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Post by georgiapea on Jul 29, 2017 1:26:06 GMT
Good to see your update and I'm happy you made that decision.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jul 29, 2017 1:56:36 GMT
You go girl. I wish you peace.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Jul 29, 2017 2:09:53 GMT
Good for you! ![](http://i1168.photobucket.com/albums/r481/2peasrefugees/Smilies/yourock.jpg.gif)
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Post by tamiq on Jul 29, 2017 2:11:09 GMT
So proud of you Cindy! I can't wait to read your happy updates. Because I'm sure they will be. Go you!!
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Post by cawoman on Jul 29, 2017 2:15:19 GMT
Re your update, good for you Cindy!!! Now you can surround yourself with people that make you happy. Good luck with everything!
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Post by chaosisapony on Jul 29, 2017 2:19:56 GMT
I'm glad to read your update. I hope it leads you to happiness. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg)
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Post by jenjie on Jul 29, 2017 2:24:56 GMT
Cindy I wish the best for you. This was a good decision.
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Post by Nanner on Jul 29, 2017 2:52:42 GMT
Cindy, That's great that you're taking real steps to bring some happiness back into your life!
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 29, 2017 2:53:52 GMT
YAY!!! you!!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2017 3:02:51 GMT
I am glad that you're out of the house. Have you found an attorney?
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Post by aljack on Jul 29, 2017 3:17:12 GMT
OK ladies, I've crunched the numbers and I have a plan. I'm going out to look at apartments today. I'm not going to say anything to anyone here at home. I'm so excited! Called the lawyer and made an appointment to file for divorce. I read about the law in FL about leaving the house - I'm not losing any rights to it because my name is on the mortgage. Thank you for your support and kind words. I'll keep you updated on how it goes. Mortgage or deed? Just clarifying because I was told the mortgage means more than financial responsibility and the deed means entitled to the property? Glad and you are taking steps to freedom! Wish you the best!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2017 3:19:46 GMT
OK ladies, I've crunched the numbers and I have a plan. I'm going out to look at apartments today. I'm not going to say anything to anyone here at home. I'm so excited! Called the lawyer and made an appointment to file for divorce. I read about the law in FL about leaving the house - I'm not losing any rights to it because my name is on the mortgage. Thank you for your support and kind words. I'll keep you updated on how it goes. Mortgage or deed? Just clarifying because I was told the mortgage means more than financial responsibility and the deed means entitled to the property? Glad and you are taking steps to freedom! Wish you the best! Granted, all states could very well be different, but I was never on the mortgage and was always on the deed. So I owned half the house and was responsible for paying for 0% of the house. Pretty sweet deal.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2017 3:22:21 GMT
Congratulations on taking the first step in your new life!
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Post by freebird on Jul 29, 2017 3:40:14 GMT
I'm so proud of you! You're going to be the best pea success story ever. I can feel it.
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Post by Scrappyhappy on Jul 29, 2017 3:43:40 GMT
Good for you!!!! I wish you the best.
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Post by Jennifer C on Jul 29, 2017 3:46:15 GMT
Best of luck to you and I do hope you find peace.
Jennifer
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Post by flute4peace on Jul 29, 2017 4:30:20 GMT
You sound very very passive. It's all like, oh, well, guess it won't work. i'll just have to suffer, or give up my dream job, or whatever. If you want things to change you have to stand up for yourself to them. What is going on with the job in TX? can you move and live with friends or family for awhile? It will only work out, IF you work it out. Not if you just sit there, and throw around warnings and threats to each other. Yes, I agree with you. I haven't given up on getting a teaching job in Texas - it just has to wait until next year - or maybe until later during this school year. Although, I am against changing jobs during the school year because its not fair to my students. No, I can't live with friends or family. My family all have their own problems and I don't want to get into the middle of that. It wouldn't end well. I don't want to burden any friends with my drama. That would be humiliating. I won't threaten anyone anymore - I'll just stay in my scrapbook room and be quiet until I can get out of here. As much as you love your students, right now you have to put YOURSELF first!. If that means moving to TX and taking sub jobs, do it. Heck, move to TX and find a job in retail or whatever until your certification comes through. I would also highly recommend that you get those pictures to a safe place not on your property. Is it possible to still contact the photographer? Your son's ashes, as well. As hard as it is to ask, are your daughters both of yours or is one of you a step parent? The only reason I ask is that you said the marriage was 15 years. Either way, they are adults and you don't owe them anything. They are old enough to support themselves. Especially if they have attitude. Frankly, even though it's advised to not leave the marital home unless unsafe, sometimes it's just worth it. I have a friend who just went through that. She didn't have the resourcea to fight in court so chose to cut her losses. She lost her house, car, pretty much everything other than her own personal effects. But she GAINED peace, dignity and a whole new start in a new town. I will be praying for you. Please keep us posted.
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Post by flute4peace on Jul 29, 2017 4:42:02 GMT
OK ladies, I've crunched the numbers and I have a plan. I'm going out to look at apartments today. I'm not going to say anything to anyone here at home. I'm so excited! Called the lawyer and made an appointment to file for divorce. I read about the law in FL about leaving the house - I'm not losing any rights to it because my name is on the mortgage. Thank you for your support and kind words. I'll keep you updated on how it goes. Go Cindy!!!!! *pumps fist*
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Post by flute4peace on Jul 29, 2017 4:45:29 GMT
Mortgage or deed? Just clarifying because I was told the mortgage means more than financial responsibility and the deed means entitled to the property? Glad and you are taking steps to freedom! Wish you the best! Granted, all states could very well be different, but I was never on the mortgage and was always on the deed. So I owned half the house and was responsible for paying for 0% of the house. Pretty sweet deal. Woah. I have never heard of that before
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 29, 2017 4:45:48 GMT
Sometimes districts hire even after the echo year starts. Apparently many states have teacher shortages
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Post by anniefb on Jul 29, 2017 5:13:00 GMT
Great to read your update!
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Post by kernriver on Jul 29, 2017 5:23:30 GMT
For as much shit as your daughter and husband have given you, I would get stuff ready to go soon after the announcement. I have a feeling they will make it as difficult as possible on you.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 29, 2017 5:25:52 GMT
You sound very very passive. It's all like, oh, well, guess it won't work. i'll just have to suffer, or give up my dream job, or whatever. If you want things to change you have to stand up for yourself to them. What is going on with the job in TX? can you move and live with friends or family for awhile? It will only work out, IF you work it out. Not if you just sit there, and throw around warnings and threats to each other. Yes, I agree with you. I haven't given up on getting a teaching job in Texas - it just has to wait until next year - or maybe until later during this school year. Although, I am against changing jobs during the school year because its not fair to my students. No, I can't live with friends or family. My family all have their own problems and I don't want to get into the middle of that. It wouldn't end well. I don't want to burden any friends with my drama. That would be humiliating. I won't threaten anyone anymore - I'll just stay in my scrapbook room and be quiet until I can get out of here. I think you would be really surprised by how much your friends will want to help you if you ask. They don't want you to be miserable any more than you do! When my BFF was in her first marriage, he was an emotionally abusive jerk. She was miserable but had two little kids and didn't know how she would make it without his financial support. I begged her daily to get get out, and she finally got to the point where she'd had enough and moved out with the kids. My DH and I helped to move her twice, among other things. I love her like family and would do anything for her, and I'm sure your friends feel the same way about you. She has now been married to her current DH for almost 20 years and life is infinitely better. If there are things your friends could do to help, please let them know. I know I would do whatever I could to help a friend in a tight spot. It's not a burden, it's called friendship. ![](http://i1168.photobucket.com/albums/r481/2peasrefugees/Smilies/hug.gif)
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jul 29, 2017 5:44:09 GMT
Honestly this was the exact update I was hoping for! I am so excited for you and your new life!!! You might find keeping a journal helps you get through the rough times. You do not have to go back and read it. You do not have to keep it. You can burn it if it makes you feel better. There is no law that says you must look at it again. Once you get rid of all the thoughts in your head, you feel empty in your brain. That means there is nothing numinating around, no more thoughts of what if etc. You are really without thoughts. That is a very comforting feeling. No one has to take up space in your head any longer. I wouldn't suggest it if it didn't help for me. I write everything down (when I need to) and then I am out of thoughts. It's amazing. You can just burn the pages when you are done if that makes you feel better.
Wishing you sunshine tomorrow!
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 29, 2017 7:18:43 GMT
Am so happy to see your update. X
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Post by AllieC on Jul 29, 2017 8:13:21 GMT
Very happy to read your update. Wishing you the very best for your new chapter. Not going to be easy I'm sure but life will be much more peaceful.
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Post by mom on Jul 29, 2017 8:51:06 GMT
We are here for you!! ❤️
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Post by teddyw on Jul 29, 2017 10:44:01 GMT
Good update. You need to get away from them. Good luck.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Jul 29, 2017 10:46:31 GMT
Wow, great update. I hope you find much happiness in your new life. Wishing you all the best, you deserve it.
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Post by elaine on Jul 29, 2017 10:54:32 GMT
Sending you best wishes for a smooth transition into a happier life!
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