Post by momto4kiddos on Aug 11, 2017 15:28:44 GMT
Long story short, I have a family member who I've had some ongoing conflict with. It's a multi-subject conflict.
I said something (in response) to them that was probably hurtful. One of those they shouldn't have said what they said to me, but I apologized. My apology was a straight up I apologize because I believe I hurt your feelings. No mention of what led up, no blame, just took responsibility for my action.
Other conflicts are involved that don't have to do with that. This person tends to be overly sensitive, but at the same time freely gives their opinion. I've been on the receiving end of the opinions and they've been hurtful. I've kept quiet quite a bit, but at one point some of it came out. No apology has been made on either side, no discussion. I'd be willing to bet they'll claim they're hurt by the "accusations" because i'm not sure they'll take responsibility for what they've said.
I don't expect an apology because I know one won't come. I can move past this though with the idea that i'll keep them very much at arms length. The problem - they may move on without an apology but they generally aren't the type to stay at arms length. How does one nicely deal with that without further creating conflict? I actually think some of the conflict now has to do with me trying to set a few limits...they generally run the show.
I said something (in response) to them that was probably hurtful. One of those they shouldn't have said what they said to me, but I apologized. My apology was a straight up I apologize because I believe I hurt your feelings. No mention of what led up, no blame, just took responsibility for my action.
Other conflicts are involved that don't have to do with that. This person tends to be overly sensitive, but at the same time freely gives their opinion. I've been on the receiving end of the opinions and they've been hurtful. I've kept quiet quite a bit, but at one point some of it came out. No apology has been made on either side, no discussion. I'd be willing to bet they'll claim they're hurt by the "accusations" because i'm not sure they'll take responsibility for what they've said.
I don't expect an apology because I know one won't come. I can move past this though with the idea that i'll keep them very much at arms length. The problem - they may move on without an apology but they generally aren't the type to stay at arms length. How does one nicely deal with that without further creating conflict? I actually think some of the conflict now has to do with me trying to set a few limits...they generally run the show.
