Do you think this is odd?

If mom is a heavy drinker and already causing some concern with her actions then I'd hate to see what marriage would be like. If he's bringing her along then I would wonder if he'd ever be able to cut her loose if it really affected his marriage. At least he's sharing what could be an issue.

Maybe I didn't say it clear enough. Of course you worry about your friend. And honestly I would not like it if I only had two nights a week with my boyfriend and he brought his parents along for one of our dates. But its good she's seeing this now instead of later when she's much more attached. This may be an unhealthy relationship and at least she is getting to see it right away and can make a decision. I did not mean for my post to even imply it wasn't right of you to worry. After I responded I read the comments and I see you also have some concerns about the mothers behavior too. This might not be healthy and it may be good of you to share that perspective with her.

odd for sure.  as nice as they might be, it would just be too awkward for me.

I'd be ok with doing this maybe once a month or two months. I'd probably at first think it was a nice way to meet and get to know his family. But the drinking and inappropriate comments would have me talking to my boyfriend, letting him know I was uncomfortable and needed to see more of him and less of his parents.

I assume because you mention "work" that the people you are referring to are over the age of 16. So yes, I find that odd. We wouldn't even tag along on our daughter's "dates" even at age 14 (movies and Panera) so there is no way we would tag along dates!

I just went back after I posted this above and read your reply that he is 35.  So yes, unusual that his parents tag along.  Maybe they are one of those types of parents that say their son is allowed to date when he is 40!   But that's usually when the boy is a young child or teen when parents make that joke!

Sometimes I think it's ok, if it's to get to know each other or the parents are treating for fun.  But every week sounds a bit much. 

I think it is odd that it is framed as a date. I see my parents once a week for dinner and when my husband and I were dating he would sometimes come along, but it was never considered a date. Now that we are married I still go home most Sundays for dinner and my husband usually comes 8 out of 10 times. Family time is important to us so I wouldn't have married someone who wouldn't make some kind of effort to spend time with my family - but I also wouldn't use my limited time with my significant other with my family on a consistent basis, there needs to be balance.

Throwing in the part about the mom being a mean drunk would make me run for the hills.

So what is the reason he gave her for always having his parents there??

One of those times when the Like button doesn't match intent.

I think it's odd. Like seriously weird. No way would I tolerate that and the Mom gets drunk and out of line. Why would anyone think that's a good dating relationship?

There's way too much wrong with the whole situation including the fact that your friend thinks it might be ok. Cut and run. Thirty five is way too old to have not cut the cord.

This is friend's future if she accepts it now. It won't change.

I think it is odd and I would not be in a relationship like that. After a few double dates with the parents I'd be out of there!

I also think it's odd. I don't understand why his parents go every week; and the mom's drinking and saying inappropriate things would be a huge red flag to me. I am glad that you are supporting your friend. You are very kind.

If we're taking about adults? Yes, odd and creepy.