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Post by Lexica on Jul 24, 2017 17:40:14 GMT
Late last night I went out front in my bathrobe to put my trash cans on the curb for pickup this morning. Just when I finished wheeling out the 3rd bin, I noticed a man walking in the middle of the street toward my direction. He was about one house away when I noticed him, and he was walking faster than I was so he was catching up to me as I headed back into my house. There was no one else in my house, but when I got about 10 feet from the front door, I yelled in, "I'm coming! I was putting the trash out," as if there was someone just inside the door calling me. This was purely for the benefit of the guy walking in front of my house. Something about him spooked me and I felt like he was going to come running up behind me and go into my house. We don't usually have strangers walking down the middle of the street like that.
Have you ever called out or pretended to see people you knew to make someone think you were not alone? Do you feel silly when you talk to an empty house or do you feel fully justified because of the strange vibes you are picking up from whoever you are trying to convince that you are not by yourself? I felt silly doing it last night, but oddly safer at the same time.
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Post by moodyblue on Jul 24, 2017 17:43:36 GMT
I would have done exactly the same thing.
What did the guy do after that?
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Post by alexa11 on Jul 24, 2017 17:44:12 GMT
No, but I've pretend talked on my cell just to avoid talking to someone.
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Post by papersilly on Jul 24, 2017 17:52:02 GMT
no, but i make up fake calls to get my boss away from clients who linger after business has concluded.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2017 17:52:35 GMT
I can't recall ever doing that but I could see me doing that in the same situation. I dont think it's silly, I think it's smart doing whatever you can to stay safe.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2017 17:53:44 GMT
I can't recall ever doing that but I could see me doing that in the same situation. I dont think it's silly, I think it's smart doing whatever you can to stay safe. And listening to your gut feelings is always smart.
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Post by happymomma on Jul 24, 2017 17:55:11 GMT
Yes, I have done it, and would do it any time I felt it was needed. Good for you for listening to your 'gift of fear.'
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Post by femalebusiness on Jul 24, 2017 18:01:31 GMT
I have done exactly that. It doesn't hurt anything and is a smart thing to do.
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Post by jennrs on Jul 24, 2017 18:08:24 GMT
Yes, I did something similar one time and I have done it on my phone, as well.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2017 18:13:06 GMT
Not that I can recall but I would do it if I thought it would be called for.
Smart move on your part to be so quick thinking and aware of your surroundings. good on you!
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Post by Dalai Mama on Jul 24, 2017 20:01:33 GMT
Absolutely. I'm an introvert living in a large city. My methods of avoiding conversations are manifold.
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Post by Lexica on Jul 24, 2017 20:42:19 GMT
I would have done exactly the same thing. What did the guy do after that? He just kept on walking down the middle of the street, as far as I know. As soon as I got to my front door, I quickly glanced over my shoulder to make sure he wasn't directly behind me and I ran into the house and locked the dead bolt. Seeing the guy walking down the middle of the street last night, I felt a kind of déjà vu, remembering a similar situation that happened to me in front of my house a number of years ago. I was coming out of my house, down my front walk, headed toward my car in the driveway on my way to work in the morning. A guy was walking in the middle of the street coming up the street toward my direction. When he saw me, he started walking faster and coming directly toward me saying he had run out of gas and could he have a few bucks to get back home to Garden Grove. The hair on my arms stood up and the guy completely freaked me out. There was just something about him. He was tall and had on jeans and a dark blue sweatshirt with the hood pulled up, rather inappropriate for this was a nice warm summer morning. I said, "I don't have any money," and I ran to my car, jumped inside, and locked it. I didn't care if I looked like an idiot, he affected me that much. When I came home from work that night, my neighbors were gathered in front of the house next door and talking about a woman who worked at the drugstore just beyond of our housing tract. She was walking from her car into the store to begin her shift when a guy jumped her, dragged her into the alleyway behind the dumpsters, and raped her. The description of the guy was that he was about 6 ft tall and was wearing a dark blue sweatshirt with the hood up over his head. What are the odds that there are two guys dressed in dark blue sweatshirts with the hood pulled up walking in the same vicinity within 30 minutes of the rape having occurred? Only when I saw the guy, I had no idea that anyone had been attacked just a few minutes before. By the time the neighbors filled me in on the situation, it was already 6:30 pm, hours from when I saw the man. I debated calling the police to tell them what I had seen, but I realized I didn't have enough information for them. I couldn't pick this guy out of a lineup because I didn't see his face well enough and had no workable information for them, and I didn't want to waste their time. I never heard whether the rapist was apprehended or not. So the guy last night might have had a totally legitimate reason for walking down my street last night. It isn't his fault I reacted so strongly, but I am not sorry I did. SaveSave
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Post by burningfeather on Jul 24, 2017 20:53:20 GMT
No, but I've pretend talked on my cell just to avoid talking to someone. x 1,000
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Post by disneypal on Jul 24, 2017 21:14:32 GMT
I've done that before - I don't feel silly about it. Always listen to your instinct, it is usually right and if you had a bad feeling, then you were right to call out to your person inside the house (that only you know wasn't there). Nothing wrong with that at all!
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Post by gar on Jul 24, 2017 21:22:41 GMT
I felt sure this was going to be a sharlag question 😀 And OP, yes definitely.
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Post by gramasue on Jul 24, 2017 21:28:58 GMT
Always listen to your gut feelings. They are usually warranted.
I pretend to be checking in an imaginary customer when I get an unwanted solicitation phone call. The person on the phone will start their spiel and I will just say in an aside "Oh, I'm sorry, I'll be right with you", and then say to the telemarketer "I am busy with a customer right now and can't talk. Goodbye".
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Post by flute4peace on Jul 24, 2017 21:31:19 GMT
No, but I've pretend talked on my cell just to avoid talking to someone. Me too. I'm told this is called "phubbing".
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Post by scrapmaven on Jul 24, 2017 21:35:11 GMT
I'd rather be embarrassed than attacked! You did the right thing, imho.
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Post by peabay on Jul 24, 2017 21:45:36 GMT
Absolutely. One time a very creepy guy delivered a pizza and started to hit on me (like 30 years ago!) and I yelled: "just a second, honey, I have to pay the pizza guy!"
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 24, 2017 22:35:56 GMT
All the time. When I'm about to leave the house, I call out "Bye darling, see you later" to make it seem that there's someone inside, just in case anyone is waiting for me to leave before breaking in. I call out the same thing whether I'm leaving the house empty or not. There was a spate of break-ins in our area and I got into the habit.
As for gut instinct, follow it, always.
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Post by uksue on Jul 24, 2017 23:04:35 GMT
Intuition can be a wonderful thing and I think it's a shame we often talk ourselves out of listening to that inner voice .
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Post by queenofkings on Jul 25, 2017 1:50:18 GMT
I can't think of a time when I've done that, but that was quick and smart thinking. I hope I remember to do that if I am ever in a situation like that.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jul 25, 2017 2:17:15 GMT
Intuition can be a wonderful thing and I think it's a shame we often talk ourselves out of listening to that inner voice . I'm reading a book right now, that talks about this. The Gift of Fear by Gavin Debecker. OP, yes I have and still do.
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