Now I don't want to go :(

I still think you can/should voice your displeasure to your DH. You can temper it with "I will do it because the nature of your business relationship makes it in my best interests, but seriously, dude, this is not cool."

Change of plans, girls weekend!

Last minute plan change is to go along. They won't know the airfare was booked all along.

Babysitting a drunk wasn't fun at 21 and I wouldn't allow it to dictate my adult vacation either. His marriage = his problem if he decides to bring her along on business.

I totally get we have to do things for our husbands and their careers. This is asking too much and totally negates the purpose of you going. I'd refuse or just not go. Frankly, I'd be pissed if my husband even thought for a second I would do it. She is not your problem to deal with.

And it's not your job to enable the husband.  He needs an Al-anon meeting pronto.  He's asking you to babysit her as a way to assuage his guilt or embarrassment.  This is a problem w/his marriage and you do not need to be involved.

I think I joined AussieMeg and I'm angry for you.

bc2ca I was with you until the update about her being an alcoholic. Alcoholic is different than a rambunctious party girl, you do not need or want to be put in a position of responsibility for her. It could literally be dangerous.

I'd consider not going, if you can't escape being her guide. I know it's disappointing, but unless you can make it clear to her DH, it might be the safer career-supporting move for your husband.

My DH would never ask me to do this. He respects my feelings and my time. I don't mean this in a bitchy way. It just sounds to me like your DH needs to establish some professional boundaries with his boss. His lack of ability to do so should not ruin your trip.

I feel your pain! I had something similar happen. I was stuck in Vegas for 3 days with our good friend's wife who is a chronic alcoholic. I was looking forward to being alone while DH and the guys were at a convention. 

If there are no wineries where you're going, check out breweries.If you'll be in Colorado, there are a LOT of micro-breweries here.

I do get the job/social obligation thing that adds pressure for you to do this. In that case, see if her DH will pay for some of the outings/activities the two of you will do. Can they be considered business expenses? If he's making you take her along, he should at least offer to pay.

I used to get stuck in these situations. Hated it. I finally put my foot down when we were told we had to attend a political fundraiser for Rick Santorum Ang give the maximum allowed donation.
No way in hell could I support him in any way, shape or form. Let alone give him our money.
The CEO doesn't like me but my dh makes them s shitload of money so he has to tolerate us.

Oh that sounds miserable. I hope you can come up with places that don't include drinking. Maybe some museums. Sorry your weekend away has turned into a babysitting job.

If she truely is an alcoholic in denial that's worse than I originally thought. I know the term gets tossed around sometimes just because someone drinks a lot but after seeing the other comments I would be concerned. I don't like being around drunks but like to drink but dont drink much anymore. This sounds like it could be a lot of work. If she isn't trying to not drink that could be hard. An alcoholic that isn't drinking wouldn't be hard but one that won't acknowledge it. That truely is a job to try and find places that don't serve and what if she just starts drinking in her room or whatever. There is no way to stop her.

I'm sorry your trip is being ruined. I wouldn't want to go either. I know I like my alone time and wouldn't want to entertain someone else but this is just beyond what I would be able to do at this point. I hate to say it but could you cancel?

I laughed out loud at this.