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Post by dulcemama on Aug 19, 2014 19:06:33 GMT
My Dad passed away before DD was born. We have always talked to her about him and told her stories about him but she is now asking for a more complete picture of him as a person. I have an idea of the types of things I want to share with her but want to make sure that I am covering all the angles. What types of things would you include when talking about a deceased family member?
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Post by Sam on Aug 19, 2014 19:13:25 GMT
I would say a mix of who he was (his personality, stories about your time with him, funny stories, day to day stuff) and what he did (his kind of chronology - his work, bit of a timeline, how many siblings he had, that sort of thing).
When my Grandmother died (and I did know her) I was surprised at the amount I didn't seem to know about her. Facts which fascinated me and most of those where about things she did or achieved. I knew her personality but not how she had lived, if that makes sense.
Ask your daughter what she wants to know and answer those questions as they come up - one may lead to another and a natural progression of his story for her.
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Post by dulcemama on Aug 19, 2014 19:50:19 GMT
Thank you Sam. That helps. It just seems like such a big subject. I know I can never convey who he was completely and DD will never know him in the same way she would if she met him, but I want to come as close as possible.
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Aug 19, 2014 20:00:44 GMT
How he met grandma? What was their relationship like? What did you do with him as your grandpa? Go fishing? Cook?
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valleyview
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Post by valleyview on Aug 19, 2014 20:39:19 GMT
You might want to include traits shared by living members of the family. Also include those random things that make you think about him - for example- I hate tobacco smoke except pipe smoke because it makes me remember by grandfather. Baking gingerbread makes me think of my other grandfather. Who might have your dad's eyes? What foods did he love or hate?
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eastcoastpea
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Post by eastcoastpea on Aug 20, 2014 0:24:10 GMT
Include what made him stand out from other people. How he affected your life, for example your love of nature or pickles... Did he have any words of wisdom that he regularly shared? This is one from my husband's grandfather, "I'm not worried about the coughing. I'm worried about the coffin they carry you off in."
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