momto4kiddos
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Post by momto4kiddos on Aug 22, 2014 2:59:45 GMT
I've begun to notice that greeting cards can be a bit narcissistic.... After a recent birthday I noticed, not for the first time, that I got a card that basically said I was this or that to that person. How i've changed "their" life, that i'm "their" comfort, "their" strength.
I generally go for the card that says what a wonderful person you are type thing. I guess i'd never noticed until recently the more narcissistic type card...now I can't not think about it. I was buying cards today and was so aware of it.
The things you notice when you have too much time on your hands, lol!
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scrapaddie
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Post by scrapaddie on Aug 22, 2014 3:41:02 GMT
Is it narcissistic to let someone know how important you are to them ? Maybe I don't know what you jean ... I haven't purchased a card in years
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Post by jenjie on Aug 22, 2014 3:47:55 GMT
Hmmm I read it as more personal than narcissistic. Not just "you are a special person" but "you are special to me because..."
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Post by eastcoastpea on Aug 22, 2014 3:55:04 GMT
I haven't been card shopping lately. When I do go I'm sure your comments will pop into my head - I'll check it out.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2014 3:56:34 GMT
Yeah, I don't think narcissitic is the right word for the cards you're talking about. Narcissistic would be "You Getting Older Makes Me Look Better!"
And ditto what Jenjie said up there^^^^.
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Post by AngieandSnoopy on Aug 22, 2014 5:17:48 GMT
I'm with Jenjie on that.
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Post by MaryMary on Aug 22, 2014 6:12:48 GMT
"Narcissistic" only works if you are buying those cards for yourself. Which would be super weird.
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Post by Gennifer on Aug 22, 2014 8:36:19 GMT
"Narcissistic" only works if you are buying those cards for yourself. Which would be super weird. Right? Because I only give myself handmade cards... None of that store-bought generic crap for me. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2014 9:27:45 GMT
Is it narcissistic to let someone know how important you are to them ? Maybe I don't know what you jean ... I haven't purchased a card in years Well, yes, I think it is narcissistic to let someone know how important **I** am to **Them** It is not narcissistic to let them know how important **they** are to **me*** I have been your strength is narcissistic (without me you'd not had the strength to get through this) You have been my strength is not narcissistic (I couldn't have done it without your help) |
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Post by wandawoman on Aug 22, 2014 11:51:15 GMT
Hmmm I read it as more personal than narcissistic. Not just "you are a special person" but "you are special to me because..." I hope you are right because I just wrote a personal note in a card telling a friend how special he is to us and I only meant it to be encouraging to him. |
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Post by melanell on Aug 22, 2014 12:49:33 GMT
I agree with Volt. Narcissistic would be saying "I am such a wonderful part of your life. Aren't you thankful that I'm your niece."  Instead of the card I just bought that said "You are such a wonderful part of my life and I am so thankful that you are my aunt."  I also agree that it's more personalized. Instead of the generic "Hope you have a great year." type cards that I like to buy for acquaintances. |
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Post by alibama on Aug 22, 2014 13:15:05 GMT
"Narcissistic" only works if you are buying those cards for yourself. Which would be super weird. Right? Because I only give myself handmade cards... None of that store-bought generic crap for me.  |
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Post by sisterbdsq on Aug 22, 2014 14:26:29 GMT
Maybe you'd rather receive a card that says, "It's your birthday, big f&cking deal, you're a twat anyway."  I would prefer a card that said I am important and valued. |
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Post by femalebusiness on Aug 22, 2014 15:10:11 GMT
Narcissistic may not be the right word but I do get what you are saying. Some of the cards now are over the top and kind of sappy.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2014 15:21:05 GMT
Particularly on Mother's Day and Father's Day...
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Post by jenjie on Aug 22, 2014 15:31:24 GMT
Hmmm I read it as more personal than narcissistic. Not just "you are a special person" but "you are special to me because..." I hope you are right because I just wrote a personal note in a card telling a friend how special he is to us and I only meant it to be encouraging to him. That's exactly how it will be received. We all have a need to know we are valued. |
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momto4kiddos
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Post by momto4kiddos on Aug 22, 2014 15:34:10 GMT
Narcissistic may not be the right word but I do get what you are saying. Some of the cards now are over the top and kind of sappy. It was the wrong word to use and came out wrong. It was more about an all about me type of person sending a card that was all about their feelings. I just generally purchase the you are a wonderful person type card, rather than you are wonderful to ME type. Wrong wording, came out wrong. To each his own I suppose. |
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I would prefer a card that said I am important and valued.