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Post by Skellinton on Sept 3, 2017 15:23:07 GMT
So, I heard through the grapevine that another school has a teacher who fought to have her own child enrolled in her class and it was allowed. It is an elementary school if that makes a difference in your opinion. I personally can't even imagine wanting that to happen myself, so maybe that is clouding my judgement, but to me this just seems like a really bad idea. I honestly can't see any benefits to this.
What do you all think?
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Post by mrsscrapdiva on Sept 3, 2017 15:26:04 GMT
I think it is a bad idea. Doesn't sound "healthy" for anyone involved. I wonder why it was permitted?
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Sept 3, 2017 15:26:36 GMT
NO!!
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 3, 2017 15:29:01 GMT
I think that is a bad idea.
Even if the kids does everything on their own, there will always be kids who say that his grades were unfairly given.
And who wants to be in their mom's class anyway? Talk about never getting a break.
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Post by leftturnonly on Sept 3, 2017 15:31:14 GMT
I was there the first day of kindergarten when a dear teacher friend of mine had to calmly pry her daughter off of her leg and lead her to her own, different kindergarten classroom. Surprisingly, that kid grew up just fine.
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Post by ihaveonly1l on Sept 3, 2017 15:34:14 GMT
I think it's a bad idea...I had my own son in science class when he was in fourth grade because we were a two unit building and we swapped science and social studies. It wasn't bad because it was just 45 minutes a day and he was fine with it, but I wouldn't have liked it all day long. I did find a lot of amusement when he was working on his science journal at the kitchen table and I would chime in with, "I don't think your science teacher will accept such sloppy work" even though it was always perfect. My own slice of fun.
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Post by Merge on Sept 3, 2017 15:39:07 GMT
It depends a lot on the teacher and the student. I've seen it work just fine. I've seen it be a disaster.
Personally, I had my own kids in music class for several years and it wasn't a big deal - but that's just 45 minutes once a week.
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Post by used2scrap on Sept 3, 2017 15:40:45 GMT
Full on elementary grade teacher? Not a great idea and I'm surprised a principal would allow it. Single subjects? Not a problem.
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Post by stephgg on Sept 3, 2017 15:42:19 GMT
My cousin had her son in her class when he was in the first grade. She suspected he was on the autism spectrum, and she wanted to keep an eye on him. She saw things she wouldn't normally if he was in another class. It worked out really well for them. My husband's mom was his high school math teacher. They said it was awkward at first, but they eventually got over it. Maybe the younger the child the less awkward?
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Post by hop2 on Sept 3, 2017 15:45:06 GMT
I think it's a bad idea. I'm not a teacher but one of the worst 'fights' I had with my DD was one time ( yes one time ) at girl scouts when I had to show/help all 12 girls with sewing a pillow. DD threw a fit because she felt neglected because she already knew how to sew a simple rectangle pillow and was done in no time and I spent 'way more time' helping everyone else and I wasn't even their mother. I had to explain to her that all the time I spend with her at home she already had the knowledge the others did not. That by helping them doesn't mean I love her and less.
It was a bad meeting. We both survived. But I can't imagine dealing with that daily and how 'left out' my child could feel wether it's right or wrong for the child to feel that way, the feeling are valid and it hurt me to make my DD feel that way.
Having your own kid in your class as a teacher just opens the door for so many various issues that don't need to be.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 3, 2017 15:53:09 GMT
When I was in high school, there was a boy who had to take a science class with his mom as the teacher.
It hadn't been planned like that. The other science teacher unexpectedly left for medical re a and his mom was tasked to carry both classes.
He hated it so much. It was so awkward, and the kids were merciless.
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Post by Skellinton on Sept 3, 2017 16:00:40 GMT
My cousin had her son in her class when he was in the first grade. She suspected he was on the autism spectrum, and she wanted to keep an eye on him. She saw things she wouldn't normally if he was in another class. It worked out really well for them. My husband's mom was his high school math teacher. They said it was awkward at first, but they eventually got over it. Maybe the younger the child the less awkward? I don't know that is awkward as much as it seems emotionally unhealthy to me.
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Post by Skellinton on Sept 3, 2017 16:07:14 GMT
I had a friend's parent as a teacher in high school and that was awkward to me Obviously I survived, but it was weird to be at their house all the time and have dinner with my teacher. I would feel awkward teaching another teacher's kid, especially in elementary school.
I just really don't see any positives, but I am glad to hear your opinions. When it was brought up at school in the lounge you could see a lot of "looks" on everyone's face, but I think we were all nervous to really discuss it because we didn't want to offend anyone.
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Post by peasapie on Sept 3, 2017 16:15:48 GMT
Well I wouldn't want to have had my daughter in my class, as her behavior around me wasn't exactly admirable at that age. And I was probably harder on her than any teacher would have been. Coaching sports is a similar scenario for many.
I wouldn't judge someone else, though. Maybe she has very good reasons. Maybe her child is well-behaved in her presence. Maybe the other grade level teachers aren't great. I would think the mom would know best.
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Post by beachbum on Sept 3, 2017 16:16:36 GMT
I taught my youngest DD in 2nd grade. This was in '96, there was one 21st Century classroom for each grade level and DD loved the technology. One perk for teachers was being able to pick teachers for your own children (that's about the only perk!), so that's where I put DD. About 2 days before school started the teacher she was supposed to have transferred to another school and my P asked if I wanted that class - he knew I wanted a 21st Century classroom. I was teaching 1st at the time. I was concerned about DD, but a couple of other teachers had taught their own children there and it had worked out for them, and the P was supportive. DD didn't care, she just wanted to be in that room! So I did it. I really just thought of her as another kid in the class. I talked to the parents at the beginning of the year meeting, it was a very small town and I knew most of them - I had several of the class in 1st grade and knew a lot of parents socially too. There were no issues at all, she didn't try to take advantage of being the teacher's kid. DH did all the homework that year. It worked out well for us, we had a great year.
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Post by psoccer on Sept 3, 2017 16:20:08 GMT
When my son was in 4th grade the teacher's daughter was in her class. I don't think it was healthy. My son would come home of stories of kids getting in trouble because they said something to her daughter, or that her daughter could get into the treat jar whenever she wanted, not just as the weekly/monthly/whatever reward. It was obvious signs of favoritism. On the other hand, in high school, my daughter has had teachers with their children in their classes, and no problems reported. I used to sub in my kids classes and I was the hardest on my own.
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Post by Sparki on Sept 3, 2017 16:22:16 GMT
A lot of my teachers through out school had children in their class. No one ever hinted that it was a problem - in fact, the general consensus was that the teachers were harder on their own kids.
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Post by pondrunner on Sept 3, 2017 16:24:12 GMT
When I was in charge of such things I avoided it if at all humanly possible. Sometimes you can't avoid it and you just expect your teachers to be professional enough to be fair. I don't think it's generally appropriate. Too many opportunities for accusation of unequal treatment.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2017 16:32:22 GMT
Not acceptable.
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Post by gotranch on Sept 3, 2017 16:36:36 GMT
Oh boy, there are many teachers in our district that have had their own children as students. Sometimes that is the only option in small schools where there is one teacher per grade level or subject. I haven't heard that it was much of an issue for either parent or child. Most certainly there is a period of adjustment, but it is more common than you think. Perhaps the climate of a small school its self makes it a non-issue since there is an expectation by teachers, students and parents that it is very likely to happen.
Having said that, I did not have any of my three DDs in my elementary classes over the years. It just worked out that way. I was glad they were able to have another important role model in their life, but would have taken it in stride if I had been their teacher too.
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Post by doxiesx3 on Sept 3, 2017 16:39:21 GMT
In my small community, there is only 1 teacher per grade level until 5th grade, when they start to switch classes. Many teachers here have no choice but to teach their own child as there is no other option.
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Post by ghislaine on Sept 3, 2017 16:47:40 GMT
It happens around here pretty regularly because some of our schools are small enough to only have one teacher for a grade. A friend posted at the end of last school year about having survived the year with her daughter in her Kindergarten class. My husband's first grade teacher was his mother. His family would always joke about the strange way he tied his shoes or something that you learn at that age and blame it on his first grade teacher! I'd say it's a poor choice in general but when necessary whether for school size or observation reasons like the autistic example above then it makes sense.
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Post by paget on Sept 3, 2017 16:50:39 GMT
I had my parents as elementary teachers for 5 years / very small school/small Town.. 3rd grade twice with my dad (I did not need to be held back - my dad had issues and was trying to give me advantages in sports and academics... Whole other thread!), 4th with dad again as it was then a 3/4 split class and then 5/6 split with my mom. I've got stories! Dad = not good experience but that was because of him. Mom was great.
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Post by quiltz on Sept 3, 2017 16:51:25 GMT
My dad's friend was the VP of my high school. Dad got angry one time over something and said that he would talk to *Dave*. I told dad not to bother as dad had signed off of my courses and he would look stupid. I can't believe that I actually said that to my dad. Dad did let the subject end, and didn't contact his friend.
I'm glad that I didn't know personally any of my kid's teachers, socially, while they were in school.
Not a good idea unless there is no other teacher to teach that class.
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 3, 2017 16:58:44 GMT
I didn't read any of the other comments yet. Wanted to post first. I brought my kids to my elementary school with me. While it was completely exhausting to have kids in my room from 7-5 most days, it was beneficial. Now I am talking when they weren't in my class, just before and after school. I have no idea if I could have had my kid in my classroom. I never asked. No teacher ever had their own kid and lots of us brought our kids to school. I believe in most cases it would be a bad idea. Even if the kid and teacher were down with it, it would make the rest of the kids feel all kinds of ways. Would there be favoritism? Would there too much knowledge of what is going on with other kids in class? Would you put your own child's educational needs above the other kids in class? It would be hard. The most difficult years I taught were the two years that my children were in the grade level I taught. I had all of my kids' friends in my class. Weird to have sleepovers at your teacher's house, ya think? I did have my oldest in my math class for 1/2 the year. He was in advanced math with two other boys and they worked primarily in the hallway. My son refused to come in and ask for help when I was the teacher for that chapter. It was weird for him and his friends. People also think that your kid gets special treatment regardless of whether or not your kid is in your class. It just isn't worth it. Now if there were only two teachers in the grade level and the other one sucked rotten tomatoes, I might change my opinion. Thankfully that was not the case.
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 3, 2017 17:02:19 GMT
I had a friend's parent as a teacher in high school and that was awkward to me Obviously I survived, but it was weird to be at their house all the time and have dinner with my teacher. I would feel awkward teaching another teacher's kid, especially in elementary school. I just really don't see any positives, but I am glad to hear your opinions. When it was brought up at school in the lounge you could see a lot of "looks" on everyone's face, but I think we were all nervous to really discuss it because we didn't want to offend anyone. I had teacher's kids in my classes almost every year. I also had the school boards kids (6 of them). You get past the awkward pretty fast. I just went to one the school board kiddo's weddings last month.
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 3, 2017 17:03:15 GMT
My husband had both of our sons in his athletic training class in high school. They loved it because their friends thought their dad was cool. They also could go to the training room for lunch, so all of their friends would go there to hang out with my husband. Funny, they never did that with me in elementary school.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2017 17:06:38 GMT
Full on elementary grade teacher? Not a great idea and I'm surprised a principal would allow it. Single subjects? Not a problem. I agree with this completely. I am an ESL teacher and DS goes to our school. He takes primarily Arabic and French classes during the week. He is in my English class for only one hour a week...and THAT is enough. He and I maintain a strict student and teacher relationship. I show him no favor but I am not harder on him either. I do further homeschool him in English at home as he is at a much higher level than anyone there. But he is 11.
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Post by annie on Sept 3, 2017 17:07:08 GMT
I've seen it a lot and I don't think it's a big deal at all.
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Post by SockMonkey on Sept 3, 2017 17:09:48 GMT
It happens. My husband's dad taught at our high school and was the only teacher for a particular subject. Both of his sons took his class. (One did very well, one did not...LOL).
However, putting on my school administrator's hat, if another option was available, I'd make sure that the student took a different teacher (for everyone's sake).
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