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Post by lbp on Oct 18, 2017 18:11:44 GMT
I am about to strangle my 83 year old Dad! I talked to him Monday and he told me he was lying in the bed because he tried to take his 7 month old, demented cat out of a leash. The cat went crazy and wound himself around a fence and Dad's hand up with it. He yelled and yelled until the neighbor came over and untangled them then Dad stepped back and fell over a concrete planter and hurt his foot. So he is all scratched up from the cat and his foot is bruised and swollen. I could not talk him in to going to Dr.
Then he tells me that now that his foot is hurt, how is he going to climb the ladder to paint the edges of the roof on his shed. I told him stay off the ladder that I would come and paint the shed this Sunday. Just got a call from my sister. Guess who fell of the ladder TODAY? He couldn't wait 4 more days to paint the trim that has needed painting for years?
Guess who refuses to go to the Dr. to see about his hurt foot, scratched hand and now a hurt back???
ARGH!! He is so hard headed! He is walking on foot so I don't think it is broken. He has bandaids all over his hands and is lying down. I am going to try and talk him into seeing his PCP tomorrow just to get everything checked out.
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Post by casii on Oct 18, 2017 18:13:39 GMT
I feel for you. It's a tough spot you're in and dad sounds super stubborn. Hope you can get him into a PCP!
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Post by elaine on Oct 18, 2017 18:15:57 GMT
I’m sorry! How infuriating and scary at the same time.
Is he dealing with dementia of some sort? Why would someone walk a kitten on a leash?
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 18, 2017 18:17:08 GMT
This is my dad in ten years. I can see it now. The paint the shed thing definitely.
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Post by mom on Oct 18, 2017 18:21:22 GMT
oh wow! You have your hands full, it seems! Hope your Pop can get into his Dr and get his back checked out!
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Post by lbp on Oct 18, 2017 18:21:28 GMT
I’m sorry! How infuriating and scary at the same time. Is he dealing with dementia of some sort? Why would someone walk a kitten on a leash? He doesn't have dementia. He is sharp as a tack. He said he felt sorry that the cat couldn't go outside because he hasn't been neutered yet (scheduled for next week) and wanted the cat to have some fresh air and chase the birds!
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Post by femalebusiness on Oct 18, 2017 18:22:54 GMT
Cat scratches can be very dangerous. Watch the scratches for infection. Sorry he is so stubborn.
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Post by papersilly on Oct 18, 2017 18:29:58 GMT
i feel for you too! my friend and i were just commiserating about our stubborn dads who are around the same age as your dad. stubborn, stubborn, stubborn! make me wonder if we will be the same way when we get older? ? i hope your dad gets better soon and i agree, he needs to get those scratches checked out before they get infected or something. |
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Post by craftedbys on Oct 18, 2017 18:33:33 GMT
I feel your pain. My dad just turned 90, and he still wants to do rhings he did when he was younger.
We have taken the lawn mower to our house and I bring it over once a week or so to mow the lawn, I have him add the gas and he will sometimes use the weed eater to edge the driveway.
He doesn't always want to listen to my bother and I, so sometimes we enlist the help of his doctor. I will call the nurse before an appointment and discuss our concerns, and then at his appointment the doctor will ask questions to get on the subject and then tell Dad the same thing we have said, but Dad will listen to him.
DB and I had been trying to get him and mom to move their bedroom downstairs to the guest room for several months, the doctor suggested it at a Friday appointment and Monday morning we were our shopping for a new bed for them.
It is very difficult to not treat your parent like a child. The best thing you can do is try to keep their house as safe as possible and "borrow" anything that you need to.
Good luck keeping your Dad safe and healthy and be thankful for every day you have him.
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Post by deekaye on Oct 18, 2017 18:51:42 GMT
Aww, I feel for you! I just got off the phone with my mom who is "only" 79. She hurt her back trying to move a dresser this morning. You know, the same dresser that I told her that I would help her move when I got there on Friday? Now her back hurts and she is scheduled to leave on a cruise in less than two weeks.
<sigh>
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Post by anonrefugee on Oct 18, 2017 18:57:00 GMT
I read your post nodding, my father is almost 82.
Between episodes I'm thrilled he's still so vital.
When it goes south for either he or my mother I want to shake some sense into them!
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Post by mikklynn on Oct 18, 2017 19:01:16 GMT
I feel for you. A couple years back my dad knew my sister was coming up the next day to help with getting the boat launched. Could he wait? Nope. Long story short, he broke his hip. ARRGGGH!
I am taking notes of how I am NOT going to be when I am older.
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Post by mikklynn on Oct 18, 2017 19:02:30 GMT
He doesn't always want to listen to my bother and I, so sometimes we enlist the help of his doctor. I will call the nurse before an appointment and discuss our concerns, and then at his appointment the doctor will ask questions to get on the subject and then tell Dad the same thing we have said, but Dad will listen to him. You and your brother are very smart! That is a great way to deal with your dad. And, so is his doctor, for listening to your concerns and addressing them. |
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Post by elaine on Oct 18, 2017 19:57:51 GMT
I’m sorry! How infuriating and scary at the same time. Is he dealing with dementia of some sort? Why would someone walk a kitten on a leash? Many people walk their cats on a leash. It's cruel to keep a cat inside with no safe exposure to the outside world. I'm not saying, let a cat roam wherever they want, but taking a cat out for a short walk or even just to sit on the lawn is something a cat enjoys. And it does take some time to get a cat used to it's leash. I live in an area with a large population- 500 townhouses, 100 single family homes & 500 condominiums. I walk my dogs 3-4 times per day and have for 7 years - at least 3 miles per day. I have never seen anyone walk a cat on a leash. Nor did I when I lived in Eugene, OR, Colorado Springs, or Monterey, CA and walked my dog there too. Some people may walk a cat on a leash. I have never seen it, so my definition of “many” may be different than yours. In my 20 years as an adult owner who has walked her dogs daily, I have never seen a cat on a leash. |
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Post by destined2bmom on Oct 18, 2017 20:04:49 GMT
Huge hugs! I hope your dad is okay. Maybe you could call his doctor and have the doctor call to talk him into seeing him.
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Post by deekaye on Oct 18, 2017 20:05:31 GMT
I read your post nodding, my father is almost 82. Between episodes I'm thrilled he's still so vital. When it goes south for either he or my mother I want to shake some sense into them! And I'm reading your post and nodding.... I need to constantly remind myself that we are so fortunate that she is still living on her own, independent and relatively healthy. It's just that independent-streak that makes me want to scream sometimes! She truly still thinks that she is in the prime of her life and thinks nothing of trying to move furniture, climb a ladder, etc..... |
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Post by Peal on Oct 18, 2017 20:40:38 GMT
Sounds just like my 81 yo FIL. He's having a hard time healing from some reconstructive surgery earlier this year. He's had at least one if not two posts removed from his mouth because they weren't healing. The Drs have basically told him that he has to stop working and actually convalesce if he wants to have teeth. It never occurred to him he might need some down time. Dh talks to him, then just shakes his head at what he's been doing.
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Post by burningfeather on Oct 18, 2017 20:44:33 GMT
Ugh, I feel your pain. My (late) father had a heart attack and triple bypass. He wasn't home 3 weeks before he was up on his roof reroofing it - by himself. After his second heart attack and bypass several years later, no matter how much I griped at him, he still insisted on shoveling the walks and driveways for 3 or 4 different neighbors.
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Post by colleen on Oct 18, 2017 21:02:08 GMT
Many people walk their cats on a leash. It's cruel to keep a cat inside with no safe exposure to the outside world. I'm not saying, let a cat roam wherever they want, but taking a cat out for a short walk or even just to sit on the lawn is something a cat enjoys. And it does take some time to get a cat used to it's leash. I live in an area with a large population- 500 townhouses, 100 single family homes & 500 condominiums. I walk my dogs 3-4 times per day and have for 7 years - at least 3 miles per day. I have never seen anyone walk a cat on a leash. Nor did I when I lived in Eugene, OR, Colorado Springs, or Monterey, CA and walked my dog there too. Some people may walk a cat on a leash. I have never seen it, so my definition of “many” may be different than yours. In my 20 years as an adult owner who has walked her dogs daily, I have never seen a cat on a leash. It's definitely a thing, I've seen people with their cats on leashes. But you don't really walk them like a dog. You kind of hang out in the yard and let them get fresh air. I tried it with my cat. Luckily, he's pretty chill and can hang out with us in the yard unleashed -- and the dog rats him out if he's doing something naughty. And OP and others - my 84 year old dad makes me want to bang my head against a wall at least once a week, but I'm so grateful to still have him around. |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Oct 18, 2017 21:06:54 GMT
Hope there’s nothing serious wrong with your dad. BTDT! DH had to confiscate his mom’s step ladder because he was afraid she would try to things by herself that she shouldn’t, fall off of it and hurt herself. |
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He couldn't wait 4 more days to paint the trim that has needed painting for years?
