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Post by anniebeth24 on Dec 27, 2016 14:08:14 GMT
DD is getting married next December at an estate that will have lots of Christmas-theme decor. Trying to take advantage of post-Christmas sales right now, wondering whether a Christmas ornament would be a good favor for guests. Questions - do I purchase enough for each guest to take one or just one per family/couple? If a family of 5 attends, would they take home 5 ornaments? If everyone gets one, then I'm thinking there should be some variety, but I don't want it to look like a mishmash. Thinking I would display them on a tabletop Christmas tree in the reception/foyer area with a sign that says "Thank you for coming - please take one" or something like that. Or, if we purchased for everyone, they could go at each place setting, but then guests have to carry them around. In general, do you like the idea of favors or are they a silly waste? Considering this set of three photo frame ornaments from Kohl's link.  |
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Post by julieb on Dec 27, 2016 14:12:52 GMT
My dd got married in September. We were going to have potted succulents as a favor and after much discussion decided to skip. Wasn't missed at all. However i like the ornament idea if you decide to go that route. I wouldn't get one per person because chances are only 1/2 will take one while leaving. Others have made a donation to a charity in lieu of favors. I think favors are on the way out.
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Post by Gravity on Dec 27, 2016 14:13:02 GMT
I prefer a favor that is consumable. I don't care for clutter so I'm not a fan of trinkets.
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Post by littlemama on Dec 27, 2016 14:14:52 GMT
No favors. For our wedding, we had little sewing kits and little matchbook sized pads of paper. Didn't need them, didn't really want them, but 20 years ago, you had to do something.
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Post by rickmer on Dec 27, 2016 14:17:13 GMT
i like favours... for the most part. i got an ornament years ago and it's on my tree right now... it was a bell made out of shell with two doves on top.
if you wanted different ornaments, i would just make sure they were all along the same colour or theme so it doesn't look like a mishmash (all clear or silver or all rustic looking). i like the idea of having a tree and a sign for guests to help themselves to one. of course i would be sure to have more than enough - you know aunt edith may take more than her share. lol!
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Post by schizo319 on Dec 27, 2016 14:27:56 GMT
I'm of the mind that favors are not necessary, however, I think those ornaments are lovely and would definitely take one as a remembrance if it were offered!
Will you put photos in them? or maybe a slip of paper with the couples name/date? I like the idea of putting them on the tree with a "take one" sign better than place setting, that way everyone can take just what they want (or not take one at all if they don't like clutter or they don't decorate for Christmas). I'd plan for one per couple/family. |
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Dec 27, 2016 14:37:01 GMT
I got married in the month of Dec and we had hot chocolate favors. I layered mix, marshmellows in a pastry bag. I didn't make it Christmas theme though just used my colors to tie the top. We also had a candy bar set up with custom bags for people to take home what they wanted.
I made sure everyone had at one hot chocolate bag and one custom candy gift bag to fill, not one per family.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 27, 2016 14:42:57 GMT
I vote for consumable favors. That way even if people don't take them at least they can be eaten, donated or used up. I can't tell you how many weddings I've gone to where over half of the guests leave the favors no matter how nice they are because it's either not their taste or they know they won't use it.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Dec 27, 2016 14:45:16 GMT
I like the idea of offering ornaments as a favor and hanging them on a tree for people to help themselves.
The last party I hosted with favors was my mama's 90th birthday. We had a theme with lavender flowers and the favors were handmade bars of soap with lavender in them. We had them piled in an old vintage suitcase right at the exit with a sign to help yourself. I was surprised by how many we had left over at the end. I sent extras home with all the family and we are STILL using the soap a year and a half later. So... pick an ornament you REALLY like. Lol.
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Post by ellen on Dec 27, 2016 15:00:59 GMT
I don't think wedding favors are needed, but an ornament would be a nice choice if you are going to do one. I'd try to take advantage of sales right now.
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Post by bdhudak on Dec 27, 2016 15:04:43 GMT
A wedding we attended used the frames to put the guest names into for the seat assigned. You picked it up to find your table and seat
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Post by anniebeth24 on Dec 27, 2016 15:06:41 GMT
I'm of the mind that favors are not necessary, however, I think those ornaments are lovely and would definitely take one as a remembrance if it were offered!
Will you put photos in them? or maybe a slip of paper with the couples name/date? I like the idea of putting them on the tree with a "take one" sign better than place setting, that way everyone can take just what they want (or not take one at all if they don't like clutter or they don't decorate for Christmas). I'd plan for one per couple/family. I was thinking of putting their names and the wedding date inside the frame. Some people might leave it as is, as a token of remembrance of the wedding, while others might insert their own photo. Thought it would also give some variety to the ornaments if a family ended up with a bunch of them - they could insert different photos to make them look different. |
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Post by anniebeth24 on Dec 27, 2016 15:08:26 GMT
A wedding we attended used the frames to put the guest names into for the seat assigned. You picked it up to find your table and seat I like this idea - place card and favor in one. |
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Post by scrappyoutlaw on Dec 27, 2016 15:08:53 GMT
I attended a wedding 4 years ago that had ornaments as the favor/seating assignment. It was a silver ball ornament with a ribbon tied to it with the bride and groom's name on one end, and the seat assignment on the other end. They were all hung on 2 trees and we got to hunt for our name. It was lovely. I love that every Christmas when I am putting ornaments on the tree I think of their wedding!
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Post by SockMonkey on Dec 27, 2016 15:16:19 GMT
Every "trinket" type favor I've ever gotten has made it into the trash.
Give candy or something edible if you must give a favor at all. Seriously. Nobody wants a picture frame. Nobody wants an ornament. I know that sounds harsh, but I can't tell you how many weddings I've been to where all those favors are left on tables and nobody takes them home, or people take them and throw them out immediately.
But, in recent years, people have even stopped doing favors (probably for the reasons above). I think that's a good thing. Why spend money and use resources on them? Better to invest that money in something else the guests can enjoy, like an upgraded appetizer or bar package or something.
Wedding magazines and Pinterest will get you believing that you need favors. You TOTALLY DON'T.
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Post by warrior1991 on Dec 27, 2016 15:17:44 GMT
The last few weddings I have been to had favors, and I couldn't tell you what they were. That would be my fault though for not noticing.  My cousin had roses made from wood as her centerpieces. People were told that we could take a rose home if we wanted. I took one because I love roses and they were blue. (my favorite color). That wedding was 5 years ago and I still have my rose in a vase in my living room. I have been to weddings where the favor was edible. Chocolate, hard candy, jelly beans etc. Another wedding I was at, had homemade candles as favors. They were in small mason jars. Wonderful item. Security at the airport when I flew home didn't like it though. LOL!! It showed up as neon green on the x-ray machine. They had to hand search my bag then. I didn't mind. I chatted with the TSA guy while he checked my bag. He got a kick out of the name of the candle scent. "Butt Naked". I thanked him for keeping everyone safe and he was surprised that I did that. That wedding favor made my day and his. |
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Post by auntkelly on Dec 27, 2016 15:23:51 GMT
A Christmas ornament is one of the few party favors I would take and enjoy.
However, if I were you, before I ordered lots of ornaments I would make sure my daughter loved the ornaments and was totally committed to using that particular ornament as part of her decorating plan.
Red is a beautiful color (especially at Christmas) and those ornaments could be incorporated in a stunning centerpiece. However, if your daughter decides next September that she wants an all silver tablescape, then the ornaments will be a waste unless you go out and buy a tree to hang them on, assuming the reception venue will let you bring in a Christmas tree. (I'm assuming they wouldn't allow you to undecorate one of their trees and hang your own ornaments.)
The bottom line for me is if your daughter loves the ornaments, you should order them. You will find a way to incorporate them in the decorating scheme and they will be lovely. If she is on the fence about the ornaments, then skip it for now.
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Post by SockMonkey on Dec 27, 2016 15:26:51 GMT
A Christmas ornament is one of the few party favors I would take and enjoy. However, if I were you, before I ordered lots of ornaments I would make sure my daughter loved the ornaments and was totally committed to using that particular ornament as part of her decorating plan. Red is a beautiful color (especially at Christmas) and those ornaments could be incorporated in a stunning centerpiece. However, if your daughter decides next September that she wants an all silver tablescape, then the ornaments will be a waste unless you go out and buy a tree to hang them on, assuming the reception venue will let you bring in a Christmas tree. (I'm assuming they wouldn't allow you to undecorate one of their trees and hang your own ornaments.) The bottom line for me is if your daughter loves the ornaments, you should order them. You will find a way to incorporate them in the decorating scheme and they will be lovely. If she is on the fence about the ornaments, then skip it for now. And, having stood up in/helped out at more than a few weddings, if you get ornaments, make sure they are the unbreakable kind or you are going to spend SO MUCH TIME wrapping/unwrapping/carefully placing them on what will be an already stressful and crazy day. It's one of those ideas that looks lovely in magazines, but in real life is a ton of work! |
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Post by anniebeth24 on Dec 27, 2016 15:43:52 GMT
A Christmas ornament is one of the few party favors I would take and enjoy. However, if I were you, before I ordered lots of ornaments I would make sure my daughter loved the ornaments and was totally committed to using that particular ornament as part of her decorating plan. Red is a beautiful color (especially at Christmas) and those ornaments could be incorporated in a stunning centerpiece. However, if your daughter decides next September that she wants an all silver tablescape, then the ornaments will be a waste unless you go out and buy a tree to hang them on, assuming the reception venue will let you bring in a Christmas tree. (I'm assuming they wouldn't allow you to undecorate one of their trees and hang your own ornaments.) The bottom line for me is if your daughter loves the ornaments, you should order them. You will find a way to incorporate them in the decorating scheme and they will be lovely. If she is on the fence about the ornaments, then skip it for now. Good points! |
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Post by anniebeth24 on Dec 27, 2016 15:46:17 GMT
A Christmas ornament is one of the few party favors I would take and enjoy. However, if I were you, before I ordered lots of ornaments I would make sure my daughter loved the ornaments and was totally committed to using that particular ornament as part of her decorating plan. Red is a beautiful color (especially at Christmas) and those ornaments could be incorporated in a stunning centerpiece. However, if your daughter decides next September that she wants an all silver tablescape, then the ornaments will be a waste unless you go out and buy a tree to hang them on, assuming the reception venue will let you bring in a Christmas tree. (I'm assuming they wouldn't allow you to undecorate one of their trees and hang your own ornaments.) The bottom line for me is if your daughter loves the ornaments, you should order them. You will find a way to incorporate them in the decorating scheme and they will be lovely. If she is on the fence about the ornaments, then skip it for now. And, having stood up in/helped out at more than a few weddings, if you get ornaments, make sure they are the unbreakable kind or you are going to spend SO MUCH TIME wrapping/unwrapping/carefully placing them on what will be an already stressful and crazy day. It's one of those ideas that looks lovely in magazines, but in real life is a ton of work! We had seen an idea where the guests all sign a Christmas ball for the couple, kind of like a guest book. They showed them displayed in a lovely crystal bowl. All I could think of was broken glass. . . |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 27, 2016 16:00:04 GMT
I say no favors. The last few weddings I attended had them and they were wasted. I got married in October and opted to have no favors and so far haven't had any negative feedback.
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Post by MerryMom on Dec 27, 2016 16:46:26 GMT
I think you will find that about 20-25% of the people will like to take an ornament and the others will leave the ornament behind.
I cast my vote for the "no wedding favors".
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Post by quiltz on Dec 27, 2016 17:03:59 GMT
You don't need favours at all. It is an extra expense that you don't need to have. The last few weddings that I have been to, didn't have favours.
Save your self this passing fade.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Dec 27, 2016 17:06:57 GMT
Leave the favor at their place setting better chance of them tucking it into their purse vs forgetting, unless you "assign" someone to hand out the ornaments as guests are leaving.
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Post by warrior1991 on Dec 27, 2016 17:11:14 GMT
Do we know where the idea/tradition for wedding favors came from? Just wondering.
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Post by Grom Pea on Dec 27, 2016 17:28:46 GMT
I would do Christmas crackers, Christmas related, look pretty on a table and for the most part are consumable as in you read the joke, wear the crown and toss the rest. some of them have a little trinket too, but they're fun and your guests will enjoy them, I got one at a wedding 20 years ago and still remember having fun with my table mates wearing the silly paper crown.
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Post by quiltz on Dec 27, 2016 17:54:33 GMT
If you are going to Christmas crackers, buy them now, at the discount price. They will keep until next year.
We were able to purchase so many things during the after Christmas sales when ds & ddil were married. Apparently, navy blue was a Christmas colour, who knew?
I also got a lot of things for my (now x) in-laws 50th wedding anniversary. Gold is a Christmas colour. I was able to purchase ribbon, napkins, and a bunch of other stuff. When xh and his siblings finally got together to plan for the late June celebration, he was able to tell them about all the stuff that I had purchased. They were truly blown away. None of them thought 6 months in advance of the event.
My friend was able to purchase Hershey red & green kisses, peppermint patties, M&M's and other Christmas coloured labeled candy after Christmas. She stored them in zip-lock bags, in a cool, dark place and were perfect for the Christmas wedding. They placed the candies randomly on the tables, rather than favours. Worked well! The chocolates didn't have a bloom on them and were delicious.
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 27, 2016 18:03:03 GMT
I prefer a favor that is consumable. I don't care for clutter so I'm not a fan of trinkets. I am with you on this. The favors that aren't consumable often get trashed. Give me three little pieces of chocolate that I can toss in my car to eat for another day and the $ spent is worth it. I can't think of a single favor I have kept. |
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Post by darkangel090260 on Dec 27, 2016 18:15:21 GMT
if she is doing a winter wonderland snowflakes. Would be cutie, i do quilled one.
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Post by jamielynn on Dec 27, 2016 18:20:47 GMT
I'd skip the favors. Most of them get tossed and friends who did them were disappointed at the volume that got left behind. The edibles always seem to go. If anything maybe a take home decorated holiday cookie with something related to the wedding on it.
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