Christmas before I leave for college" and I knew I have to do it up for her. I know I'll feel better once it's all up and done.
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Post by J u l e e on Nov 27, 2016 23:02:23 GMT
I didn't plan it to be a huge lesson, but one of the things we've done over the years that has been a big gift to us as a family is to not feel like we had to do the same thing every year for it to "be Christmas". There have been years where we've had a fully decorated tree in every room. There have been years where we've left all the trees in the storage room except the main one. I have Christmas decorations for every room. Some years we get them all out. Some years we just do a room or two. And some years it's just the tree. Same with outside lights. Sometimes we have a ton of people over during the season and others we don't entertain at all. Sometimes we get tickets to all sorts of Christmas events, and not other years.
We've just been super flexible with our expectations with what we feel like doing, and we don't feel like if we don't do it all then it's just not Christmas. That's too much pressure if we can't pull off the same thing every year.
Do what you can do. Very little of what we've bought into as "must haves/must dos" is the important stuff anyway. Resolve to do what you can and enjoy what it is you do.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Nov 27, 2016 23:31:35 GMT
We've just been super flexible with our expectations with what we feel like doing, and we don't feel like if we don't do it all then it's just not Christmas. I like that. We have learned to be flexible with WHEN we celebrate holidays due to two sons in the Navy, a blended family, work schedules, and so forth. The decorations are the least of the worries. I'll put up whatever, whenever. For example, once again this year we are hosting my husband's office Christmas party. But we were all gone for Thanksgiving and I will be traveling for a week up until the day before the party. So he and I agreed today that we'll just present everyone a lovely clean house... but probably not one with many decorations! I'm going to definitely do table centerpieces and door wreaths, but other than that? Who knows. I may get the mantle done, but it's for sure neither of the trees will be up. And I don't care. We'll have just as good a time with the party anyway.
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Post by J u l e e on Nov 28, 2016 2:08:50 GMT
We've just been super flexible with our expectations with what we feel like doing, and we don't feel like if we don't do it all then it's just not Christmas. I like that. We have learned to be flexible with WHEN we celebrate holidays due to two sons in the Navy, a blended family, work schedules, and so forth. The decorations are the least of the worries. I'll put up whatever, whenever. For example, once again this year we are hosting my husband's office Christmas party. But we were all gone for Thanksgiving and I will be traveling for a week up until the day before the party. So he and I agreed today that we'll just present everyone a lovely clean house... but probably not one with many decorations! I'm going to definitely do table centerpieces and door wreaths, but other than that? Who knows. I may get the mantle done, but it's for sure neither of the trees will be up. And I don't care. We'll have just as good a time with the party anyway. Exactly. You've got a lot going on. And the people are the important part!
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Post by redshoes on Nov 28, 2016 2:12:06 GMT
I was the same way on Friday....had no interest in getting all of the Christmas decorations out, but my hubby and kids were so excited and started as soon as they got up!! I've just been so busy and stressed with work and then having everyone over on Thanksgiving, I just wanted ONE DAY to do nothing!! I got part of a day....hopefully, things will look up for you OP.
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Post by moodyblue on Nov 28, 2016 2:26:57 GMT
I think it's absolutely fine if you're not really feeling it. Do what feels right to you. We change up what we do, especially with the outside decorations and lights. Last year we didn't do wreaths in the front and side windows, which we have done for years. We just decided not to put them up and we didn't again this year. For years we have wrapped the columns on the front porch with lighted garland but we didn't do it last year since we had just had them repainted, and we didn't do them this year either. It's nice to change things and not feel locked into the "but we always do ..."
Maybe you'll feel more into it in a couple weeks, maybe not. If you do, do what feels right or what you decide is most important.
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on Nov 28, 2016 2:40:33 GMT
I've had those years. The first one, ODS was 10 months old at Christmas. I was NOT dealing with a crawling baby and a Christmas tree. Nope. Especially since he was starting to pull up to stand at that point, too. So, I scaled back. We set up a small Charlie Brown tree and called it good enough. It was still Christmas and I'd eliminated some stress from my life. I noticed and enjoyed everyone else's decorations that much more that year. A few years later, we were moving states right after the new year. Out came the little tree again. The rest of the Christmas decorations stayed packed away. I wrapped everything in newspaper that year and used up all the various bows I had stashed. My 6 year old thought it was fun.
It's ok to go low key when that's what works at that time of your life. Don't sweat it. You'll enjoy your Christmas stuff that much more next year. Enjoy the mall decorations. Drive around and look at the neighbors' lights. Do what works for you.
Congrats on completing grad school!!
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Post by beanbuddymom on Nov 28, 2016 4:48:51 GMT
I'm not either - I was...until thanksgiving when we were presented the news that we would be hosting christmas this year - I kind of expected it but I'm not too happy about it now that reality has set in. I had planned to relax Xmas Eve with the four of us and now I'm hoping I can keep my self from not stressing out over the impending company the following day . Plus DH is having surgery to fix a torn shoulder which is something unplanned - and will be home with me for the next month. DH is the worst patient and I'm the worst nurse when it comes to him and his crankiness so the month can't possibly be more miserable sounding filled with cleaning and cooking with him here all day every day - omg someone kill me now. This always kind of amazes me....you were "presented the news"? Was this some kind of mob gathering? Why don't people just be honest about what they can and can not do?? Be amazed - being honest has nothing to do with it. I was being snarky by saying it was presented to me - DH mom can't do it and he knows I hate leaving so figured I'd feel better being at home. I'm not thrilled his family is coming over but it turns out to be a better deal overall just a fee weeks of cleaning which to be "honest "needs to get do r anyway I'm just not happy about it when I was hoping to get done crafts and baking done with the time. DH said I need to get the kids to help me and maybe him bring home will help in that regard as he usually isn't home when I need to do things and need help from them . But I'm not super excited yet - maybe I will be soon after some of the big projects are done and we've decorated .
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Post by leftturnonly on Nov 28, 2016 5:04:39 GMT
Anyone else just not feeling it this year? How can I snap out of this funk? I haven't felt the holidays since my husband died. We have pretty much stripped down to the bare necessities. We're gentle with ourselves and each other. It's far easier to exceed low expectations than to rise to high hopes. No thanks and anyone who wants to judge me because I don't have a tree can suck it. They'll just have to suck it for me, too. <passing out lemons now>
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Post by mollycoddle on Nov 28, 2016 9:00:01 GMT
Me either. This has been a lousy year. I'm so glad that it's almost over.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 28, 2016 10:06:51 GMT
Exactly! It's far too early to decorate or feel festive, give it time and if it doesn't happen then it's not the end of the world. I was discussing presents with the husband last night, we're going to be at his parents house so I want to get them something nice. He poo pooed everything I suggested so I'm leaving it up to him, that leaves me with six people to shop for, I can do that! We don't always make a big fuss of Christmas, most years the husband has been working and I've been alone all day. The years he's been off (which is only three in the last ten!) we've gone all out.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 28, 2016 21:18:16 GMT
It's just DS and myself at home now since DB passed. DS will be with his dad from 12/16 through 12/27 so I won't be decorating at all. I just don't have the need for it all for just me. I'm sure I'll be spending at least meal time with friends, so I won't be home all day on the holiday by myself, so that's good. But yeah, those that don't like it can suck it. *throws lemons*
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