breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Feb 6, 2017 16:13:31 GMT
For driving her to school for the 2nd time in a week?
7:30 told her to get up 7:40 ripped the covers off 7:50 started yelling 8:00 started threatening, she rubs her eyes and yawns 8:10 she still hasn't made it downstairs it takes 5 minutes to walk to the bus stop and the bus is here at 8:25...
I can't make her walk since it's 2.5 miles, so I will drive her and she'll have to pay me back for my time, but with what/how?
I'm probably extra frustrated since my 3 year old is sick (and I'll have to take him with me to drop dd off) and my other two kids have a case of extreme ADD this morning and can't walk across a room without forgetting what they are doing.
Looking up bullhorns on Amazon... that would be fun to wake up to...
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Post by librarylady on Feb 6, 2017 16:18:54 GMT
Glass of water on the face of the sleeping one works also. It will feel cold even if it is not.
Very early bed time, no electronics in her room. "Obviously you need more rest since you could not wake up this morning."
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Post by librarylady on Feb 6, 2017 16:19:45 GMT
Lots of cleaning, vacuuming, dusting in her future.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Feb 6, 2017 16:20:18 GMT
(((hugs)))
Sounds like you are really frustrated with a bunch of stuff going on in your life right now.
Before you jump to punish, is there any chance that 12 yr old is getting sick with what 3 yr old has? That would make it harder to get out of bed and get going.
If it's really a case of true disrespect for your time (is this an ongoing theme in your life or a this week thing?) then I would impose chores to be done when she'd normally being doing something she'd rather do (like watch tv). Have the chore be something that you would usually do, but she'll do to free up your time.
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Post by bc2ca on Feb 6, 2017 16:20:31 GMT
How old is she? Not sure how to price out the cost of chauffeur service, but in our house the consequence for not getting up in the morning was to be sent to bed earlier with no screens at least an hour before bedtime. ETA ha - was looking for the age in the OP, missed it in the thread title, but doesn't change my response.
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Post by peabay on Feb 6, 2017 16:21:45 GMT
She'd be going to bed early - lights out, no electronics - for 2 days. Any time she can't get up in the morning? She goes to bed early the next night. Homework is done as soon as she gets home from school and it's into bed early.
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Post by tuva42 on Feb 6, 2017 16:22:03 GMT
Every time she misses the bus she goes to bed an hour earlier for a week.
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Post by pelirroja on Feb 6, 2017 16:22:14 GMT
Here's what I did: I called the taxicab company and asked them for the going rate for the ride from our house to the school: $13.00 for one-way trip. I offered ONE free ride per year: any additional rides they'd have to pay up from chore/allowance and babysitting money. Not doing chores for me but actual cold hard cash, pieces of paper with presidents on them, something that they would see and feel.
After endless nagging my dd to get out of bed, I let her sleep in. When she finally awoke at 10:30 she seemed a little surprised it was so sunny outside. When she saw the time on the clock, she freaked out. Since the 4 miles to school was too far to walk and she had already used the freebie, she asked me for a ride. I told her $13 and just like the cab company, you gotta pay up first or the car doesn't go. I spoke in the calmest, coolest most rational-sounding voice I could muster.
She fixed her ways after that. It never happened a second time. Best thing I ever did: way more effective than airhorns, yanking covers off, or pleading.
I know it sounds bitchy of me, but it really worked.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Feb 6, 2017 16:22:15 GMT
Glass of water on the face of the sleeping one works also. Wow. Maybe you said that in jest, and I'm just not reading it how you meant, but that is harsh. What an unkind and shitty thing to suggest.
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Post by kristi521 on Feb 6, 2017 16:22:50 GMT
I am having my 13 year old DD do extra chores around the house lately because we have taken away her phone (and silly me, I am not happy about paying for a phone that isn't being used). She has cleaned the stove, gave the dog a bath, made a dish that needed for a party we went to. None of it is back breaking work, but I am hoping maybe she will think twice next time she wants to do what she did to get grounded in the first place. Maybe giving extra chores would work for you as well?
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Post by jennyap on Feb 6, 2017 16:27:18 GMT
Here's what I did: I called the taxicab company and asked them for the going rate for the ride from our house to the school $13.00 for one-way trip. I offered ONE free ride per year: any additional rides they'd have to pay up from chore/allowance and babysitting money. Not doing chores for me but actual cold hard cash, pieces of paper with presidents on them, something that they would feel. After endless nagging my dd to get out of bed, I let her sleep in. When she finally awoke at 10:30 she seemed a little surprised it was so sunny outside. When she saw the time on the clock, she freaked out. Since the 4 miles to school was too far to walk, she asked for a ride. I told her $13 and just like the cab company, you gotta pay up first or the car doesn't go. I spoke in the calmest, coolest most rational-sounding voice I could muster. She fixed her ways after that. Best thing I ever did: way more effective than airhorns, yanking covers off, or pleading. I know it sounds bitchy of me, but it really worked.
I think that is perfect. Except I'd charge for a return journey, because you as the driver have to go both ways to get back home.
Alternatively, I would flat out refuse to drive her. Then it's a choice between walking, or missing school and all the attendant consequences that brings. Missing school would also mean a day full of chores - no time to relax and have fun.
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Post by GiantsFan on Feb 6, 2017 16:30:06 GMT
Have her go to bed earlier with no TV, phone, ipod, or the other electronics.
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Post by pelirroja on Feb 6, 2017 16:33:02 GMT
jennyap : I hadn't thought to charge for the return trip. Darn, I missed out on some extra bucks! DD is now an incredibly responsible college sophomore with several 8 a.m. classes. That's something I could never have imagined would happen. She really changed her ways. Her sister (my younger DD) is up so early, she wakes the roosters up (almost). 
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Post by GamGam on Feb 6, 2017 16:39:31 GMT
I would be firm about a 12 year old being responsible for using an alarm clock ( or cell phone, whatever) for getting herself up each morning. That is her responsibility--not yours. But I would not wake her each school day. And if she doesn't cooperate, the consequences need to be known in advance--whatever currency you have determined.
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Post by realm on Feb 6, 2017 16:41:02 GMT
I would be making her go to bed 1/2 hr earlier and keep adding time until she is able to get up on time for school. As for making up for the drive? maybe have her do some chores that you weren't able to do due to the time spent driving her to school.
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breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Feb 6, 2017 16:41:07 GMT
So she stumbled out the door (no breakfast), walked about snail speed to the bus stop (I watched her out the window) and hasn't came back home telling me she missed the bus, so she lucked out.
The walk to school is partially unsidewalked so not really safe, although there are two gigantic hills that would be fun to watch DD walk up to get to school...
She hates PE and today is a PE day... on non PE days she is not as hard to get out the door. And she has never been a morning person.
I'm going to make a sign with my taxi service fee on it and post it somewhere...
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Post by annabella on Feb 6, 2017 16:41:42 GMT
Does she get breakfast with cutting the time so close?
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Post by Deleted on Feb 6, 2017 16:45:34 GMT
A cow bell works well too.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 6, 2017 16:50:28 GMT
Glass of water on the face of the sleeping one works also. Wow. Maybe you said that in jest, and I'm just not reading it how you meant, but that is harsh. What an unkind and shitty thing to suggest. My husband's mother used a squirt gun. Once! Husband never was late for school again.
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Post by librarylady on Feb 6, 2017 16:58:43 GMT
Glass of water on the face of the sleeping one works also. Wow. Maybe you said that in jest, and I'm just not reading it how you meant, but that is harsh. What an unkind and shitty thing to suggest. Jest. I should have put a smiley so you'd know.
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Post by Sparki on Feb 6, 2017 17:08:52 GMT
Glass of water on the face of the sleeping one works also. Wow. Maybe you said that in jest, and I'm just not reading it how you meant, but that is harsh. What an unkind and shitty thing to suggest. May be harsh, but that's what my great grandmother (who raised me) did to me. Actually, a wet wash cloth, so no wet bed, but same results! Only had to do it once, too! It worked. Save
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Post by suzastampin on Feb 6, 2017 17:40:29 GMT
Two very annoying sounding alarm clocks on the opposite side of the room so that she has to get out of bed to shut them off. Set them a few minutes apart so they continue going off with the snooze one after the other. Then, if she still doesn't get up, there's no taxi service. She misses school and does chores around home all day. If she has her books and can get assignments, then she can stop after chores to do the homework. Only had to do this once.  . Now, my daughter was an 80s girl who had to have her hair teased up so she looked like a cockatiel. LOL. It was harder getting her away from the mirror and Aqua Net. 
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Post by peagia13 on Feb 6, 2017 17:42:01 GMT
Her allowance or other income will be diverted to pay for my trip to a Starbucks for a treat. $7.
Each and every time this happens, the price goes up.
My mother kept a plastic cup filled with marbles in the freezer. When my brother refused to get up, she dumped cold marbles into their beds. It worked.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Feb 6, 2017 17:42:20 GMT
I would definitely roll back bedtime AND wake up time as a method for future days, effective immediately. My DD needs an hour and 15 minutes before she leaves the house. We learned through experience not to try any less than that. I also insist on seeing her standing on the floor before I stop bugging her, and on the 2nd time I go into her room, I take her phone with me so that she has to come get it. I don't play the "go back to sleep" game anymore. My out of bed routine looks like this: alarm, potty, let dogs out, feed cats, wake DD, let dogs in, feed dogs, go back and pitch a fit/sing off key/take a phone if DD isn't up. I would like to improve this process by having her alarm wake her up, but she is such a deep sleeper that all attempts have failed thus far.
For paying you back for your time, she should do some chores you would normally do that take about the amount of time it took away from your day.
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Post by pmm on Feb 6, 2017 17:51:54 GMT
I agree with 1/2 hour earlier to bed than normal. And increase it a 1/2 hour more every night until she gets up without all the fanfare.
I would also get her an alarm clock so that she is responsible for setting it and getting out of bed in the morning. You can be the back up to the clock until she is used to setting it and getting up in the morning.
The idea for taxi fees is great too.
My oldest never had a problem being up and out the door on time for school. My youngest was another story. He didn't want to ride the bus either. I finally told him that if I had to take him to school, I would be taking him in my old ratty robe; pjs, and slippers. My hair is short and is wild in the morning before I take a shower...I dubbed it "Medusa hair". Not a pretty picture is it? I also told him that I would be parking the car and walking him into the school for all his friends to see. I would loudly wish him a wonderful school day and give him a big sloppy momma kiss in front of everyone and make sure to wave until he disappeared. I never had to take him to school.
I highly doubt the PDA was an issue. This was my marching band kid that would kiss and hug me good bye and tell me that he loved me in the middle of the bleachers in front of all his band buddies and band parents when I left the game.
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Post by Tammiem2pnc1 on Feb 6, 2017 17:52:36 GMT
Glass of water on the face of the sleeping one works also. Wow. Maybe you said that in jest, and I'm just not reading it how you meant, but that is harsh. What an unkind and shitty thing to suggest. That's how my dad would get me out of bed in the mornings if I didn't wake up after several warnings. It's really not harsh if it's something you deal with on a regular basis. I only had it done twice my entire time I went to school.
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Post by lesley on Feb 6, 2017 17:55:25 GMT
Glass of water on the face of the sleeping one works also. Wow. Maybe you said that in jest, and I'm just not reading it how you meant, but that is harsh. What an unkind and shitty thing to suggest. I used to squirt my DS with cold water to get him out of bed. Nothing else was working. After this happened two or three times, the threat of it was enough. In fact, I think I need to reinstate this now that he is 19, as it is even more difficult to get him out of bed. He gets himself up for college, but if he has a day off, he can easily stay in bed until 3pm. Drives me crazy.
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Post by flanz on Feb 6, 2017 17:57:37 GMT
Here's what I did: I called the taxicab company and asked them for the going rate for the ride from our house to the school: $13.00 for one-way trip. I offered ONE free ride per year: any additional rides they'd have to pay up from chore/allowance and babysitting money. Not doing chores for me but actual cold hard cash, pieces of paper with presidents on them, something that they would see and feel. After endless nagging my dd to get out of bed, I let her sleep in. When she finally awoke at 10:30 she seemed a little surprised it was so sunny outside. When she saw the time on the clock, she freaked out. Since the 4 miles to school was too far to walk and she had already used the freebie, she asked me for a ride. I told her $13 and just like the cab company, you gotta pay up first or the car doesn't go. I spoke in the calmest, coolest most rational-sounding voice I could muster. She fixed her ways after that. It never happened a second time. Best thing I ever did: way more effective than airhorns, yanking covers off, or pleading. I know it sounds bitchy of me, but it really worked. not bitchy smart!
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Post by anonrefugee on Feb 6, 2017 18:09:50 GMT
How old is she? Not sure how to price out the cost of chauffeur service, but in our house the consequence for not getting up in the morning was to be sent to bed earlier with no screens at least an hour before bedtime. ETA ha - was looking for the age in the OP, missed it in the thread title, but doesn't change my response. That was tactic used here. One son required several setbacks on bed time before he understood the punishment, and gained a needed half hour of sleep.
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Post by myshelly on Feb 6, 2017 18:15:31 GMT
Wow. Maybe you said that in jest, and I'm just not reading it how you meant, but that is harsh. What an unkind and shitty thing to suggest. I used to squirt my DS with cold water to get him out of bed. Nothing else was working. After this happened two or three times, the threat of it was enough. In fact, I think I need to reinstate this now that he is 19, as it is even more difficult to get him out of bed. He gets himself up for college, but if he has a day off, he can easily stay in bed until 3pm. Drives me crazy. Why? He's 19. Why would you get him out of bed on his day off?
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