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Post by refugeepea on Jun 4, 2017 23:06:18 GMT
Anyone have the issue of them never wanting their photo taken? I thought I was sneaky and got a couple of photos of my teen boy and 8 year old, but NOOO, he was annoyed. It was my 8 year old standing on a chair and giving him a big hug.  Geez, it was only the back of his head.   I'm not a camera happy kind of person. The only time I'm insistent is 1 photo on his birthday and sibling photo on Christmas Eve. He's graduating early and doesn't like the idea of senior photos. What's the point, it's not like I'm walking and doing the traditional stuff?  I'm not talking elaborate. A few photos in the same location. A change of clothes, more than 1 location is what is popular in my area. I didn't like that when I was in high school and just had a head shot at Inkleys. Anyone remember that place? |
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Post by destined2bmom on Jun 5, 2017 0:01:25 GMT
Remember? I am there with you sister! For the last two years, I think my teen and my middle schooler would rather have glass in their feet than having their pictures taken. I swear that one day they will be sorry that they don't have pictures from this time in their lives. And they'll wonder why mom or dad never took any of them. 🙄
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Post by scrappinwithoutpeas on Jun 5, 2017 0:07:36 GMT
Yes, I hear you! I have a lot of teen pix of DD#2 where the actual picture is the palm of her hand in front of her face, or the back of her head, or making a face at me, or whatever - just please.don't.take.my.picture.MOM! Now that she's a little older she's okay with letting me or DH take pictures again. DS (still a teen) doesn't seem to mind as much but does sometimes try to hide in the back in group photos. At least I don't have as many of him with his hands in front of his face...
Hopefully it'll get better as your DS gets older.
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Post by walkerdill on Jun 5, 2017 0:28:21 GMT
It's funny neither kid will let me take pics but if I scroll their phone there are 100's of selfies. We just went on a cruise & they accomidated a few photos...but that's it.
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Post by Linda on Jun 5, 2017 0:35:00 GMT
I can relate - mine flips through the scrapbook and points out the lack of pages with her...I point out that a lack of photos = a lack of layouts.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Jun 5, 2017 1:22:54 GMT
Just my personal opinion.
If a teen is provided with a phone, electronics, a vehicle, and spending money, going out with friends, etc.. the least they can do is be polite, civil, and accommodating when it comes to taking a few photos.
No photos = no phone, no spending money, no car, no electronics, no going out with friends. In my opinion, those things are privileges. Wants, not needs. Getting a crappy attitude about taking a few photos, would result in immediate termination of privileges.
I'm mean like that.
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Post by refugeepea on Jun 5, 2017 1:47:14 GMT
No photos = no phone, no spending money, no car, no electronics, no going out with friends. In my opinion, those things are privileges. Wants, not needs. Getting a crappy attitude about taking a few photos, would result in immediate termination of privileges. I'm mean like that. My son doesn't want his face posted on social media sites, and I respect that, but I threaten to post unflattering photos if he doesn't cooperate.  |
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Post by myboysnme on Jun 5, 2017 1:53:18 GMT
My boys are adults now, but they have heard their entire lives that mom asks very little of them but pictures are very important to her. Now they didn't necessarily appreciate candid shots but they would pose for things that were important to them. Stand with their car, with friends, playing video games, all that kind of stuff.
I've been filming their lives in overdrive since they were born so in many ways that's just the way mom is. Both of them will take selfies or pictures for me now and message them to me on facebook. They know it makes me very happy, but generally they let me get one shot and one for good measure and that's it.
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Post by msliz on Jun 5, 2017 1:57:05 GMT
My 3 teen DDs are stingy like that with the photos. Once in a great while they'll email me a selfie.
I did get lucky though, twice this year. I got shots with each of the older ones with the youngest. I'm grateful for that, but what I really want is a photo of all 3 together. The last time I got all 3 was Halloween 2015, and it's not like I can use it as a portrait because of the costumes. The last nice photo of all 3 was spring 2014.
So, I sympathize.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jun 5, 2017 2:51:48 GMT
There were times i did not negotiate on this with DS. We asked very little, i expected to be able to have a few photos whether he liked it or not. This was especially important when we visited him before he deployed. He didn't dare resist then.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 5, 2017 3:30:47 GMT
Thank dog, not yet. So far, pretty accommodating.
2 things that they know:
1. We don't ask a lot
2. Neither DH nor I are on FB. We don't post photos ANYWHERE. DD13 is really sensitive about sharing. So when we do ask, the understanding is they're just for Mom's scrapbook and for occasionally showing the grandparents via AppleTV.
I hope this lasts.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jun 5, 2017 10:08:44 GMT
Anyone have the issue of them never wanting their photo taken? Yes. One is more accommodating than the other but will still shy away if she doesn't feel that she looks absolutely on fleek, LOL. what I really want is a photo of all 3 together. Bribery! Last year I seriously took all four of my kids and myself to a photo studio, all dressed in coordinated clothes, and promised lunch out afterward if I got good photos. They obliged. (Lunch out is a treat here) My kids know I don't ask much of them, and my only hobby is scrapbooking. Even my dd2 who never wants her pic taken will let me grab a few photos when I ask. And I also never post them online on social media. |
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Post by dasmith2 on Jun 5, 2017 10:49:07 GMT
My 18 y/o dd gets me to do selfies with her all the time- and she loves photography so I lucked out there- she will take pics anytime I ask.I have tons from her. My 12 ds used to photobomb us all the time,it was so cute! but now he is in the phase where he does not want his pic taken at all. He too loves photography and he will take pics all the time- just not of himself. If I ask him, he will take one, he knows better not to say no to mom lol
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Post by cannmom on Jun 6, 2017 0:12:02 GMT
My teen DS does OK with photos. He doesn't always love it, but understands that it is important to me. He worked at a camp last summer and I finally had to threaten him that I would come up and take my own photos if he didn't take some. He took the photos and now has some great layouts of that summer.
I wouldn't back down about the Senior photos. Tell him it's for you and that it means a great deal to you. I'm sure he will give in.
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Geez, it was only the back of his head. 
I'm not talking elaborate. A few photos in the same location. A change of clothes, more than 1 location is what is popular in my area. I didn't like that when I was in high school and just had a head shot at Inkleys. 
