caro
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Post by caro on Aug 28, 2014 17:19:11 GMT
I do hear of horror stories of back when in potty training... one gal I know.. said her mom kept her on the potty chair for hours at a time. I don't think that is helping at all. I've heard stories like that as well. I never did that with my kids. We didn't 't have pull-ups so it was pampers to cloth undies. They knew when they were wet and didn't 't like it so I think it was easier to train them.
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Post by Zee on Aug 28, 2014 17:29:28 GMT
My mom was 18 mos in the 1950s, I was 2 years old in the 70s, my kids were 2 and 2.5 in the 90s. I think my soon took a bit longer because of daycare and pullups. But, my half brother was 4.5 yrs old by the time he was fully trained and he's the same age as my DD. He's still mom's favorite little prince, lol
I would love to outline the differences between my impoverished teen parent 70s upbringing and his older parent, relatively privileged 90s upbringing but that would be boring.
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Post by dulcemama on Aug 28, 2014 17:38:31 GMT
Just like everything else today - parents don't want to ruin their little psyches. Well, good for them! I am not sure when I potty trained but have a fairly good memory of it happening so I must have been on the older side. I continued to have accidents both day and night up until about 10 years old. The truth is, I often could not tell that I had to go until I was already going. I remember a lot of humiliation and shaming around the issue and wish to God that my parents had tried to protect my little psyche. I am sure that they had the best of intentions but there was just not the understanding of child development that there is today. ETA: When we trained DD, we did not push at all, just followed her lead. She was daytime trained by 2 1/2. Night time took a little longer, but again, we followed her lead. With her "bed wetter" genes (from DH too) I really expected it to take longer than it did. She was night time trained by about 4 1/2.
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Post by momstime on Aug 28, 2014 18:14:06 GMT
My siblings and I were around 18 months. My mom hated washing the cloth diapers, so she started very early to develop that muscle memory in all of us. My son (24) was very verbal...had a large vocabulary at 12 months, so I put him in cloth diapers around 17 months and he was fully trained by 18 months. My daughter (21) told me she wanted Barbie panties for her birthday. I told her she could not get Barbie wet. She never had a single accident post Barbie panties. lol Now my youngest (19)...his window opened (when he was verbal enough to tell me) around 24 months, but we were in the middle of a move across the country, so I waited. I think I waited a bit too long and the window closed. He wasn't fully trained until 2 and a half. I'm glad he wasn't my first, because it was a frustrating experience all the way around.
One thing I do know...the earlier you start to train, the better. It isn't hard to train a verbal 18 month old. They don't have years of experience of going in their pants. The longer you wait, the harder it will be.
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Post by aleighl55 on Aug 28, 2014 18:20:24 GMT
My mom swears I was potty trained at a year old. My ds started at around 2 1/2 but would pee every few minutes in the potty and still have accidents. We stopped for a few months and he was fully trained at around 3.
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Post by utmr on Aug 28, 2014 18:21:02 GMT
Well if you tie the child to the potty for hours on end, and best them with a belt when they wet themselves, you could probably get them trained pretty quick. Like a dog.
Or you could just deal with it. It's only a diaper. They aren't going to wear one to kindergarten.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Aug 28, 2014 18:39:22 GMT
My siblings and I were around 18 months. My mom hated washing the cloth diapers, so she started very early to develop that muscle memory in all of us. My son (24) was very verbal...had a large vocabulary at 12 months, so I put him in cloth diapers around 17 months and he was fully trained by 18 months. My daughter (21) told me she wanted Barbie panties for her birthday. I told her she could not get Barbie wet. She never had a single accident post Barbie panties. lol Now my youngest (19)...his window opened (when he was verbal enough to tell me) around 24 months, but we were in the middle of a move across the country, so I waited. I think I waited a bit too long and the window closed. He wasn't fully trained until 2 and a half. I'm glad he wasn't my first, because it was a frustrating experience all the way around. One thing I do know...the earlier you start to train, the better. It isn't hard to train a verbal 18 month old. They don't have years of experience of going in their pants. The longer you wait, the harder it will be. I'm not sure if it's the experience of going in their pants, but do agree with the window. We finished up with my son when he was around 25 months, and I commented to my husband a few months later that it would have been impossible once he hit the no phase. Just a few months after his second birthday, EVERYTHING was NO!!!! I could offer the kid an ice cream and he'd refuse. He hit that utterly uncooperative stage that lasted at least 6 months, it might have been longer but I've blocked most of it out now. Trying to potty train during that phase would have been nothing but frustration for all. A month or two before two, they seem to be able to verbalize their needs, and still want to cooperate - at least my kids
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Post by katiejane on Aug 28, 2014 18:54:18 GMT
I have no idea as my mum is no longer with us. Both of my kids were dry (day and night) by 23 mths. They are now 15 and 9. I used cloth nappies rather than disposable. I also didn't use pull ups. They both took 2 weeks to train.
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Post by Linda on Aug 29, 2014 2:16:05 GMT
around 2=2.5 I think for me and my sister. I was cloth diapered, she was in early disposables.
My three were day-trained at 24m, 6.5y, and 3.5y - they were night-trained at 12y, 4y, and well...I'll let you know when it happens for the last one, she's almost 8 and still wet every night.
My middle child (the one who was night-trained years before day) had encopresis AND was not externally motivated (sticker charts, dry knickers, praise, a toy, punishment...none that mattered to her, not in regards to toilet learning or anything else for that matter).
All three were cloth diapered and used cloth trainers. I do use Goodnites with the youngest - honestly, I'm tired of washing sheets and they are worth every penny.
My oldest trained himself (days) - he was non-verbal at the time and developmentally delayed (autism spectrum). I hadn't even considered starting training as 'everyone' told me boys train later and he had to be able to talk first. I was completely shocked at how hard it was to train the girls
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Post by gryroagain on Aug 29, 2014 2:36:31 GMT
My mom swears I was a year old, but I wasn't walking then I don't think, since she always marveled at how early mine walked compared to me and my siblings, so? A non walking, potty trained kid? I doubt it.
Mine were 3 and 3. I didn't "potty train". Or rather I did once, for 4 days, and said screw that noise. Plastic pants, couldn't leave the house, sticker charts- no. I bought a cute potty, cute u derwear, explained the process, let them be naked, and waited. My youngest politely asked for a diaper to poop in until she was 4- but no accidents so I count her trained from 3. No fuss, took no time once the kid wanted the panties and wanted to learn, done in a day. It seems silly to me to train a kid who can just figure it out themselves if you wait u til they are ready.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 29, 2014 2:48:34 GMT
Well if you tie the child to the potty for hours on end, and best them with a belt when they wet themselves, you could probably get them trained pretty quick. Like a dog. Or you could just deal with it. It's only a diaper. They aren't going to wear one to kindergarten. Mine does, so there. Is this the part where I should feel bad? I soooo worry about his little psyche. Oh well, 1/2 his class aren't trained either. I have no idea when I was trained. I was the youngest of 5, doubt my mom remembers. I know I had issues, so it took a while. Turns out quite a few of my nieces and nephews had to take "potty pills" (don't know the correct name of the med), to help with their accidents. The difference was like night and day.
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Post by betsy on Aug 29, 2014 2:48:54 GMT
Mom insists I was potty trained at 18 months and that having Big Sis around was a big motivator.
Mine both trained around age 3ish, and whatever, I was fine with that. Little kid potty and the Elmo potty DVD and we took our time.
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Post by sean&marysmommy on Aug 29, 2014 3:37:33 GMT
It's only a diaper. They aren't going to wear one to kindergarten. Ha...unless they do! My cousin's son started Kindergarten this year, still wearing Pull-Ups. She has to send him to a private school because the public school told her no way, no how. He doesn't have any medical issues, that my cousin knows of. My mom claims I was 18 mos. when I was potty trained. Hard to imagine these days, but she swears up and down that it's true. My son was closing in on 4. We started trying when he turned 3, but he wasn't having it, lol. No amount of incentives or big boy underwear swayed him. But one day he just decided to use the toilet. He had 3 or 4 accidents during the day and wet the bed exactly one time. Once he decided to do it, it was so easy! I'm curious to see how it will go with my daughter, who is 8 months right now. We're using cloth diapers with her. We used disposables (and yes, Pull-Ups!) with my son.
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Post by smokey2471 on Aug 29, 2014 4:10:24 GMT
My mom said I was trained at 18 mos. My boys were trained at around 2ish my daughter was trained around 18 mos also because she was very prissy and did not like being wet. She also wanted to pee in the regular toilet. She would not use a potty. I bought a seat for the toilet and she had a little stool to climb on. Her twin brother did not care. I trained him at the same time but he was a little over 2 when he finally was trained. He still wet the bed until he was 5. She never wet the bed.
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Post by mamatoa on Aug 29, 2014 5:13:37 GMT
Just like everything else today - parents don't want to ruin their little psyches. According to my mom, I was nearly 3 and I was impossible to train. I was born in 78. DS wasn't trained until he was 3 1/2, and I can assure you it had nothing to do with "his little psyche". He was difficult to train and has the bladder capacity of an elephant. We actually landed in urgent care when he didn't pee for nearly 18 hours in effort to not pee in his big boy underware but also not to pee in a toilet. It took a moment of superior parenting when I yelled "Why won't you pee in that toilet" to which he replied "I don't what my penis to get cut off" "Why would you think something would cut you off on the toilet?" "Well, what happened to yours mom?" Good Grief. He was potty trained the next day after we cleared that up.
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Post by inkedup on Aug 29, 2014 5:20:31 GMT
My mom says I was potty trained a couple of months short of my 2nd birthday. All of my siblings were potty trained around the same time - 20 to 30 months. I have a friend who believes in child led potty training. Which is why her 4 year old is still in diapers.
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Post by scrapsuzy on Aug 29, 2014 6:28:46 GMT
Okay, first you have to know that I was a very early talker. My mom recorded in my baby book that I was speaking in sentences at 13 months. I had a friend who was several months older than me, and my mother said that when I was 15 months old, I came home from her house (I guess her mom was babysitting me?) and said "Didees off. Christine no wear didees. I no wear didees." And she said I was potty-trained from then on, no accidents. She has told this story for my whole life. It's in the baby book. I guess I believe her?
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Post by Dani-Mani on Aug 29, 2014 10:40:43 GMT
Both of us were trained around a year--and I don't think she's nuts or lying. This whole "when the child is ready" movement is new. I prefer the old movement.
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Post by Anne-Marie on Aug 29, 2014 18:40:03 GMT
I was 18 months. And my mom didn't potty-train me. That came out when I was really frustrated trying to train my daughter at 2.5 years. I turned to my mom for advice and she had to admit that she has never potty-trained a child (I'm an only). My parents were moving the summer I was potty-trained and I spent some time with my aunt and older cousins and apparently I wanted to be like "the big girls" - my aunt says it was the easiest thing she's ever done. And my mom agrees!
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Post by kay2rn on Aug 30, 2014 0:19:29 GMT
I wet the bed at night until I was 5. Mom made me wash my own diaper (cloth), and stand on a kitchen chair in order to hang them out on the clothesline, and that cured me pretty quick! I didn't like the way they smelled. DS was aalmost 3 and had to be potty trained in order to go to pre-school.
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Post by mztfied on Aug 30, 2014 2:02:39 GMT
In my generation most Moms were stah moms. Having a child not potty trained by two was nearly unheard of with our family and friends. It was what was expected. Moms just did it.
My son was trained at 2 however my daughter was less than 18 months. She saw some pretty panties with ruffles on the bottom and wanted me to buy them. I told her that she had to use the potty. No problem. Went home and had a bath. Put on the new panties and she never looked back. She loved those ruffly panties. I have some of the cutest pictures.
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Post by twinsmomfla99 on Aug 30, 2014 3:26:33 GMT
Well if you tie the child to the potty for hours on end, and best them with a belt when they wet themselves, you could probably get them trained pretty quick. Like a dog. Or you could just deal with it. It's only a diaper. They aren't going to wear one to kindergarten. Really? That's the only option other than wait until they're ready? I can guarantee you that my mother never did any of those awful things yet 5 out of 6 of her children were trained by 18-20 months. THe only one who wasn't was my brother with developmental delays. My oldest was almost trained at 20 months, and I wasn't hovering over her watching for signs to get her to the toilet. That's how I started training her, but it was a very short time until she was starting to recognize the signs herself. Unfortunately, the plan fell apart when I went back to work before she was fully trained and her daycare did not follow through during the day. That became confusing for her, and I just waited until I was out of school for the summer after I started teaching. The second time around it only took her 2 days to be completely trained. i think a lot of moms underestimate the ability of an 18 month old to learn to control elimination. No one questions the ability to train a 12 week old puppy, but it's too much to expect of an 18 month old human? When you get down to it, the basic principles of behavior modification apply to both, and neither requires "cruel and unusual" methods to get the required results. Both do require a great deal of effort and consistency from the trainer, though.
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Post by pierkiss on Aug 30, 2014 3:56:37 GMT
I was 2. My mom says she just decided shortly after my 2nd b-day to do it, and apparently I took right to it.
I tried desperately to train my kids at 2. I didn't get my daughter fully trained until about 2 months before she turned 4, and that was only after threatening that she would not be able to go to preschool (which was true, they would not have let her come). I was ripping my hair out and trying every trick in my bag and my husbands bag of tricks to get that kid trained. She just wouldn't effing do it!!! My son has been easier to train, and has been trained since just after turning 3. I held off trying with him at 2 because of how it went with his sister. That, and I knew he just wasn't mentally and physically ready yet.
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