brandy327
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Post by brandy327 on Aug 18, 2014 0:57:46 GMT
...but today, I was a bit petty and even a little mean. Thankfully it was all in my mind but I feel a little guilty. LOL
Do you ever think something and then be like "wow, that was harsh"?
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 18, 2014 0:59:35 GMT
Yep,I typically follow it with, "I'm going straight to hell"
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Post by christine58 on Aug 18, 2014 1:01:13 GMT
Yep,I typically follow it with, "I'm going straight to hell" Followed by "but I'll have a lot of company with me"...LOL.. Brandy You are one of the kindest peas here...cannot image you being nasty...but do tell!! |
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Post by hollymolly on Aug 18, 2014 1:03:21 GMT
Yep.
Every once in a long while, something pops right out of my mouth and it's like "where did that come from?" Of course then it's too late, other people have heard me say this thing that I can't imagine saying.
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Post by Lexica on Aug 18, 2014 1:03:24 GMT
Yes, and I'm really grateful it didn't come out of my mouth. Then I wonder why my reaction was so harsh. What is going on with me to make me think something that mean. It seems to happen to me the most when it is too hot outside. I don't function well in the heat and I guess it makes me ornery.
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brandy327
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Post by brandy327 on Aug 18, 2014 1:15:40 GMT
Yep,I typically follow it with, "I'm going straight to hell" Followed by "but I'll have a lot of company with me"...LOL.. Brandy You are one of the kindest peas here...cannot image you being nasty...but do tell!! I was friends with this girl for several years before realizing that she was extremely judgmental, extremely materialistic and downright mean to people (behind their backs, of course). When I realized that I didn't like the person I was when I was with her and because she was raising her dd to be just like her and I didn't want my girls around that, I distanced myself. I was never mean or rude, I just distanced myself. She started vague-booking on FB and that validated that I did the right thing. Even now, almost 2 years later, she STILL is randomly posting stuff on FB that pertains to me...there have been a couple of instances where what she posted was very specific to a situation I was in so there was no mistaking it was about me. I'm easy going and let it roll off my back because I hate that kind of crap on FB. She ended up deleting the posts after only a few hours. Anyway, one of the things that bothered me a lot about her was that she was very harsh when it came to the way people dressed or the way they looked...and honestly now that I think about it, WHY were we even friends? I've been overweight my entire life and while I'm losing weight, I'm not a knockout or even close. I think I was more a friend of convenience. She didn't know anyone in town and neither did I. I saw her today at a neighbor's party after not seeing her in a long time. And she's gained a substantial amount of weight since I've seen her last. I seriously LOL'd in my head when I saw her. Because she did not look good. She looked awkward, uncomfortable and unhappy. She's becoming the type of person she used to laugh at and make rude comments about. And all the weight she's gained? I've lost. We're very close to the same weight now...and it made me feel good about myself. Petty. Yep, sure the hell was/is. Mean? Yeah, a little bit. But I was extremely civil and chatted with her for a while. And her personality hasn't changed a bit. I thought those things...but after I got home, I actually felt a little sorry for her. They moved 45 mins away about a year ago and she does NOT make friends easily due to her personality. Even after being there for a year, she has no friends. She comes back to our little town to visit the 2 friends she has left here. Anywho...that's it in a nutshell. Goin' to hell? Yeah, probably. But I'll be in good company!  |
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Post by brandy327 on Aug 18, 2014 1:16:59 GMT
Yep. Every once in a long while, something pops right out of my mouth and it's like "where did that come from?" Of course then it's too late, other people have heard me say this thing that I can't imagine saying. Thankfully, everything I thought stayed IN my head and didn't escape out of my mouth!! |
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 18, 2014 1:20:10 GMT
Yeah, those thoughts are not sending you anywhere.
You sound like someone who was hurt and then was happy that the person who hurt you wasn't perfect, just for a moment. Then you felt bad. Sounds like you have a lot of empathy in you.
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Post by bluepoprocks on Aug 18, 2014 1:27:58 GMT
I don't just think harsh things I say them and then I feel bad. It's something I struggle with. I have to learn to keep some things to myself. I don't want to hurt peoples feelings stuff just comes out before I think about what I'm saying and then I regret it.
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Post by akathy on Aug 18, 2014 1:29:24 GMT
Yes and sometimes it does come out of my mouth so I'm very thankful when I only think it.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 18, 2014 1:50:39 GMT
Followed by "but I'll have a lot of company with me"...LOL.. Brandy You are one of the kindest peas here...cannot image you being nasty...but do tell!! And all the weight she's gained? I've lost. Karma. She's got a 'tude!  And now, I'll go do some random act of kindness to even out my own karma.  |
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Post by brandy327 on Aug 18, 2014 1:56:20 GMT
And all the weight she's gained? I've lost. Karma. She's got a 'tude! And now, I'll go do some random act of kindness to even out my own karma. Ooooh - that's a good idea. I think I'll be doing a RAK as well. I do believe in that bitch they call karma. |
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Post by purplebee on Aug 18, 2014 2:07:09 GMT
Brandy, you are the soul of restraint! Good for you for only thinking it and not saying it. No reason to feel guilty, give yourself a pat on the back for holding back. Not sure I could have done the same after reading the details.
I'm going back to work tomorrow after summer vacation, and one co-worker is a royal PITA. I must try hard to keep my mouth shut. You will be my inspiration!
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Post by caro on Aug 18, 2014 2:11:02 GMT
Do you ever think something and then be like "wow, that was harsh"?
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Did you read my epic water park thread and overweight women in bikinis? That was me thinking it out loud and writing it on a message board. ooops
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Post by shanni on Aug 18, 2014 2:21:14 GMT
I catch myself thinking really snarky things all the time. Unfortunately, it also comes out my mouth on rare occasions. I hate it when I do that, and I'm trying really hard to work on even THINKING those things so that they will stop popping out of my mouth!
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Post by PEArfect on Aug 18, 2014 2:39:07 GMT
I only judge my thoughts or actions when it comes to my daughters. "Mother's guilt"
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 18, 2014 2:45:53 GMT
Yep,I typically follow it with, "I'm going straight to hell" Whenever my friend does or says something mean, she always says she can feel the fires licking her ankles. |
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Post by brandy327 on Aug 18, 2014 2:48:36 GMT
Yep,I typically follow it with, "I'm going straight to hell" Whenever my friend does or says something mean, she always says she can feel the fires licking her ankles. LOLOLOL! I'm going to use that from now on!!! |
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