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Post by kandie on Aug 17, 2014 15:17:39 GMT
My oldest DD is a sophmore this year. her friends are starting to drive. her best friends boyfriend is 17. They just left to go to the mall. it is scarey! I don't like this growing up stuff!
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 17, 2014 15:21:15 GMT
I've never had a huge issue with that. Of course, my kids are young and ride with their friend's older siblings.
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 17, 2014 15:27:01 GMT
Yep.
My youngest just got his very own set of wheels and is hell bent on driving any where and every where he can- no matter how boring the errand. It is kind of scary...but the older one just left for college so in my mommy-mush crying jag last night I had a revelation and realized that all of these worries are more about my loss of control over their world and less about their ability to be successful without me in it.
So...I don't know. It is scary, but hopefully we have done our jobs to the point that they are fully functioning, independent adults and we can rest easy in that?
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Post by momto4kiddos on Aug 17, 2014 15:34:09 GMT
My oldest DD is a sophmore this year. her friends are starting to drive. her best friends boyfriend is 17. They just left to go to the mall. it is scarey! I don't like this growing up stuff! Yep it is scary, but it does get easier with time. |
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Post by Tamhugh on Aug 17, 2014 15:36:11 GMT
The first time my oldest backed out of the driveway alone, I honestly thought I was going to throw up. He is a really good driver, but it still scared me. My youngest... I only feel sick when I have to drive with him.  He makes me so nervous behind the wheel and he is 21. |
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Aug 17, 2014 17:30:40 GMT
Yep. My youngest just got his very own set of wheels and is hell bent on driving any where and every where he can- no matter how boring the errand. It is kind of scary...but the older one just left for college so in my mommy-mush crying jag last night I had a revelation and realized that all of these worries are more about my loss of control over their world and less about their ability to be successful without me in it. So...I don't know. It is scary, but hopefully we have done our jobs to the point that they are fully functioning, independent adults and we can rest easy in that? Great insight! The loss of control is really the root of most of my worries if my dd growing older/driving/off to college. I still want to protect her even though the entire goal was to raise her to be independent. |
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Post by pattipea on Aug 17, 2014 17:50:57 GMT
My oldest GRANDCHILD just got his driver's license last week. (I have no idea how that happened - I'm not near old enough to have a grandchild driving yet.) It's tough to watch him drive away!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2014 17:53:37 GMT
Yep. My youngest just got his very own set of wheels and is hell bent on driving any where and every where he can- no matter how boring the errand. It is kind of scary...but the older one just left for college so in my mommy-mush crying jag last night I had a revelation and realized that all of these worries are more about my loss of control over their world and less about their ability to be successful without me in it. So...I don't know. It is scary, but hopefully we have done our jobs to the point that they are fully functioning, independent adults and we can rest easy in that? Great insight! I'm not sure how many people have given thought to the end goal of raising kids. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Aug 17, 2014 18:49:16 GMT
If they are newly licensed friends, there may be rules of how many unrelated minors (and even related) they can drive and what hours they are allowed to do that. Here, for a year you are not allowed to drive any minors even siblings officially but I let DD drive DS. You can also not drive between 11 pm and 5 am.
I know a mom who won't let her newly licensed DD drive her other DD except for school and band...no outings with friends, etc.
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Post by mallie on Aug 17, 2014 19:36:49 GMT
My oldest dd very quickly decided she did not want to drive with other teens behind the wheel after too many scary driving incidents. So she always drove herself. After listening to her stories and at one point realizing she was honestly the only kid in her large group who had not gotten a ticket for speeding or reckless driving, I made it a rule for the rest of them. They drive or they don't go.
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Post by maryland on Aug 17, 2014 19:38:00 GMT
I remember a few years ago, my neighbor told me that the hardest thing ever about having teens is giving them the key to the car. Her daughters are very responsible drivers, but you can't trust the others on the road, and teens are not experienced drivers. My other neighbor said the hardest thing was when her sons rode in cars with other teen drivers.
I have a 17 yr. old daughter, my oldest, and I agree that that is the thing I worry about more than anything.
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Post by motherlemur on Aug 17, 2014 20:08:11 GMT
I have a 15 year old daughter and many of her friends are older and already drive. It still scares me, but dd is a responsible kid and knows that we will come get her anywhere at any time if she is uncomfortable getting in a car with anyone. She also knows to text me when they are going from one place to another so we know where she is. There are certainly parts of being a parent that are A LOT easier when kids are younger...
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 17, 2014 20:16:34 GMT
My oldest was hit by a driver turning on the highway. He was going 50mph. His younger brother should have been with him. It was dark and I was driving to work and went right past him since the ambulance was right behind me. It didn't look like his car, it was smashed. He ended up with a major concussion, shoulder surgery and is still having spasms and brain problems. It is scary. I thank God he was wearing his seatbelt and his phone was not being used. We checked. Nothing is more precious than your children.
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Post by pattipea on Aug 17, 2014 22:14:58 GMT
My oldest was hit by a driver turning on the highway. He was going 50mph. His younger brother should have been with him. It was dark and I was driving to work and went right past him since the ambulance was right behind me. It didn't look like his car, it was smashed. He ended up with a major concussion, shoulder surgery and is still having spasms and brain problems. It is scary. I thank God he was wearing his seatbelt and his phone was not being used. We checked. Nothing is more precious than your children. Thank God, indeed, that it was no worse! |
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Aug 18, 2014 0:49:33 GMT
My oldest was hit by a driver turning on the highway. He was going 50mph. His younger brother should have been with him. It was dark and I was driving to work and went right past him since the ambulance was right behind me. It didn't look like his car, it was smashed. He ended up with a major concussion, shoulder surgery and is still having spasms and brain problems. It is scary. I thank God he was wearing his seatbelt and his phone was not being used. We checked. Nothing is more precious than your children. So glad he's OK. Yes, I was also more scared watching him go off w/a teen friend than when I let him drive by himself for the first time, so I hear ya! Like everyone said, it does get easier over time. Yep. My youngest just got his very own set of wheels and is hell bent on driving any where and every where he can- no matter how boring the errand. It is kind of scary...but the older one just left for college so in my mommy-mush crying jag last night I had a revelation and realized that all of these worries are more about my loss of control over their world and less about their ability to be successful without me in it. So...I don't know. It is scary, but hopefully we have done our jobs to the point that they are fully functioning, independent adults and we can rest easy in that? Really well put and very true! |
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 18, 2014 0:57:55 GMT
My oldest was hit by a driver turning on the highway. He was going 50mph. His younger brother should have been with him. It was dark and I was driving to work and went right past him since the ambulance was right behind me. It didn't look like his car, it was smashed. He ended up with a major concussion, shoulder surgery and is still having spasms and brain problems. It is scary. I thank God he was wearing his seatbelt and his phone was not being used. We checked. Nothing is more precious than your children. We live in the country and people running stop signs or pulling out into traffic is very scary. The roads once you leave "town" are 65 mph and most people speed, so higher than that. The crashes on the roads are horrible. Last May, two high school boys were killed when they pulled out into traffic. May of 2013, one of DS's friend's father was killed when he was driving down the road and some ass ran a stop sign. We have multiple fatalities on the roads within 20 or so miles every year. It is scary driving down these roads, and more so right now while the corn is so high you can't see if someone is coming. |
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He makes me so nervous behind the wheel and he is 21.
