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Post by Really Red on Jul 7, 2017 1:46:38 GMT
I just feel cranky. My DD20 is nannying this summer for a neighbor. Neighbor (N) is young and very sweet and next to her I feel old and cranky. But I work a lot and have some other struggles going on. When I get home, I just want to unwind a bit. As I'm driving home, I get a call from my DD asking if N can come over and prepare her weekly meals because her oven broke.
Well bleep. I know her oven broke at least last night and she is home all day long. She could have easily come to my house while I was at work and done what she needed to do. Instead, asking to come over and cook her freaking weekly meals at dinner time? She just wants to be all cheery and cute and lively in my kitchen.
I have no problem saying no when required. I always feel a bit guilty, but I can say it!! So I say NO - she can come tomorrow when I'm at work, which STILL makes me cranky, but I cannot do that to a neighbor in need.
FFS - cook in a microwave or an Insta-Pot or a wok! She has them all. It's just her and the 2yo while her husband is away this week. She does not work!!! Do not ask this of a neighbor. DO NOT! Plus I am on a severe diet and I do not want to smell good smells!!!
I am just old and cranky, that's a fact.
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Post by Zee on Jul 7, 2017 1:51:13 GMT
It would never occur to me to even ask my neighbor if I could use their oven. I validate you.
I'd have said no, I'm too crabby tonight. You are very kind to let her do it while you're not at home.
My neighbors and I have more of a "smile and nod" thing going on, which is the way I like it.
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Post by hop2 on Jul 7, 2017 1:52:06 GMT
I'll validate you. I'd rather my DD bring a neighbor over to cook in my oven when I'm at work as well.
Especially if it's hot out. I'm kind of out of bright and cheery when I'm done with work. Especially this week since I've had a billionty people call me to yell at me. I just st wanna veg a bit after
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Post by ~summer~ on Jul 7, 2017 1:56:17 GMT
I would have said no as well. And I would never ask that of a neighbor. And when it's hot we don't use the oven so that would have been a double no.
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Post by ComplicatedLady on Jul 7, 2017 2:35:51 GMT
It would never occur to me to even ask my neighbor if I could use their oven. I validate you. I'd have said no, I'm too crabby tonight. You are very kind to let her do it while you're not at home. My neighbors and I have more of a "smile and nod" thing going on, which is the way I like it. Yeah, all of that. You are totally validated. |
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Post by Really Red on Jul 7, 2017 2:41:24 GMT
Thank you!!!! I just simply cannot imagine asking that of my neighbor.
Unfortunately, I said as much to my DD and she is disgusted with me. I just hope she's out of my house when I get home.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jul 7, 2017 3:00:44 GMT
Hey, I'll totally validate you. Not only are you dieting, but you're exhausted and need peace and quiet. Saying, "no" is completely appropriate.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jul 7, 2017 3:02:51 GMT
I would never think to go over to someone else's home to do this...if I can't do it at home then take out it is. Do you think maybe your DD offered up your home and it wasn't even the neighbors idea? If so then I would cut the neighbor some slack.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2017 3:05:02 GMT
So, she has enough money to be a stay at home mom AND pay a nanny? Why can't she just buy a new stove/oven? And go out to eat or eat things that don't need to be cooked until the new one is installed?
I would have said no also... you are validated.
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Post by mallie on Jul 7, 2017 3:11:49 GMT
It would never occur to me to ask my freaking sister to allow that, let alone a neighbor!
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Post by flute4peace on Jul 7, 2017 3:21:34 GMT
So, she has enough money to be a stay at home mom AND pay a nanny? Why can't she just buy a new stove/oven? And go out to eat or eat things that don't need to be cooked until the new one is installed? I would have said no also... you are validated. I'll validate you as well. I'm curious why she's making weekly meals when she has only one child, no job and a nanny. What's she doing all day? |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 7, 2017 3:23:01 GMT
I would ask close family for that but never a neighbor, and only if I absolutely had no other option. Which of course with modern conveniences like a microwave oven, gas grill, stovetop or electric griddle, George Foreman, Instant Pot, crock pot, waffle iron? We rarely use our oven to make dinner in the summertime. For pete's sake, there are all kinds of other options. I too would be annoyed by that.
Consider yourself validated!
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Post by chaosisapony on Jul 7, 2017 3:26:44 GMT
I'm with the others, it would never occur to me to ask a neighbor if I could cook my weekly meals using their kitchen. That's just weird. Use a microwave, a crock pot, make salads, etc. Do not impose on the people that happen to live around you.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jul 7, 2017 3:27:27 GMT
Crazy.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 7, 2017 3:35:57 GMT
I validate you!
It would never occur to me to ask a neighbor to use their oven. That's strange.
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Post by AllieC on Jul 7, 2017 3:38:41 GMT
I would never ask. My oven broke down at the end of November last year and I finally got around to getting a new one in late February. I did fine without it for 5 months. I find it really ridiculous that she can't make meals at home using her hotplates etc.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2017 4:00:38 GMT
I have not only used my neighbor's kitchen, but made her cook.
And I have made her have parties at her house.
I am a horrible neighbor.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 7, 2017 4:11:43 GMT
Weird and no way would I be happy
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Post by ScrapsontheRocks on Jul 7, 2017 4:55:13 GMT
More validation from over here. The imposition of one's company, never mind for cooking purposes, after a day of work? Nope. I suspect she is a bit lonely and looking for conversation too, but she has had all day to herself, from the sound of things.
This reminds me of the times an old pal used to come over for a quick drink and catch up after work. This was fine, occasionally, when we were both single, then life moved on and we were both married. His wife was a SAHM (not starting up a Mommy war thing, just dissing a particular entitled Mommy) and used to insist he took their toddler son immediately he got home from work so she could get her "me time". He started dropping in every day after work with a whiny toddler, who hated my dogs.
My DH and I were polite for a bit, made excuses for a bit, then had to get very straight that this was not at all relaxing for us and needed to stop. He dialed it back, but still dropped in occasionally. The day I caught him putting the dogs out of their own house to soothe his kid was the last time I saw him.
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Post by SabrinaP on Jul 7, 2017 6:00:55 GMT
I made do without an oven for around a month. She will be fine! I would never of thought to ask someone else to use their oven, I just adjusted and used what I had.
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Post by anniefb on Jul 7, 2017 7:16:23 GMT
Wow I would never ask to use a neighbour's oven - close family maybe but that's it. Make something else that doesn't need an oven!
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Post by jamieson on Jul 7, 2017 7:24:35 GMT
1-800-DIAL-A-PIZZA
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Post by Really Red on Jul 7, 2017 11:02:27 GMT
So, she has enough money to be a stay at home mom AND pay a nanny? Why can't she just buy a new stove/oven? And go out to eat or eat things that don't need to be cooked until the new one is installed? I would have said no also... you are validated. I'll validate you as well. I'm curious why she's making weekly meals when she has only one child, no job and a nanny. What's she doing all day? I know!!!!! She's getting her house ready to move, so she has hired my DD for the summer to watch her son. She is overwhelmed by a 2yo and has said so MANY times. 2yo is cute, but super spoiled - still a pretty cute kid. I think ScrapsontheRocks is right and that she wants conversation. I doubt my DD would have offered. She's in college; she would never think that someone needed a stove!! I will remind her to clean the kitchen this morning. |
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Post by kkooch on Jul 7, 2017 11:52:33 GMT
It would never occur to me to ask my freaking sister to allow that, let alone a neighbor! Totally relate to this. My oven has been dead for months. The only time I had someone (SO) use his oven was for the holidays to cook a turkey/ham. And even at that he just had to put it in the oven for so many hours. Not like it was using the kitchen, I didn't even go over there! |
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Post by mrssmith on Jul 7, 2017 17:43:25 GMT
To do WEEKLY meals? No way. I can't imagine asking that.
There are so many cold dishes available. Make a week of salads-in-a-jar. Or take-out.
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Post by annabella on Jul 7, 2017 17:49:17 GMT
Oatmeal, sandwich, salad - there are her weekly meals.
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Post by melodyesch on Jul 7, 2017 17:56:11 GMT
If her husband is out of town and it's just her and the toddler, how many dang "meals" does she need to make? Microwave some freaking soup!
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jul 7, 2017 17:58:54 GMT
I'm another who just can't see why you can't make do without an oven for a bit until yours is fixed or repaired. I use mine a ton in the fall/winter when we're all about the roasted vegetables - but really don't use it very often in the spring and definitely not in the summer. Now one Thanksgiving my neighbor's oven failed the night before and the pies weren't even done. She was expecting a dozen or so for dinner the next day and no repairman or installation was possible on Thanksgiving day! Luckily we were out of town and she was welcome to ours - now that's a true emergency where having a neighbor/friend with an oven is nice - random summer week for weekly meals - suck it up buttercup.
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Post by annabella on Jul 7, 2017 17:59:15 GMT
If her husband is out of town and it's just her and the toddler, how many dang "meals" does she need to make? Microwave some freaking soup! She's probably on a diet and has to watch everything carefully. Plus cooking for the week means she doesn't have to cook daily, she just grabs her container of carefully portioned food. |
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Post by uksue on Jul 7, 2017 18:04:18 GMT
It's hot- what's wrong with salad 🤣
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