zztop11
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Post by zztop11 on Apr 23, 2017 1:04:10 GMT
A professional cuddler. I was reading about them in the paper. Then I remembered that a few weeks ago a pea who I believe is divorced or widowed was lonely for the human touch. I don't believe anyone suggested this and it got me thinking as to whether or not I would feel comfortable using their service. For me, I don't know. How about for you? Could you ever use the services of a professional cuddler? I'm talking about a legitimate licensed professional cuddler.
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Post by KikiPea on Apr 23, 2017 1:05:27 GMT
Nope, but I'm married to a cuddler, so no need to pay for one.
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Post by myshelly on Apr 23, 2017 1:06:21 GMT
Sure.
Honestly, it seems less awkward to me than, say, letting someone pLay with my hair while making small talk I don't want to make. And yet people do that all the time.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Apr 23, 2017 1:06:25 GMT
NO! ICK ICK ICK. I am single and the idea of someone to cuddle or sleep with is nice.. BUT NO!!!! Not a stranger or a professional.
( I guess put me in the no column.)
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Post by femalebusiness on Apr 23, 2017 1:10:57 GMT
Sure. Honestly, it seems less awkward to me than, say, letting someone pLay with my hair while making small talk I don't want to make. And yet people do that all the time. People play with your hair while having a conversation with you? WTH?
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Post by compeateropeator on Apr 23, 2017 1:12:36 GMT
No it is not a service I would ever think of using, but if it was helpful to someone else it is a worth while service.
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Post by jenjie on Apr 23, 2017 1:13:43 GMT
Sure. Honestly, it seems less awkward to me than, say, letting someone pLay with my hair while making small talk I don't want to make. And yet people do that all the time. People play with your hair while having a conversation with you? WTH? Sounds like a hairstylist?
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 23, 2017 1:17:41 GMT
People play with your hair while having a conversation with you? WTH? I'm pretty sure she's referring to using the services of a hairstylist. I'm not sure I'd ever hire a professional cuddler. It just wouldn't feel genuine somehow.
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Post by myshelly on Apr 23, 2017 1:18:26 GMT
Sure. Honestly, it seems less awkward to me than, say, letting someone pLay with my hair while making small talk I don't want to make. And yet people do that all the time. People play with your hair while having a conversation with you? WTH? I'm referring to going to the hair salon.
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Post by jenjie on Apr 23, 2017 1:23:05 GMT
No. As someone in this position, the point of a hug or a cuddle or whatever is that it is between two people who care about each other.
Whole 30 has a saying called "sex with your pants on." They refer to this when they're talking about food that you might try to replace - like let's say baked potato chips instead of the real deal. (This is totally made up, w30 doesn't advocate potato chips) You may eat the baked chips trying to recreate the greasy goodness of Herr's or Lay's but ithe replacement is not satisfying. So you eat the baked chips but you're not really happy with them and it makes you want the real stuff even more.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2017 1:23:36 GMT
How exactly does one become a professional cuddler? Get a degree in cuddling from University of MyState? Pass a state/national exam for cuddling?
hmmmm... no. I'll pass on any cuddler services.
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Post by supersoda on Apr 23, 2017 1:25:32 GMT
Absolutely not. If you don't live in my house or didn't come out of my body I don't want you touching me, or wit thin my personal space bubble.
All of my coworkers tease me because they know I don't like to be touched and hate hugs.
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Post by refugeepea on Apr 23, 2017 1:26:53 GMT
No. Even if I was single and hadn't dated anyone in several years. I like my space.
ETA: I'm married and don't like to cuddle.
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Post by KikiPea on Apr 23, 2017 1:27:30 GMT
All I can think of when I hear this is people with fetishes. Creepy!
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ComplicatedLady
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Post by ComplicatedLady on Apr 23, 2017 1:28:47 GMT
My first thought was that it referenced someone who would hold babies in the hospital that were born to mothers who didn't survive childbirth or mothers who were drug addicts and the child was removed from their custody.
A friend of mine works as a Labor and Delivery nurse and sometimes she gets called to work in the NICU for the "not so sick" babies. She says that the babies they are weaning off of opiates because the mom abused heroin or prescription pain meds is sad. They are really fussy and cranky so the staff try to hold and soothe those babies as much as possible. I could see someone who did that, even as a volunteer, being called a professional cuddler.
As an adult, forget about it. I don't want to even talk to people most of the time. No way would I want someone touching me.
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Post by pondrunner on Apr 23, 2017 1:35:18 GMT
Not for me - cuddling implies to me a kind of intimacy you don't have with someone you are paying for a service.
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Post by scrapApea on Apr 23, 2017 1:36:07 GMT
NO. ick. no. no ...no
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Post by Miss Ang on Apr 23, 2017 1:38:13 GMT
When losing a loved one, a hug from my husband, immediate family or close friend is comforting. A hug from my deceased family members long time friend that attends the funeral is not comforting.
Cuddling with a stranger with no genuine intimacy would just be awkward.
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Post by gizzy on Apr 23, 2017 1:38:22 GMT
That would be uncomfortable for me. There needs to be a genuine relationship for someone to be hugging me.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 23, 2017 1:42:24 GMT
Not a chance. I don't particularly like to be touched by people I don't know very, very well. For example, I would give my BFF of 25+ years (or her mom) a hug, but the mom of some kid that my kid goes to school with that I barely know? Nope.
FWIW, half the time I have to peel my own kid off of me so I'm definitely not the target client for that kind of service.
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katybee
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Post by katybee on Apr 23, 2017 1:43:34 GMT
No way. To me, cuddles result from true affection. Without the affection, it would just be weird.
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gina
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Post by gina on Apr 23, 2017 1:44:14 GMT
Yuck no!
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Post by femalebusiness on Apr 23, 2017 1:48:34 GMT
People play with your hair while having a conversation with you? WTH? I'm referring to going to the hair salon. Oh duh! Hahaha.l ETA: I have never had my hair done in a salon, by a hairdresser. Didn't even dawn on me.
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Post by Restless Spirit on Apr 23, 2017 1:49:00 GMT
No. Just no. (I seem to be saying that a lot on this board lately. Clearly I have boundary issues. )
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Post by Zee on Apr 23, 2017 1:54:11 GMT
Never.
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scrapngranny
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Post by scrapngranny on Apr 23, 2017 1:58:37 GMT
Never. I need to have a relationship with someone to feel comfortable.
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Post by papersilly on Apr 23, 2017 4:05:54 GMT
I would feel like I had no dignity if I had to resort to a paid cuddler
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YooHoot
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Post by YooHoot on Apr 23, 2017 4:15:04 GMT
I have a huge problem with personal space and my bubble. That's in my bubble. No.
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Post by anniefb on Apr 23, 2017 4:16:11 GMT
No it is not a service I would ever think of using, but if it was helpful to someone else it is a worth while service. SaveSave
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Post by darkangel090260 on Apr 23, 2017 4:30:20 GMT
i am trying to get people to stop touching me, no way would i pay someone to touch me.
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