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Post by utmr on Mar 28, 2017 16:35:34 GMT
DD is really stressed out over her first world problem of which safety school to attend. This despite a housing deposit placed and two lovely suite mates found at the University of Hometown. She is convinced that she is missing something.
There was an article a couple of years ago, perhaps in the New York Times, about playing a role you didn't expect on a stage you never imagined.
Does anyone remember that and perhaps could point me to it?
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Post by peabay on Mar 28, 2017 16:39:01 GMT
If it's about college and it's in the New York Times, it's likely by Frank Bruni. Try looking under his name.
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Post by Merge on Mar 28, 2017 16:41:00 GMT
No, but I'm sorry you're dealing with this. And I'm secretly afraid we may have the same angst in two years, so I'm watching any advice you get carefully.
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Post by peabay on Mar 28, 2017 16:41:35 GMT
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Post by utmr on Mar 28, 2017 17:45:07 GMT
Bruni is the man! The one I was thinking of was "How to survive the college admission madness " from the March 15, 2015 NYT, in case you're looking for it too.
The part I was thinking of was "Play a part they hadn't expected to, in a theatre they hadn't envisioned ".
Now I'm trying to write an email to my beloved DD in the hopes of settling her mind...wish me luck. If I just say here read this she won't, so I need to finnesse it a bit.
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Post by keithurbanlovinpea on Mar 28, 2017 17:56:19 GMT
DD is really stressed out over her first world problem of which safety school to attend. This despite a housing deposit placed and two lovely suite mates found at the University of Hometown. She is convinced that she is missing something. There was an article a couple of years ago, perhaps in the New York Times, about playing a role you didn't expect on a stage you never imagined. Does anyone remember that and perhaps could point me to it? Sigh. My senior DD has this problem too. Unfortunately she goes to a very competitive high school and she feels she pales in comparison to her peers who have grand plans at ivy league schools and future aspirations of saving the world. I try to encourage her to understand that the path is hers to walk. No one else's. And she has no skin in their game either. I am also trying to help her see that her peers with super rigid plans and high expectations may be disappointed when their plans don't go accordingly. There is value in flexibility and being open to change and new experiences. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 28, 2017 18:05:36 GMT
DD is really stressed out over her first world problem of which safety school to attend. This despite a housing deposit placed and two lovely suite mates found at the University of Hometown. She is convinced that she is missing something. There was an article a couple of years ago, perhaps in the New York Times, about playing a role you didn't expect on a stage you never imagined. Does anyone remember that and perhaps could point me to it? No matter which school she chooses she WILL miss something. We humans simply cannot take all possible paths. When we choose one we close the door to the possibilities of all other paths. If she chooses a far off place she will miss the magic, the friendships, the fun and education to be had at University of Hometown. |
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Mar 28, 2017 19:38:19 GMT
We humans simply cannot take all possible paths. When we choose one we close the door to the possibilities of all other paths. I agree with the first part, but not so much with the second part. No matter what path we choose, there are always possibilities and other paths that we can explore later. |
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Post by littlemama on Mar 28, 2017 20:02:43 GMT
I wish the term "safety" school would die out. Unless you are going into a highly specialized field, no one cares where you go to college.
For my DS, the factors for where to apply were:
-Distance from home (wanted to be within 2 hours. His school is 1-3/4 hours away)
-Size of the student body (he did not want something the size of his high school, but he didn't want to be one of 30,000 either. His school has 10,000 students)
-Program he wants to pursue (a couple of the "flagship" state schools don't offer his major, so, while he could have been admitted to any school in our state, they didn't all meet his needs)
-Dorms. One of our flagship schools has some of the crappiest dorms known to mankind. If you aren't comfortable with where you are living, you aren't going to be comfortable there. DS' school has the top rated dorms in our state and is ranked something like 9th in the country.
-Friendliness of the people on campus. He toured another school 1-1/2 hours away in the opposite direction and the first person we met with made his decision easy. She sucked for someone who is supposed to attract students - I won't get into all she did that was borderline offensive, but there was enough of it.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 28, 2017 20:16:03 GMT
We humans simply cannot take all possible paths. When we choose one we close the door to the possibilities of all other paths. I agree with the first part, but not so much with the second part. No matter what path we choose, there are always possibilities and other paths that we can explore later. We can choose other paths later, but the person I was at 18 first starting college is not the same person I was at 19 with a year of college experience. Nor is the person I was at 25, 32, 41, 56, etc the same person. So yes, at that moment for the person who exists at that moment, any choice closes off the other choices for who she is AT THAT MOMENT. |
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Post by papersilly on Mar 28, 2017 20:33:29 GMT
Bruni is the man! The one I was thinking of was "How to survive the college admission madness " from the March 15, 2015 NYT, in case you're looking for it too. that was a really great article. there was an interesting insight into why kids feel compelled to apply to the popular schools they can't otherwise afford. DH's niece who applied to many schools for the same reasons cited in the article. needless to say, she's in a complete angst over hearing back from the schools. i'm going to pass this article on to them. it was a good read. |
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