On vacation do you and your DH/SO have vastly different idea

I'm similar to your DH and dh is similar to you.
I figure if it is a place I haven't been, I want to see and do as much as I can. I do like some down time, but I also want to do.

A beach vacation is perfect because I do love sitting on the balcony listening to the surf and watching the ocean, so I make sure I leave plenty of time to do that.

Dh jokes that we need a vacation from our vacation.

DH is more of the down time person and I'm more of an activities person. I try to adjust my expectations for him and enjoy the down time as well. We compromise with at least one activity per day and down time everyday. On our recent vacation it worked perfectly. I felt like I got to get out and have fun and see the place, but we still had lots of time to sit and relax as well.

We do need to be more in shape for the next one though. I wore us out running around all over the place.

No to your thread title, yes to your last questions If we're on a beach holiday we want sun, sea and sand and good food, total relaxation, but if we're on a more cultural /exploring/city break/adventurous trip we both like to cram as much in as poss without exhausting ourselves! 😊

We travel well together, which is good because that tends to be our 'thing'.

The only issue arises because I'm an introvert and I need time to sit still and read. DH invariably gets bored and insists on talking to me. This isn't really a travel issue so much as a daily life issue, though.

DH likes to be active; I want to sit and relax. Every night after work and most weekends, DH sits on the couch and watches TV. Meanwhile, I am cooking, doing laundry, cleaning, filling out school forms, paying bills, getting groceries, correcting papers, etc. I need the rare vacation we take to rest.

I'm hoping I will be more rested when we become empty nesters this fall. Then we can do some active vacations.

We are pretty similar. We both enjoy a mix of activities and relaxing time. He is definitely not a shopper, so if we are someplace and I want to shop he will find something else to do.

We travel well together and are mostly in sync with what we want to do but we are on slightly different sleep schedules. I get up early, head down to the pool with our stuff and spend the day there reading, swimming, people watching, listening to music, etc. He sleeps in and will come down a little before lunch and hang out for a while, swim, have a few drinks, etc. We might both go back to the room for a nap then we'll figure out dinner, have a night cap or two someplace then call it a day. And repeat.

We like to relax and sleep.


In fact my husband just took a 3 day weekend. I had a ton of movies and we went to a movies. He said it was the best vacation he every took.

I look up and over schedule and then once we are there, I throw things out when we don't want to do something.

Maybe overschedule isn't the right word. I find cool things to do and put them on a list of things we might like to do. I don't think that Tuesday we are doing this and Wednesday we are doing that unless it is a ball game.

We travel very well together...it's one of my favourite things. I do tend to do a bit more research/planning, but only so that we can make the most of wherever we are going. Neither of us likes to have every minute accounted for, but we like to have a bit of a plan. We have a similar pace when we are out and about, so we do most things together rather than going off on our own,

Oh! my goodness yes! Totally different. DH is a sport pIlot and is going to 2 different states this summer for events. It takes me about 15 minutes to declare "Yep the planes are really cute, can we go now"?

We haven't vacationed together in years. I'm quite happy holding down the fort alone to avoid total boredom at some airport. I then do thIngs I enjoy without him. It really works well for us.

We don't travel together all that often, usually he goes somewhere with his friends and I go somewhere with mine at different times and whoever is home has DD. We've gone on two real vacations all together since she was born in 2010, both were Disney trips. One was a cruise and the other one we stayed on property at WDW. Both were good vacations because there was a lot to do and see, and we had DD along which made it fun. 

When I'm on vacation, it depends on where I am and what the trip is about. If I'm with friends I can be up early and go, go, go. We're all getting older so we don't tend to stay up/out as late as we used to though. We like to putter around and stop in little towns and stores, take the scenic route. We stop when we need to stretch out our legs, take a potty break (with 3-4 women in one car, that can happen a lot, LOL) or get something to eat. We have a lot of fun together.

If I'm with DH and DD, they tend to sleep in so I do too. I actually don't mind that because if we're all together and don't have our dogs along it's the only time I really can sleep in. DH is very much a get-from-A-to-B, direct route kind of guy. There is no stopping somewhere just because it looks cute or fun, no going off the charted, beaten path. The cruise was nice because there was a lot for a person to do on their own if the other ones wanted to sleep in or rest or whatever.

Let me know if you've got any questions! DH and I got our certification because we were frustrated by the limitations of snorkelling. The boys got certified at 12 & 14.