As a mom, do you get jealous...

I think it is perfect that we Mom's think our babies are the most wonderful, beautiful, amazing creatures ever born. That is what helps us get through the horrid teen years.

But, yes, there were times that I wondered why THAT kid got the positive attention when I KNEW that my kid was smarter or more talented. It's just a parent thing. We love our kids so much.

Sometimes I am jealous of people that have easy kids. My son is not easy.

So, yes, I think I understand izzyscraps. And I don't think either of our feelings are terrible.

Is your daughter okay with how things are? I don't think it's bad the way that you feel. I understand.

I agree with this. And maybe it's because my two have always been so different from each other that I learned really early comparing them was going to be an exercise in futility that I don't often compare my kid to others. Where it really bothers me is that my ex compares them. His disappointment in my son is so apparently that my son can see it and at this point wants nothing to do with his dad. That's sad.

The other moms are probably less chatty with you on Facebook because you aren't close to them in real life. Have you tried joining in the conversation after school or setting up a playdate, etc.?  Does your school have a PTA or a volunteer program?  It can be hard to make friends, but it's going to take some effort on your part to get to know these other parents.

I think it is probably a mom clique than a kid clique. The moms that are heavily involved in school politics tend to flock together and their kids end up becoming friends.

If your daughter is happy, I would let it be. Do what you feel right about as far as birthday party and play date invites.

As a retired teacher, I never friended a parent.  There was just no way I wanted to be involved in the social aspect of my students out of school.  Too much junior high related behavior sometimes.  Get off FB or just keep a few friends who make you feel good.  Your daughter is very young and kindergartners are all so very different.  Don't compare.  She'll pick her own friends when she gets older and that is what should happen.  Not parents picking the friends.

I am having a major struggle right now similar to this.  My dd has some health issues and learning issues.  The latter are minor enough that it wouldn't be a huge deal if not for the health problems but altogether it means she is really struggling with life right now.  She is almost 17 and has missed so much school this year that we have to make the decision this week to continue the year with her doing reduced day as she has been or home bound school.  She's been so ill she hasn't done near enough practice hours to get her driver's license.  She already struggled a bit socially (a tad immature) and with her illness she hasn't had the energy to socialize anyway so between that and missing so much school she has pretty much zero friends other than some she has met online in chronic illness groups. So she doesn't go out with friends won't be going to prom etc.

I get so sad seeing pictures/posts on FB and every other online group of other's kids getting their license, going to prom, checking out colleges, getting first jobs etc.  And knowing that she can't do those things now, though hopefully some of them eventually.  And honestly with her learning issues and lack of academic ambition, it would likely be community college/trade school anyway.  Which is fine, but it's hard to see everyone go on about visiting U of whatever for tours etc and talking SAT scores.  At this point I'm just happy if she's able to pass. 

She's so sad about all of these things and I do my best to not let her see me upset about it too.  But I do want to cry when I see or hear about other teens doing normal things.  She might not even get to graduate on time/with her class.  I'm so angry that she has to deal with all of this and some days it's all to much.  I would totally ditch FB but at the same time that's the only place I can find support groups or her health issues.  So I stay.  I do unfollow people when it get to be too much.  But I still hear/see it other places anyway.

I think for me, it's made worse by the fact that she's an only child.  This is the only chance I have to see my child experience these things and they are passing by forever.  

My youngest doesn't care what I post. I always ask my older one permission before I post about him