momto4kiddos
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Post by momto4kiddos on Aug 15, 2014 21:20:01 GMT
We have a long time family friend (our parents were friends.) She grew up in a home with fairly lax rules. I grew up with strict parents.
History seems to be repeating itself. She's very lax with rules and i'm more strict. My kids are all much older than hers, but my kids are good and will come hang out with them on occasion to see the kids. We don't see them a lot.
So here's the deal, her 9 yo has said on a couple of occasions starting a couple years ago (seriously by about 7 he was saying it) about me being strict, that I have too many rules. Clearly it's talked about at home.
There is like a 7 year age gap between the 2 kids. There's probably a combination of things making me appear strict. Her kid is a bit of a problem kid and I know partially she thinks i'm strict because I wouldn't allow my kid (even though plenty old enough) to take hers anywhere because I wouldn't want my kid having the responsibility of an ill-behaved kid on them (did I say the kid was a bit of a problem?!!)
Anyhow, just curious what others would do with this type of situation. I was sort of surprised by it the first time around a couple years ago, but not so much recently. Just curious mainly to see others thoughts on what they'd say if anything.
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mimima
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Post by mimima on Aug 15, 2014 21:24:22 GMT
Eh, different people parent differently. It wouldn't even come onto my radar, except I'd smile and say, "yep, I'm strict"  |
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Post by gar on Aug 15, 2014 21:35:33 GMT
What's a kid's definition of strict? That could be anything and I wouldn't care. Actually I wouldn't assume it's been a topic of conversation at their home necessarily either, at least not in a bad way.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Aug 15, 2014 21:36:16 GMT
I'd just tell my child that different families have different rules and different ways of parenting |
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momto4kiddos
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Post by momto4kiddos on Aug 15, 2014 21:50:53 GMT
I'd just tell my child that different families have different rules and different ways of parenting My kids are much older than this kid so it's not an issue with them! More or less it's just odd that a child brings it up and in front of his parents and they aren't phased. I'd find it rude if my kids said in front of her that she's too lenient or too strict. Just not their place! |
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Post by SabrinaP on Aug 15, 2014 22:05:58 GMT
I'd just tell my child that different families have different rules and different ways of parenting My kids are much older than this kid so it's not an issue with them! More or less it's just odd that a child brings it up and in front of his parents and they aren't phased. I'd find it rude if my kids said in front of her that she's too lenient or too strict. Just not their place! But you can't change how they parent or what problem child says. You can only change your reaction to it. |
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Post by ReneeH20 on Aug 15, 2014 22:29:09 GMT
My kids are much older than this kid so it's not an issue with them! More or less it's just odd that a child brings it up and in front of his parents and they aren't phased. I'd find it rude if my kids said in front of her that she's too lenient or too strict. Just not their place! But you can't change how they parent or what problem child says. You can only change your reaction to it. ^^^^ This, but I have also been known to say something to a kid if they are being rude. Like the pack of 8 10-12 year olds that tried to cut in front of me and 2 others in line yesterday. in this case if it were a friend's kid, I'd probably say something like "Yep, I'm strict. Be glad I'm not your mom." But then I also tell my kids that I am a mean mom. |
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Post by gmcwife1 on Aug 15, 2014 23:30:09 GMT
I'd just tell my child that different families have different rules and different ways of parenting My kids are much older than this kid so it's not an issue with them! More or less it's just odd that a child brings it up and in front of his parents and they aren't phased. I'd find it rude if my kids said in front of her that she's too lenient or too strict. Just not their place! I did misread it as being your child that said it But I would and have said the same thing to other children I have said it to my niece when she was 5 or 6 and she got it |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 15, 2014 23:36:40 GMT
We have a long time family friend (our parents were friends.) She grew up in a home with fairly lax rules. I grew up with strict parents. History seems to be repeating itself. She's very lax with rules and i'm more strict. My kids are all much older than hers, but my kids are good and will come hang out with them on occasion to see the kids. We don't see them a lot. So here's the deal, her 9 yo has said on a couple of occasions starting a couple years ago (seriously by about 7 he was saying it) about me being strict, that I have too many rules. Clearly it's talked about at home. There is like a 7 year age gap between the 2 kids. There's probably a combination of things making me appear strict. Her kid is a bit of a problem kid and I know partially she thinks i'm strict because I wouldn't allow my kid (even though plenty old enough) to take hers anywhere because I wouldn't want my kid having the responsibility of an ill-behaved kid on them (did I say the kid was a bit of a problem?!!) Anyhow, just curious what others would do with this type of situation. I was sort of surprised by it the first time around a couple years ago, but not so much recently. Just curious mainly to see others thoughts on what they'd say if anything. I just smiled and said, yes, I am strict. Aren't you glad I'm not your mama? I also would not saddle my kids with "baby sitting" a child I felt wasn't well controlled and had good self control. If the other child, or mom, is hinting her kid should go with your's I'd try to see to it my kids either planned on staying home when they arrived or had already left the house before they arrived. Or maybe you can blame driving laws in your state about not being able to drive other minors (some states prohibit that) |
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Post by cmpeter on Aug 15, 2014 23:42:35 GMT
I wouldn't say anything. It also wouldn't bother me...I don't think being strict is a bad thing.
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