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Post by 2peafaithful on Aug 23, 2014 14:43:35 GMT
I found out yesterday that a surgeon that was incredible help to me in my life passed away. It was sudden. He was young, 55, married and father of 3.I had an appt with him and had to cancel it. He died 3 days before I would have had my appt but I cancelled in about 2 weeks in advance.
I have cried many tears since I read it. He gave me hope, support, compassion and help when I didn't think there was any. He was such a kind soul. I am grieved and just so saddened for such a incredible man to be gone. He helped so many and had a heart of gold.
Posting about it here might seem random as you didn't know him. I am just so sad and no one else would understand why are you crying? The tears just keep coming and I wanted to share it with people that might care of have been in a similar situation. The medical people I have worked with our dear to me and I usually research a lot and pick based on expertise, compassion and passion for their field. I really dislike long drives and try to pick doctors close to home if possible but for many great ones I have to drive to Dallas and this one I would have driven even further.
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Post by Baseballmom23 on Aug 23, 2014 14:53:22 GMT
{{{hugs}}} sorry to hear of this. Maybe you could send a sympathy card to his family in care of his practice and let them know what he did for you |
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Post by mnmloveli on Aug 23, 2014 14:56:57 GMT
I totally understand. We have been going to the same group of Vets with our dogs for many years. When we found out one of them had passed, I was soooo upset. He had gotten us thru many incidents and had also held our hands when we lost a couple. So knowing how bad I felt I can imagine how you feel when it's your own doctor. Sending you a hug.
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Post by arlamo on Aug 23, 2014 15:18:58 GMT
I completely understand! The funeral for the nurse at my ENT's office is today - she was just one of those people who cared about everyone and was a fantastic nurse. She developed kidney cancer and it took her life quite quickly.
My health has been pretty bad the last 5 years and I have come to know and appreciate and even love some of those who provide health care for me - it is a big loss to lose one of those people! My sympathies on the loss of your doctor!
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Post by houston249 on Aug 23, 2014 15:31:45 GMT
I am sorry for your loss. Great doctors are truely hard to find.
I "get" it. We have a few doctors like that, that our family relies on. Most of which I have been encouraging them to train replacements now so we don't lose their quality medical practices. The ones I am not encouraged have or are already doing so.
Quality medical help is so hard to find. The kind of quality that includes a true interest in you as a individual unique patient, a lifetime of specialized medical knowledge that is not taught in school and one where they understand that the patient knows more about themselves than they do. To me a great doctor is much like a great mechanic and we all know how hard it is to find great mechanics.
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Post by Mystie on Aug 23, 2014 15:43:11 GMT
Sounds like this gentleman was quite a doctor. I'm sure you aren't the only patient who is mourning him, along with his family and friends. (((Hugs)))
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Post by Princess Pea on Aug 23, 2014 16:00:52 GMT
A cancer doctor in our community was recently killed in a car accident caused by a drunk driver. He did so much good for his patients, and from all accounts was a genuinely nice man. I didn't know him, but I have several friends who were patients of his and really loved him. Everyone is really upset.
I am sorry for your loss. We become really attached to people who help us through difficult situations.
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Post by purplebee on Aug 23, 2014 16:07:47 GMT
Yes, I understand. I saw a wonderful ob/gyn who passed away much too young. I grieved over that loss for a long time.
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Post by donna on Aug 23, 2014 16:08:31 GMT
I understand why this has hit you so hard. I feel the same way about some of my doctors. I am sorry you lost a good one.
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 23, 2014 16:11:37 GMT
That is so sad... so sorry... And I was feeling pretty sad, as I have changed insurance and had to change ALL our doctors/dentists/eye doctor.. I have been going to them for the last 15 years and gotten to know them really well. This week all new doctors and feeling a loss  ... NOT the same as yours for sure though... Our vet died a couple of years ago and I never found out until a year later that she was battling cancer... I felt so sad |
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Post by scrappinmom3 on Aug 23, 2014 16:17:51 GMT
I am so sorry. It is so hard to get a Dr. that is truly compassionate and knows your history and that makes you feel comfortable.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Aug 23, 2014 16:21:52 GMT
I've had two doctors die while I was a patient of theirs. The OB/GYN who delivered my third child. And the family practice doctor who took care of my whole family. I think your grief reaction is perfectly normal. It's hard to lose someone who meant something to you no matter what the relationship with them was.
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Post by 2peafaithful on Aug 23, 2014 16:40:00 GMT
Thank you for listening, understanding and caring. It helps and I plan on sending a card to his family via his office address.
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Post by uksue on Aug 23, 2014 16:45:56 GMT
I do understand your loss.
The specialist who turned my illness around back in the 80's died a couple of years ago. He was in his 80's so it wasn't such a shock but nevertheless, I was sad because he was still teaching and mentoring and I know the teaching hospital I attend is a lesser place without him. Had he not decided to prescribe a different course of treatment than the norm for me back then, I am convinced I would never have been well enough to have my lovely children.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2014 6:06:02 GMT
2pea: I can totally relate! My doctor was extremely specialized. He pioneered a surgery on me (1st one in the world who had this surgery), and it took, after so many other surgeries failed. He was a genius. I continued seeing him for about 30 more years and he passed away from M.S. He did train lots of other surgeons and traveled worldwide performing this surgery and training others on how to perform it.
So now, here I am, needing another major surgery that only he was able to accomplish. I can't find a surgeon who can or will take my case and I'm at a loss. I'm in FL and that surgeon was in Manhattan. The recovery takes about a year, so it's constant visits. Living in NY right now is out of the question. I can't afford to move back yet. I'm praying that I somehow find a surgeon who is capable to do the surgery before it's an emergency.
I mourned the loss of my surgeon for so many reasons, but most of all because he was a pure and utter genius. There's no replacing him. When you lose a great doctor, it's so sad. I'm so sorry for you and I hope that you find another great doctor.
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Post by evelynr on Aug 24, 2014 12:28:17 GMT
How lucky you are to have known such a memorable doctor!
I agree that a note to his family telling them about how he touched your life and how much you will miss him, would be the best thing you could do at this time. No doubt they will appreciate your compassion. After all, even more important than being a great doctor, he was somebody's husband and daddy.
I'm sorry for your loss. |
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Post by lillieleigh on Aug 24, 2014 12:42:42 GMT
I completely understand. In this complex world, losing a doctor you love and trust would be devastating. Also having him pass away is just so very sad,
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Post by moosedogtoo on Aug 24, 2014 14:39:32 GMT
One of my daughter's doctors died of cancer a couple of years ago. She's helped us so much and so many other families too. We were very sad when we finally had to go to our first appointment with her replacement. She's a lovely person and doctor too, but it's just not the same.
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Post by TXMary on Aug 24, 2014 15:46:02 GMT
They didn't die, but I have lost every doctor that was involved in my cancer care. My breast surgeon, primary care, oncologist and now my plastic surgeon- all have left my cancer center. I know doctors move on and I wish them all well, but it was devastating to me. If one of them had died, I would have been very sad. And I also lost my clinical trial nurse who was with me at every visit and became a very dear friend. She moved back to Arizona and I am so happy for her that she is back near her kids, but man I miss her!!
These people play a very important role in our lives and they become very trusted and loved caregivers. It's hard to say goodbye. 
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2014 18:41:04 GMT
I'm so sorry. I know what you mean though. We're moving this week and last week, I had a small meltdown when I realized I would be leaving my family doctor and dental hygienist. They were always so professional and attentive to me and my family. I started having chronic back pain a few years ago and no one understood what I was going through except my doctor. I hate the thought of starting the process all over again in a new place.
OP, I'm sorry about the loss of your surgeon. He was much too young to pass away.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 24, 2014 19:41:57 GMT
I am so sorry. He sounds like a wonderful person. We have been blessed with wonderful doctors and nurses in our lives. When DH's oncologist retired, we cried!
Maybe you can perform RAK in his memory.
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Post by alibama on Aug 25, 2014 19:38:04 GMT
I am sorry for your loss |
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... NOT the same as yours for sure though... Our vet died a couple of years ago and I never found out until a year later that she was battling cancer... I felt so sad 
