craftymom101
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Post by craftymom101 on Apr 23, 2017 19:00:03 GMT
My bf and I broke up recently and I'm not sure what to do with the scrapbook pages I created of us. Keep them? Toss them? I don't have a huge quantity of layouts made (we were together for 10ish months), but there are several in my pile of layouts needing album homes. Does anyone else have experience with this?
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Post by gigi333 on Apr 23, 2017 19:02:49 GMT
I'm sorry to hear that
I think you should keep them, maybe in a separate album, but deffo keep them,
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Post by Linda on Apr 23, 2017 19:05:32 GMT
I'm sorry about the breakup. I think keeping the layouts - either in your regular album if they are more 'things we did' that include him or in a separate album you can tuck away for now if they are more 'all about us'
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Post by msliz on Apr 23, 2017 19:07:36 GMT
For me it would depend on how I felt about the bf and the breakup. Is he someone you want to give any thought to again, ever?
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Post by ExpatBackHome on Apr 23, 2017 19:08:50 GMT
I'm sorry, that stinks! I think you should put them away for now (out of sight). Then decide at a later time if you want to keep them.
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craftymom101
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Post by craftymom101 on Apr 23, 2017 19:10:16 GMT
Our breakup was civil. It's not like we broke up in a fit of rage, or by throwing things at each other.  It's still painful, though, and I'm not sure I'm even ready to deal with the layouts right now, to be honest. I'll probably keep them in my Iris container along with all my other finished layouts for the time being. One layout in particular I absolutely love. I scrapbooked pictures of him and my son fishing and it turned out great. I want my son to have that memory some day in his album. |
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 23, 2017 19:51:56 GMT
Yup, I would keep them, but maybe keep them elsewhere until you know for sure what you want to do with them. Scrapbooks chronicle or lives and that was almost a year of your life.
My son and his gf have been dating for 7 years. If I had to get rid of her pages, well, that would be a huge hole in his books.
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Post by myboysnme on Apr 23, 2017 20:37:52 GMT
I have kept and scrapped any photos of my ex boyfriends and ex husband if they included pics of me or my family. Pics that were unscrapped by themselves I tossed out for the most part. 2-3 boyfriends I had some photos by themselves that I really like and I kept those.
I just keep them in the album chronologically. My mom had an album from her teen years with her boyfriends in it and her 'journalling' that I always liked to look at.
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Post by refugeepea on Apr 23, 2017 21:00:15 GMT
I don't scrap my entire life. I scrap because I like to have something crafty to do. My answer would be to keep them in an iris container. Maybe comeback in a year then you can decide to throw them out, keep them all, or keep a few. I wouldn't feel obligated to keep them and certainly not in regular albums if the memories are too painful. I don't know the OP's reason for scrapping though. |
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Post by GiantsFan on Apr 24, 2017 2:02:07 GMT
I think you should keep the pages either in another album or Iris container. Those 10 months were part of your (and your son's) life and you enjoyed them enough to scrap them.
I still have my wedding album from my first marriage 30 years ago. It's in a box in the basement and I haven't looked at it since before my divorce, but it was part of my life.
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Post by scrapnnana on Apr 24, 2017 2:17:57 GMT
I would keep them. The pages showed a part of your life.
Put them away until the pain has lessened, but I recommend that you keep them.
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Post by grammadee on Apr 24, 2017 3:17:27 GMT
Sorry to hear about your break up.
In general, when we lose someone, we are told to make no major decisions for a few months afterward. I would think that includes not deciding to burn his clothes or throw out your scrapbook pages.
If you can keep the pages in a box on a shelf for now, you can go back to them later and decide whether to keep or toss. And I agree with a precious poster that LO's that include your son or your family will probably make the cut to keep. Any romantic themed pages may get weeded out sooner rather than later.
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Post by pas2 on Apr 24, 2017 10:20:34 GMT
I'm sorry about the breakup. I think keeping the layouts - either in your regular album if they are more 'things we did' that include him or in a separate album you can tuck away for now if they are more 'all about us' I have pics of past partners both of myself and family members. I don't get rid of them but I do have them discretely covered up if possible, or placed in another album or tuck the photo behind another photo in a photo pocket. I found that (most times) years later my feelings about these people mellow and that I can remember the "event" rather than the person with no problem. I'm glad I didn't purge the photos from my stash. They are all part of our life and we grow because of them. I would only totally purge a person if the memory of them causes me great pain, then they become a dart board! |
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 24, 2017 15:15:11 GMT
I'd keep them for now. They are part of your history. You can always toss them later.
ETA - I'm sorry. Even a civil breakup can be tough.
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Post by craftymom101 on Apr 24, 2017 15:57:58 GMT
Thank you for all the kind and supportive replies. This whole process is new to me (first relationship after my divorce) and it's hard to talk to my married friends about it. For now I will keep the pages. I looked through my pile of scrapbook pages and I think i have four layouts about him or with him as a main component. I'm going to pull those pages out and stick them in a box in my closet. Thanks again. |
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It's still painful, though, and I'm not sure I'm even ready to deal with the layouts right now, to be honest. I'll probably keep them in my Iris container along with all my other finished layouts for the time being. 
