Brochu-Updated No Hate Crine

I saw that story yesterday and it’s incomprehensible to me how anyone could act that way with such cruelty and disregard for others. She’s a truly awful person.

The article you linked is Michelle Obama talking about being the first in her family to go to college and it's meant to reassure young people who are the first to go to college in their family. She talks about how she was nervous to go there. Didn't think she was smart enough, brought the wrong size sheets. Nothing about her roommate. It was a nice article and I'm glad I read it. I do recall reading an article about how her first roommate only lived with her for a semester and then either moved into a different room or left college. SaveSave

I read about them - They basically gave all those people the finger and then whined that people took offense to it. SaveSave

This is something I've always wondered about (for 53 years) My roommate in college did not like me. She didn't even stay a semester....came back from TG, she had moved to another room next door. We were Both WASP Texans from similiar backgrounds.

 I don't expect everyone to like me, but I was a much nicer person then than I am now and cannot think of a single reason  she would dislike me. I don't remember how she acted after she moved...probably would if it were mean or different.

I can't even begin to imagine how horrible it was for the roommate to have to share a dorm room with such a hateful, vile person. One can only wonder what her parents are like. The internet will remember Briana Brochu forever.

How awful for the roommate. I can'timagine living like that and then discovering what your roommate was doing to you, but then I would also hate it if my roommate was posting the private sleep videos of me as well.

Don't assume it is the parents fault. Often children are taught wrong, but many children are taught correctly and choose to go against those teachings.

I will always remember a group of kids talking about how bad my parents must be because of the things my brother was doing, not knowing we were siblings. Bad behavior of a child does not automatically mean bad parenting.

Yes, the increases are real. It's not that there are suddenly more people who feel and think this way, but rather now they feel emboldened to let their racist flags fly. SPLC tracks incidents and I saw a friend post on FB recently about a 95% increase in swastika vandalism on Jewish targets (I think that was just in NY).

I had a similar thing where another woman at work apparently hated me. I had absolutely no clue - we were friendly enough at work and I couldn't think of anything I had done to make her hate me. *shrug* In the end I figured it said more about her than me and moved on. You never know what's going on in people's heads!

I used to always automatically assume parents were assholes who parented their kids wrong and while I certainly think that is true sometimes, I now see it with more nuance. At some point other influences can have a bigger impact than parental influence and it scares the shit out of me as a parent. I'm not a perfect parent, but I try my best to teach and model the right things for my daughter and I think overall she's a good kid. But sometimes she still makes dumb ass decisions (granted, nothing as abhorrent as this story, but stuff more typical of a nine year old - like throwing pillows into a moving ceiling fan with her cousin. She knows what the right decisions are, but doesn't always execute). And I think we all know good people who have shitty kids or kids that do shitty things or see new stories like that - I remember reading an article from the parents of a white supremacist and they were horrified, disappointed, spoke out against their son's beliefs, and distanced themselves from him.

What this young woman did was absolutely horrible and I hope she suffers the full consequences. No idea what her parents are like or what their reaction is, but there is no justifying what she did.

I wonder what kind of in depth studies have been done on formation of these types of beliefs - it would be interesting to see a comprehensive break down. Value systems are passed down, so that is certainly a big factor, but there are also people who don't subscribe to the same set of beliefs as their parents and are good people despite their upbringings. 

     Her parents must be proud.


Not real sure why Michelle Obama is included in the post.