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Post by scrappintoee on Feb 7, 2017 14:26:22 GMT
Does anyone else wish that sanctimommy would post how she'd handle this with her perfect snowflakes ?  |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 7, 2017 14:30:27 GMT
Does anyone else wish that sanctimommy would post how she'd handle this with her perfect snowflakes ? Like her perfect creations ever over sleep |
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Post by natlhol on Feb 7, 2017 22:56:31 GMT
In the exasperated words of Beverly Goldberg, "I have failed as a mother!" When our now teen doesn't get up like clockwork, I inquire the reason. If not ill or other concern, he apologizes for his oversight; I recognize his imperfection, assure him everyone makes mistakes, & drive him wherever without expecting anything in return. I believe it models love, forgiveness, & family, plus i'm too lazy to keep score... I truly am glad for you that things are so wonderful in your house. Your son sounds like a terrific kid. I have to admit, I get annoyed when my last child at home, who is a great kid most of the time, screws something important up. I was at a friend's house yesterday having a much anticipated lunch with someone I don't get to see enough when my daughter texted me she had forgotten her script for play practice in the afternoon. I told her "sorry, I'm busy right now." I believe it modeled responsibility, making sure one is prepared every day and mom deserves a break once in a while too. I brought her script over when I was done. And I told her I wouldn't do it again - she has to be prepared. She's lucky I'm a stay at home mom. What could a working outside the home mom do? I was a stay home mom forever...and there's a good chance that I wouldn't have brought the script to her. (I mean no disrespect. Every one is different! That's what makes life fun.  ) We had a policy that I would bring a forgotten item only one time per semester. After that they had to figure out what to do or have the consequences from the teacher or school. My kids were great about making sure they had everything they needed for the day and they were really selective about what they chose to ask me to bring to school as their forgotten item. After all, if you can only ask for one forgotten thing, you tend to wonder if it's "ask worthy." There were times, rarely-like not even once a year rarely, that they asked more than once a semester and I brought the item. I don't think strict adherences to the rules no matter what is usually a good thing. On the other hand, there were many, many semesters that the kids never even used their one time to ask me to bring something. SaveSave |
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Post by freecharlie on Feb 8, 2017 0:58:48 GMT
Ds and I used to battle over wake up time. When I got him his own alarm, the battle stopped.
We have a routine for morning and it works for us. On the off days the kids don't get up when they should, I go to their rooms and ask if they forgot their alarm and they get up.
I wouldn't power struggle over it. Try a routine. Make her go to bed earlier, make her get up and go to bed the same time on the weekends until she gets up without ussues.
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Post by Belia on Feb 8, 2017 1:01:29 GMT
In the exasperated words of Beverly Goldberg, "I have failed as a mother!" When our now teen doesn't get up like clockwork, I inquire the reason. If not ill or other concern, he apologizes for his oversight; I recognize his imperfection, assure him everyone makes mistakes, & drive him wherever without expecting anything in return. I believe it models love, forgiveness, & family, plus i'm too lazy to keep score... I read this post and thought, "Sanctimommy is back!" Then, nope. ETA: I see other folks had the same thought. |
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Post by Belia on Feb 8, 2017 1:13:36 GMT
Maybe it's because I work at a school and I've had more conversations than I can count with parents of students who refuse to come to school, or refuse to come to school on time, and when I make suggestions, they are all roundly dismissed because "That would make little Johnny mad if I gave him a consequence!" or "But he neeeeeeeeds his cell phone! How would he ever survive if he didn't have his cell phone all day every day!" (Ummm.... same way we did. Just fine.)
But anyway... if this turned into a battle of wills or was an ongoing issue, I wouldn't hesitate to pour cold water on my kid. Then I'd open the window if it was winter. And leave it open all day. And make him change his own bedding. And if it didn't dry by nighttime, oh well.
Don't get me wrong. By all means, we all have bad days / weeks. We all make mistakes. We all need grace sometimes. But there comes a time when enough is enough.
I don't think you're there yet, OP. I'm really responding more to the "OMG how could you be so unkind!" folks.
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Post by janeinbama on Feb 8, 2017 17:22:29 GMT
Wow. Maybe you said that in jest, and I'm just not reading it how you meant, but that is harsh. What an unkind and shitty thing to suggest. Jest. I should have put a smiley so you'd know. My Mom would pour the water on my brother's head. Not thrown as that would be another mess. He was never a morning person and his 2 DDs are the same way. |
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Post by lilypad on Feb 9, 2017 2:29:30 GMT
This isn't a problem I've had with my 3 kids(we've had others though..like everyone).
I do absolutely hate getting up early in the winter and purchased an alarm clock that simulates sunrise by gradually lighting the room. It has helped me tremendously. I got it on Amazon.
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Post by Peamac on Feb 9, 2017 13:01:05 GMT
OP, keep in mind that her period/hormones may be affecting her need for sleep too. Even if she hasn't started her period, her body is preparing for changes and likely needs more rest.
An earlier bedtime for a while would be my suggestion.
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) We had a policy that I would bring a forgotten item only one time per semester. After that they had to figure out what to do or have the consequences from the teacher or school. My kids were great about making sure they had everything they needed for the day and they were really selective about what they chose to ask me to bring to school as their forgotten item. After all, if you can only ask for one forgotten thing, you tend to wonder if it's "ask worthy."
