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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 16, 2014 19:13:38 GMT
I didn't think I would be, but I am. I am a giant puddle of mommy-mush.  I just said good bye to my first born...for various reasons, his dad is the one taking him to move in day for his college 8 hours and two states away. He just left to go to his dad's to finish packing (they are leaving tomorrow first thing) and I could hardly even let go of him. I thought that I would be better prepared, we are a divided family and I am very used to him being gone for periods of time-but he always came home. This time? Not for a really long time and I am a lot sadder than I thought I would be. |
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Post by Cheesy on Aug 16, 2014 19:17:38 GMT
Aww mom, you go right ahead and be sad. I'll be right there with you soon.
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Post by scrapaddie on Aug 16, 2014 19:19:01 GMT
We are allowed. They never stop being our babies.
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Post by Anita on Aug 16, 2014 19:19:16 GMT
I completely understand! My daughter leaves for college on Wednesday. She'll only be 1 1/2 hours away, but I'm still going to be a puddle of emotions.
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Post by I-95 on Aug 16, 2014 19:23:48 GMT
Awwwww. {{{BIG HUGS}}}
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Post by lesley on Aug 16, 2014 19:25:34 GMT
I would be howling right there with you. My DD has postponed going to university until next year so I'm getting an extra year of having her home. Not sure that's a good thing TBH!
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Post by cahwoo on Aug 16, 2014 19:29:02 GMT
( Hug) Your a mom and moms are allowed to be sad when your kid leaves home for whatever reason.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Aug 16, 2014 19:31:07 GMT
*hugs*!!!!! Eat some ice cream that always makes things better!
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Post by ljsmom on Aug 16, 2014 19:31:32 GMT
Oh , hugs to you!!
They are always our babies!!
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Post by airforcemomof1 on Aug 16, 2014 19:37:20 GMT
Hugs!! I know just how you feel! I remember that day well. He was only about 30 minutes away but I cried all the way home. I knew life would never be the same. It was super hard to come back to an empty house. But that's why we parent--to prepare them to be on their own and to be successful. And, yes, life is not the same but it's good--for him and me.
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Post by Jili on Aug 16, 2014 19:42:31 GMT
I get it. We just took our dd to school on Thursday. It's been a weird couple of days. The littlest thing still makes me tear up. I don't think it's really even hit me yet that she won't be home anytime soon.
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Post by newfcathy on Aug 16, 2014 19:44:07 GMT
My only child, ds, leaves for college next Monday!!
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Post by anniebygaslight on Aug 16, 2014 19:47:38 GMT
It took me ages to stop settiing a place at the table for mine when they went to university. It takes some getting used to.
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Post by caro on Aug 16, 2014 19:53:54 GMT
Oh gosh, do I remember those days.  . What was hardest for me was last child getting married. I walked into his room and realized he was not coming "home " again and I lost it. |
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 16, 2014 19:56:46 GMT
I just thought that I wouldn't be so emotional but I am walking all around the house like I just lost my best friend. Which I did in a way. |
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Post by Memo on Aug 16, 2014 19:56:55 GMT
I totally get it. We will be taking my son up to college on Wednesday. He'll be 3-1/2 hours away.
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Post by akathy on Aug 16, 2014 20:13:21 GMT
That's ok Mom. My DD's left home for good a week apart. One went to Texas and the other went to Ohio. When the last one left I sat on my porch and cried my eyes out |
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Post by monklady123 on Aug 16, 2014 20:15:52 GMT
Well eight hours and two states away is far! Mine is only three hours away so that's not bad at all. Sometimes I wonder how my mom dealt with it -- I went 14 hours away (Pittsburgh to Worcester, MA). My first year there I didn't get home till Christmas. And I'm not even sure we had Parents Weekend but if we did there's no way they could have come when it was so far.
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Post by J u l e e on Aug 16, 2014 20:40:21 GMT
Awwwww! I'm sorry. Big hugs!
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Post by anniebeth24 on Aug 16, 2014 21:01:48 GMT
Hugs to you. I was "that mom" one year ago. The house felt SO quiet without DD and I felt like I was missing a limb. Best wishes.
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Post by KelleeM on Aug 16, 2014 21:05:40 GMT
Oh...it's okay to cry!! My kids didn't go to college and my experience with becoming an empty nester was much different than most. I can imagine having your child, who really isn't a child any longer, go away is really difficult. We're here for you! ((((hugs))))
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Post by scraptag on Aug 16, 2014 21:06:17 GMT
I'm feeling sad and emotional for you. I am sure I will be the same when mine leave.
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Post by billstergirl on Aug 16, 2014 21:09:07 GMT
i can totally relate!! My son will be 9 hours away as of next Friday. He lives with his dad so I am used to not seeing him on a daily basis but this is hard to get used to. We went to lunch yesterday and he asked if I was going to miss him. I lost it right there in the middle of Golden Corral!! I'm tearing up as I type this... Ugh I am a sap! He just smiled and reassured me that everything was going to be ok, which of course made me tear up even more. Where will your ds be going to school?
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Post by auntkelly on Aug 16, 2014 21:16:07 GMT
My husband will be driving my son back to school in Indiana today and tomorrow. We live in Texas, so it's a long way! He is starting his senior year, so I know he'll never be coming back home again for summer vacation.
Tomorrow I'll drive my daughter back to school in Oklahoma.
Our house will be very quiet the next few weeks and I'll miss them a lot.
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Post by wiipii2 on Aug 16, 2014 21:27:08 GMT
I'll be joining you in the crying in 2 weeks. I have no idea how I'm going to drive away leaving her there. Getting all teary just thinking about it.
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Post by Sassenach on Aug 16, 2014 21:33:33 GMT
Hugs. I hope you can go for a weekend visit soon.
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Post by 1lear on Aug 16, 2014 21:55:40 GMT
Awww, it's so hard to watch them leave the nest.
DD2 left today for her second year of college; DD1 leaves next weekend for her third year. I hate how quiet the house becomes with just DH, DS, and me left.
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Post by trollie on Aug 16, 2014 22:11:30 GMT
I **AM** going to be that mom too. I'm going to try to keep up a brave front, but I'm sure I'll be crumbling inside.
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Post by donna on Aug 16, 2014 22:26:08 GMT
I didn't have too much problem with the boys going off to college. It has been the after college that has been hard.
The youngest moved 4 hours away in May. He has only been able to come home twice since then. I am so proud that he is trying to take full responsibility for his living expenses, but it has been hard.
The oldest will be leaving for basic training in a few weeks. This is really getting to me because I will not be able to talk to him for a long time.
My dh keeps reminding me that we raised them to one day leave the nest.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2014 22:28:16 GMT
I am very used to him being gone for periods of time-but he always came home. This time? Not for a really long time and I am a lot sadder than I thought I would be. This is exactly why and it's ok. I have a feeling I'll be the same way if/when my kids go off to college. BUT! Remember, they always come home. |
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. What was hardest for me was last child getting married. I walked into his room and realized he was not coming "home " again and I lost it. 
