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Post by *KAS* on Aug 13, 2014 17:55:53 GMT
Seems like A LOT of effort on your part for them to have 2 days (or really 1 if it doesn't happen until Friday) at the beach. I understand it's important to you for your daughter's sake, but the fact that he didn't ask for the time off after telling you when he could go, then called her 'clingy' tells me that maybe he doesn't want to go as much as you think he does. I wouldn't make much of an effort. Let him/them figure it out, if it's important.
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Post by anonrefugee on Aug 13, 2014 18:19:08 GMT
Page two, and a consensus is building! He would have lost me after calling DD clingy, especially since he implied / lied he had those days off.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 18, 2014 2:44:29 GMT
So how did this end up???
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Post by Deleted on Aug 18, 2014 4:14:49 GMT
Just in case you were wavering  here's another vote for letting these two work it out. Your daughter may well be disappointed, in which case the complaint department is located at his cell phone number. As some of you know, I do development edits for romance novels in my day job. If this were a book script, I'd send it back telling the author that we can't let someone else solve the H/H problems -- advice is one thing, but they have to star in their own story and hash out remarks like "clingy" and "It is important to me that you be there, and yet you didn't have your life together enough to ask." Otherwise the author has created an unhealthy situation in the romance that we, the publisher, don't want to perpetuate. It doesn't hurt Moms to take the same third-party approach with their children's lives in these situations. |
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Post by alibama on Aug 18, 2014 17:40:12 GMT
I was hoping for an update too.
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Post by Dixie Lou on Aug 19, 2014 4:15:44 GMT
OK, here's the update. Those two did work something out on their own (mostly.) DB told DD3 that he couldn't come until Friday. OH NO. That's not happening. His job is very inflexible and his boss isn't understanding so what we figure is he asked him ONCE and the answer was no. DB is one of his best salesman so the manager wants him there so SELL. So we decided to split up and go into two different cars. DD2 and her DB with her dad then me and DD3 hung around a little later to see what he could find out at his daily work meeting at 1 p.m. DB calls and says he can't go on Thursday but maybe on Friday. My daughter told him that for us to pick him up in Austin would only be one hour out of our way but on Friday it would be 3 1/2 ours each way to go get him. He said he wouldn't want us to do that. DD3 told him that although she didn't want to get in the way of his work, that we had planned this trip 3 weeks ago and he said he could go. And couldn't he please explain that we had already waited behind for him...Well he called his boss and lo and behold he could go. SO DD3 and I drove out to Austin and ate dinner, shopped, did fun things while we waited for him to be finished with his sale. We had the prisoner in the car by 9:30 and headed to the beach. He was so excited, offered to pay for gas, offered to drive, just needed to stop by his hotel to get his things. Both DD's and DB's had a great time. It was such a good get-away from the stresses of llfe right before they all left to go back to school. Of course today I've been a mess. I won't see DD3 until christmas (except for Labor Day. I'll take a quick trip out there.) DD2 is only 1 1/2 hours away so we'll see her a few times. It's just been hard because I am generally not happy with the way my life has turned out. My mother died almost a year ago. My husband isn't the most loving in the world. Now I've had to let my babies go. I'm glad we went to get him. He's like family. He loves to play and goof around and is quite the entertainment. Just hope he matures within the next few months/year. |
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Post by anniebygaslight on Aug 19, 2014 5:51:53 GMT
All's well that ends well. I am impressed that he offered to pay for petrol and to drive.
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Post by DinCA on Aug 19, 2014 7:05:45 GMT
Thanks for the update. I was wondering what happened. Sounds like you all had a great time. Sorry you're down about your girls being away at school. Mine are, too, so I can sympathize.  |
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Post by beanbuddymom on Aug 19, 2014 11:42:56 GMT
I say go with your original plans and tell the boyfriend to figure out how he will join you. It shouldn't be your responsibility, especially since he lacks the maturity to talk to his boss and called your daughter clingy. I totally agree. And I wouldn't be bending over backwards to help him join you. When someone shows you their true colors, believe them. (calling your dd "clingy"; being flaky about telling boss he needs time off). I agree with all of this. EDITED TO ADD: Sorry i didn't look at the date of your post and that it was for a previous week, not this weekend - so I am glad things worked out, that he was able to resolve the issue. It was probably a great learning situation for him to be able to work things out with his boss as well, so that's good everything went well. |
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Post by alibama on Aug 19, 2014 11:50:41 GMT
Glad to hear the update. Looks like you had a good time.
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Post by eebud on Aug 19, 2014 13:09:52 GMT
Glad that everything worked out.
Now that the kids are all headed back to school, maybe it is time to focus on yourself. Maybe you can find a new hobby. Do you have something you always wanted to do but never had the time? Maybe now is the time to try new things. It is never too late to turn your life in the direction you want it to go.
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Post by anonrefugee on Aug 19, 2014 14:51:16 GMT
Thanks for letting us know, I'm glad things worked out.
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here's another vote for letting these two work it out. Your daughter may well be disappointed, in which case the complaint department is located at his cell phone number.
