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Post by SweetieBugs on Aug 14, 2014 0:12:26 GMT
A new group of interns started at work today and one of them has a unusual marking in the white area of her eye. Between her pupil and the edge of her top eyelid is a thick kind of "sliver of moon" shaped (about 1/8 inch high and about 1/4 inch long I would estimate) black mark.
She is a very beautiful girl but I found this very hard to look at and found myself having a very hard time having a conversation with her. I was worried my eyes kept going to that spot to figure out what I was seeing. I can't fully describe how I felt but it just made me very uncomfortable.
I feel terrible for my reaction and probably just need to have more exposure to her to get used to it. It was just a very visceral reaction to me. Have you ever encountered someone that had something maybe different about their face or something else that you just needed time to adjust to? I hope this doesn't make me sound shallow or rude. It didn't seem that she noticed my reaction and I found her to have a delightful personality and a great sense of confidence (especially for our internship program) so I am hoping to work really well with her in the future.
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Post by femalebusiness on Aug 14, 2014 0:51:32 GMT
I always like those little oddities that people have, it make them unique. My husband has a gnarled cauliflower ear from wrestling and it was one of the first things that attracted me to him. I just love that ear. He likes my one crooked tooth. I'd probably comment on an unusual eye on someone.
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eastcoastpea
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Post by eastcoastpea on Aug 14, 2014 1:25:50 GMT
Maybe it's a tattoo.
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Post by Native New Yorker on Aug 14, 2014 1:27:28 GMT
I know someone with piercings in both cheeks, just under her lip and also in her tongue. I just continuously look at her nose.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Aug 14, 2014 2:46:03 GMT
I'll come at it from the other side, as the person with something different with their face. I have a large scar right smack dab in the middle of my face. When people are trying to be polite and not stare right at it, they try to look at my forehead when we speak.
Don't worry about being "caught" looking at it. Most people who have something to look twice at are used to others doing just that. Unless you say something hurtful or make a disgusted face while looking, we just dismiss it quickly.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2014 2:48:01 GMT
Look her right in the eyebrows.
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Aug 14, 2014 3:00:34 GMT
I'd just look at the other eye
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Post by SweetieBugs on Aug 14, 2014 3:31:21 GMT
I'd just look at the other eye
As far as facial scars, that wouldn't really be a problem for me because I "understand" scars. This just threw me for a loop. I've googled and can't find any images that is any thing close to this. When I see her tomorrow, I will know what to expect. |
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Post by FurryP on Aug 14, 2014 3:45:48 GMT
I'd just look at the other eye This made me lol. I think that would be noticeable, too.  |
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Post by YooHoot on Aug 14, 2014 4:05:25 GMT
Look up nevus of Ota.
It's just a birthmark. I'm sure you could ask her about it. I would concentrate on her normal eye if it bothers you.
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Post by perumbula on Aug 14, 2014 4:10:20 GMT
I know a woman who has a very large port wine stain on her face. It took me awhile before I didn't feel self conscious when talking to her and stopped worrying about whether I was looking at it too much. I didn't have a problem with it, but it is eye catching and my eyes would be drawn to it. Once I got to know her better and my brain got used to seeing her face as a whole thing then it wasn't a problem anymore.
Go easy on yourself. Your brain is trained to look for things that stand out like that.
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Post by seikashaven on Aug 14, 2014 4:11:05 GMT
Could you focus on her mouth when she speaks?
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Post by bluepoprocks on Aug 14, 2014 9:46:20 GMT
She is probably use to people looking at it. You'll get use to it and won't even notice it soon I'm sure. I know a woman who had a large portion of one side of her jaw removed because of cancer. It causes one side of her jaw to look much higher than the other side. When I first met her I think I stared at it because I didn't understand why it was like that but now I just see her. Her face doesn't seem unusual to me at all now.
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ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Aug 14, 2014 12:58:12 GMT
a young man in our community was shot with a bb in his right eye
the eyeball looks different now
at first - it was all i could see when i spoke to him
now...i barely notice it
another guy i know had a horrible accident and ended up with a badly disfigured eyeball/eyesocket
this one is taking longer to get used to
but i just do my damnest to make sure it doesn't look like i am bothered or uncomfortable
just give it some time
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