MerryMom
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Post by MerryMom on Dec 28, 2016 13:56:05 GMT
Yesterday, I was at the grocery store. There was a younger woman (early 20's) with her items on the conveyer belt. There was a man in his 40's or 50's behind her with several items and then I was the third person in line. The woman was buying food items and clearly has a baby as there were containers of formula powder, diapers, wipes, etc. When she went to swipe her EBT card (in Ohio, that covers the SNAP program and also WIC), the man turned slightly to me and mumbled, "Welfare Moms", "Wait til January and this will end." and a few other mumbles that I couldn't understand accompanied by a lot of eye rolling and tilting his head towards her. I basically ignored him and gave him a little bit of a stink eye. Since I wasn't an audience for his comments, he stopped.
With the diapers, wipes, and toilet paper, the woman's cash purchase was around $25 and change. She had only a $20 on her. She fumbles through her purse looking for more money, but you can also tell she really needs all three of those items and is trying to decide which one to put back. Anyways, I reach in my purse and grab a $10 bill and I reach behind the older gentleman (he didn't see me do this at this point), I lightly tap her on her arm and she looks at me and I hand her the $10 and I mouth "Take this". She says, "Thank you so much". By now the man saw what happened and now he is giving me the stink eye. The woman goes to hand me back the few dollars in change, I told her to keep it.
He begins making his pronouncements, "These welfare moms aren't going to learn to work if you bail them out." "I'm tired of supporting deadbeats who suck off the government tit." and now I notice his "Make America Great Again" hat as he is turned more towards me. The lady has left the register area by then.
I said to him, "This is MY money and if I want to give someone $10 who is buying diapers for their baby then that is my business, not yours."
This shuts him up (briefly), but I could tell he was stewing about it.
He finished paying for his items and as he was getting his bags off the bagging carousel, he turns back to me and says, "This welfare bullshit will end in January for deadbeats and 'libs' like you".
I turn to him and say, "You don't know anything about me or that lady. She could have a disabled child, husband got laid off, do you know how many people in the military are on WIC? You are making a lot of assumptions. What I spend my money on is my business, not your business. If I want to pay $10 for someone's diapers, that is my concern. I thought that is what you Trumpers like--keeping people out of your business, so stay out of mine."
He storms off. The cashier apologizes, I say "No need to apologize, you didn't do anything wrong". The lady behind me laughs and says, "I am so glad you said something".
I felt a little bit better, (sigh), it is going to be a llloooonnnnggg four years.
While yes, there are a--holes from all walks of life, I notice that Trumpers are very proud to put their opinions out there, completely unsolicited.
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Post by imsirius on Dec 28, 2016 14:05:52 GMT
Not utterly surprised. He has given people a platform to say these things.
It's even spilling over here in Canada. A guy at the drugstore (pharmacy) yelled out when a disabled woman was holding up the line. He said "too bad Trudeau doesn't pick up some of Trump's policies..then these people couldn't hold us all up!"
Store manager booted him from the line and the store. It's disgusting.
Good for you for blasting him.
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Post by anonrefugee on Dec 28, 2016 14:07:24 GMT
Good job!
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Post by Why on Dec 28, 2016 14:11:28 GMT
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Post by marimoose on Dec 28, 2016 14:12:29 GMT
MerryMom we need more peopel like you. Helping someone out when they are in need. I always try to remember that what we see is not always telliing the entire story. Unless we are walking in their shoes we do no tknow how or why they are they are there as in your reasonings of why a person may be on WIC or if a person may seem grumpy. Good job! Today you get my hero badge and I will try to follow your lead. Thank you. This was so nice to read first thing in the morning.
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Post by casii on Dec 28, 2016 14:14:46 GMT
Bless you for being an angel to that woman and for being a badass to that deplorable.
That man is exactly how my father sounds even though he, my mom and my youngest sister are all on permanent disability for one reason or another. Somehow, they are entitled to it while others are sucking off the government teat. It's maddening.
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Post by pierkiss on Dec 28, 2016 14:24:28 GMT
I think I love you. Thanks for standing up to him.  |
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Post by beachbum on Dec 28, 2016 14:31:16 GMT
MerryMom - You're my hero! Thank you for standing up for what's right.
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Post by peace on Dec 28, 2016 14:31:49 GMT
Thank you for sharing and THANK YOU for standing up to him!!! ❤️
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Post by jayfab on Dec 28, 2016 14:32:44 GMT
Thanks for standing up to that bully.  |
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Post by Gravity on Dec 28, 2016 14:40:29 GMT
Thank you for helping the woman and putting that ass in his place.
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Post by mollycoddle on Dec 28, 2016 14:41:27 GMT
Well done! What a grade A asshole!
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Post by pyccku on Dec 28, 2016 14:44:24 GMT
I would add to your list of possibilities - "how do you know her husband isn't an out of work coal miner or steel worker?"
I'm not going to keep quiet when I see acts of cruelty that people feel is ok because "Trump will take care of this." There's a good chance that these people consider themselves to be Christians, but they must have skipped the part where Jesus said to love one another.
Maybe I'll get little cards made up with quotes:
Jesus: "For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you gave me clothing."
Trump: "I did try and fuck her. She was married. I moved on her like a bitch, but I couldn’t get there. And she was married. Grab them by the pussy. You can do anything."
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Dec 28, 2016 14:45:39 GMT
Thank you!!!!!!
Educating assholes one person at a time.
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Post by gsquaredmom on Dec 28, 2016 14:49:49 GMT
When I was doing my student teaching, the principal told me why he had become a principal. His young family had trouble making ends meet on a teacher's salary and they qualified for WIC. This was before day cares. They had no family to watch the kids. Most women stayed home when their kids were young. He loved teaching, but he became a principal so he could make a little more money. People don't understand that WIC also helps people who work. I think supporting good nutrition in a developing brain is a good idea.
Thanks for helping her out and standing up to ignorance.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Dec 28, 2016 14:52:28 GMT
Yesterday, I was at the grocery store. There was a younger woman (early 20's) with her items on the conveyer belt. There was a man in his 40's or 50's behind her with several items and then I was the third person in line. The woman was buying food items and clearly has a baby as there were containers of formula powder, diapers, wipes, etc. When she went to swipe her EBT card (in Ohio, that covers the SNAP program and also WIC), the man turned slightly to me and mumbled, "Welfare Moms", "Wait til January and this will end." and a few other mumbles that I couldn't understand accompanied by a lot of eye rolling and tilting his head towards her. I basically ignored him and gave him a little bit of a stink eye. Since I wasn't an audience for his comments, he stopped. With the diapers, wipes, and toilet paper, the woman's cash purchase was around $25 and change. She had only a $20 on her. She fumbles through her purse looking for more money, but you can also tell she really needs all three of those items and is trying to decide which one to put back. Anyways, I reach in my purse and grab a $10 bill and I reach behind the older gentleman (he didn't see me do this at this point), I lightly tap her on her arm and she looks at me and I hand her the $10 and I mouth "Take this". She says, "Thank you so much". By now the man saw what happened and now he is giving me the stink eye. The woman goes to hand me back the few dollars in change, I told her to keep it. He begins making his pronouncements, "These welfare moms aren't going to learn to work if you bail them out." "I'm tired of supporting deadbeats who suck off the government tit." and now I notice his "Make America Great Again" hat as he is turned more towards me. The lady has left the register area by then. I said to him, "This is MY money and if I want to give someone $10 who is buying diapers for their baby then that is my business, not yours." This shuts him up (briefly), but I could tell he was stewing about it. He finished paying for his items and as he was getting his bags off the bagging carousel, he turns back to me and says, "This welfare bullshit will end in January for deadbeats and 'libs' like you". I turn to him and say, "You don't know anything about me or that lady. She could have a disabled child, husband got laid off, do you know how many people in the military are on WIC? You are making a lot of assumptions. What I spend my money on is my business, not your business. If I want to pay $10 for someone's diapers, that is my concern. I thought that is what you Trumpers like--keeping people out of your business, so stay out of mine." He storms off. The cashier apologizes, I say "No need to apologize, you didn't do anything wrong". The lady behind me laughs and says, "I am so glad you said something". I felt a little bit better, (sigh), it is going to be a llloooonnnnggg four years. While yes, there are a--holes from all walks of life, I notice that Trumpers are very proud to put their opinions out there, completely unsolicited. YOU ROCK!!!!! WHere in Oh are you? I feel the need to send you lots of thanks!! |
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Post by beebee on Dec 28, 2016 14:55:44 GMT
I think you did a wonderful thing!!!
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Post by utpea on Dec 28, 2016 14:56:48 GMT
Such a kind & sweet thing to do... |
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Post by SockMonkey on Dec 28, 2016 14:56:53 GMT
Yesterday, I was at the grocery store. There was a younger woman (early 20's) with her items on the conveyer belt. There was a man in his 40's or 50's behind her with several items and then I was the third person in line. The woman was buying food items and clearly has a baby as there were containers of formula powder, diapers, wipes, etc. When she went to swipe her EBT card (in Ohio, that covers the SNAP program and also WIC), the man turned slightly to me and mumbled, "Welfare Moms", "Wait til January and this will end." and a few other mumbles that I couldn't understand accompanied by a lot of eye rolling and tilting his head towards her. I basically ignored him and gave him a little bit of a stink eye. Since I wasn't an audience for his comments, he stopped. With the diapers, wipes, and toilet paper, the woman's cash purchase was around $25 and change. She had only a $20 on her. She fumbles through her purse looking for more money, but you can also tell she really needs all three of those items and is trying to decide which one to put back. Anyways, I reach in my purse and grab a $10 bill and I reach behind the older gentleman (he didn't see me do this at this point), I lightly tap her on her arm and she looks at me and I hand her the $10 and I mouth "Take this". She says, "Thank you so much". By now the man saw what happened and now he is giving me the stink eye. The woman goes to hand me back the few dollars in change, I told her to keep it. He begins making his pronouncements, "These welfare moms aren't going to learn to work if you bail them out." "I'm tired of supporting deadbeats who suck off the government tit." and now I notice his "Make America Great Again" hat as he is turned more towards me. The lady has left the register area by then. I said to him, "This is MY money and if I want to give someone $10 who is buying diapers for their baby then that is my business, not yours." This shuts him up (briefly), but I could tell he was stewing about it. He finished paying for his items and as he was getting his bags off the bagging carousel, he turns back to me and says, "This welfare bullshit will end in January for deadbeats and 'libs' like you". I turn to him and say, "You don't know anything about me or that lady. She could have a disabled child, husband got laid off, do you know how many people in the military are on WIC? You are making a lot of assumptions. What I spend my money on is my business, not your business. If I want to pay $10 for someone's diapers, that is my concern. I thought that is what you Trumpers like--keeping people out of your business, so stay out of mine." He storms off. The cashier apologizes, I say "No need to apologize, you didn't do anything wrong". The lady behind me laughs and says, "I am so glad you said something". I felt a little bit better, (sigh), it is going to be a llloooonnnnggg four years. While yes, there are a--holes from all walks of life, I notice that Trumpers are very proud to put their opinions out there, completely unsolicited. It's these little acts of heroism we're going to need SO MUCH in the coming years. Thank you for being a voice of reason and a person of charity and compassion. Shame on that man. SHAME. |
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Post by momto4kiddos on Dec 28, 2016 14:57:10 GMT
I would have been so horrified by that guy I wouldn't have known what to say! Very sweet of you to help the girl out, it's nice to know there are still kind people in the world.
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Post by gulfcoastgirl on Dec 28, 2016 15:26:25 GMT
You win, Merrymom. I think you are wonderful.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 28, 2016 15:43:36 GMT
You are all kinds of awesome! I never know what to do or say in those kinds of situations. I get so emotional, I'd end up crying and not being able to speak how I felt. Or I'd stay quiet because I don't know what to say, and then beat myself up afterwards. I can come up with all kinds of wonderful words to say...after the fact!
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Post by Really Red on Dec 28, 2016 15:43:54 GMT
Not utterly surprised. He has given people a platform to say these things.
It's even spilling over here in Canada. A guy at the drugstore (pharmacy) yelled out when a disabled woman was holding up the line. He said "too bad Trudeau doesn't pick up some of Trump's policies..then these people couldn't hold us all up!" Store manager booted him from the line and the store. It's disgusting. Good for you for blasting him. This is it, exactly. We should be giving people platforms for GOOD, not evil. Yay for you, MerryMom for standing up for what is right, but we all have to come up with a statement that will shut these haters up. I know, I know, it's not going to happen, but they will never shut up if you yell or get mad at them. It's got to be more subtle. Maybe something like (in a super calm and quizzical voice): Does it make you feel better to berate [whomever they are berating]? I think some people must still feel embarrassment, but we have to show them they have no platform. We have to!! |
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Post by MerryMom on Dec 28, 2016 15:52:56 GMT
YOU ROCK!!!!! WHere in Oh are you? I feel the need to send you lots of thanks!! I live in Union County. And honestly, living in a rural county, the man should know the difference between a "tit" and a "teat" (I was doing an internal eyeroll and chuckle about that). Honestly, no thanks are necessary. I gave the lady the $10 so her baby had diapers. When I was younger, I've been in the check-out line with not enough money to pay for things and I know that horrible, sinking feeling when you don't have enough to cover it and you have to go through the bags and have them take items off. Bad enough to feel that way, but then if others in line are getting verbal or impatient, tsk'ing and sighing, it just makes it worse. I really hope that she didn't hear what that man was mumbling, but I certainly could. I know there are idiots out from all walks of life and all political views, but I've noticed over the past several months, the Trumpers just put out their unsolicited opinions when the situation doesn't call for it. So in the spirit of unsolicited comments, here are mine: "Hey Mr. Farmer, how about ending all those farm subsidies you get? And end the lower tax you pay on your land. I'm tired of paying for your lifestyle." "Hey Big Corporation, let's end of the tax incentives in order for your business to come to our county, Then after the 10-20 years when it ends, you move to another locale with an even bigger tax break." "Hey, Mrs. Senior Citizen, let's end the senior discount you get on your property taxes and let me know how you like getting your SS check cut per "The Donalds" plan. " "Hey, Mr. White Guy factory worker, let's cut your hours when the government contract for the factory ends. Let me know how you like the Trumpster then." "Hey brother and sister in law, let me know how your slum properties generate revenue for you when the tenants on public assistance aren't paying the rent. Isn't the government actually putting money in your pocket?" "Hey sister, you bitch about ObamaCare, but wasn't your 23 year old son put on your husband's health insurance and got his gastric bypass surgery done? And by the way, your husband works for the county in another state, so let's cut his hours or better yet lay him off to get him off the 'government teat'. Oh and dear sister, you work for an oxygen delivery company and 85% of your clients are on Medicare or Medicaid, so I am paying your salary as a taxpayer." Stuff like that. Clearly venting here.  |
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Post by not2peased on Dec 28, 2016 15:53:02 GMT
thank god you were there! I am so happy to spoke up and said what you did, and so happy you helped out someone else who was down on their luck
that guy sounds like a total asshole
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Post by elaine on Dec 28, 2016 15:54:44 GMT
Thank you. Simply, thank you for doing what was right.
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Post by craftykitten on Dec 28, 2016 16:00:11 GMT
Thank you! Well done for having your voice...I wouldn't know what to say so I'm so glad you stood up to him!
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Post by secondlife on Dec 28, 2016 16:00:41 GMT
Kindness still wins. Well done.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Dec 28, 2016 16:01:23 GMT
Thank you. Simply, thank you for doing what was right. A million times this!!!! |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 28, 2016 16:09:56 GMT
MerryMom Bless you for helping her out and standing up to that jerk. You are everything that is right in the world.  I'm at the stage of my life where I think I would have a really hard time keeping my mouth shut hearing that kind of crap too. It's just mean and rude. 
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I'm at the stage of my life where I think I would have a really hard time keeping my mouth shut hearing that kind of crap too. It's just mean and rude.