ever have 'one of those days? '

If you're healthy take advantage of what you can. Perhaps you don't have a lot of free time, but use that free time when you can for something fulfilling for yourself. If a chore doesn't get done because you are enjoying your life then I view that as a good thing. You'll get to the chore later. It's important to balance your life and if you're healthy then do it. I learned that the hard way. Don't follow suit.

Yes pretty much all the time!

I avoid FB most days because everyone that I follow seems to have such marvelous lives! It's fucking depressing to know your life isn't like that at all.

Having said all this I'd give anything to have that boring life back after the hell it's been since August.

Stay off of Facebook.

And if things don't get better today they will tomorrow. Or in a few days. I had the longest string of HORRIBLE days a few weeks ago and things got better. After I had ice cream for dinner a few times.

I just remind myself they are only posting the exciting stuff and none of the crap they deal with.

With dh's mood and dd's inability to get herself up and moving this morning I was so wishing for the days when I was single and only had myself and my stuff to worry about. The attitudes my family has developed has me about ready to run away to live in a cabin in the mountains alone.

I unfollowed that person on Facebook.  I couldn't take it anymore.  I am not normally the jealous sort of person.  But this person was trip after trip.  A new house.  A lakehouse.  And when her husband bought her a top of the line Jeep for a birthday gift, that was it for me.  I just didn't want to hear about her new purse or her 500 selfies of how beautiful she looks after getting her hair done.  And yes, she's beautiful too.  It just got to be too much.  I found I would read her posts and then get resentful.  I figured that I did not need that in my life, in my face, every single day.  Maybe that makes me a bad person, but someone can only take so much of flaunting material things in your face before you just start to feel bad about all the things you don't have.  I don't want to live my life thinking about all the things that are missing in my life.  Last week's sermon was about gratitude.  And the fact that so many people feel entitled to things and then don't look at them as a gift.  I have been trying to think about all the blessings I have in my life and view them as gifts.

On the flip side, I have one facebook friend who is a very eccentric, intellectual sort.  He has been different from the norm since I met him at age 7.  He is witty and passionate.  He also chooses to live life as simply as he possibly can.  3 changes of clothes, no bed to sleep on (he sleeps on the floor), his 20 year old Jeep does not have doors on it and he lives in Michigan's Upper Peninsula.  But he posts the most amazing nature photography.  He posts about all his adventures. He lives like a recluse, but his posts always make me think about things in different ways.  When was the last time we stopped to appreciate our microwave?  We don't.  We feel like a microwave is a basic necessity.  Yet, he lives happily without one.  And it makes me think about how blessed I actually am.  I have the luxury of scrapbooking.  Do I have a room?  Nope.  Do I have a large stash? Nope.  But just as I can live simply with very little scrapbook products, he can live simply in every single aspect of his life.  I envy him.  And he's the kind of person I want to envy.  A person with character and passion.  A person who has  virtually nothing and is absolutely OK with that.  I envy how his mind works.  And his posts inspire me. 

I'm glad you posted this. I read it and thought "I feel exactly that way about my ex." He and his GF just came home from a 2.5 week trip to China, last year it was Thailand, the year before that Iceland, before that New Zealand and next fall it's Africa. The pictures are splashed all over FB because he feels like he has to tag my 14 yo DD so she can see them (she didn't go). Meanwhile, my DH and I stay home, have not had a vacation in the 6 years we've been together without at least one kid or his mother, and run everyone where they need to be in addition to working full-time. DH travels for work every week so I'm the one stuck holding the bag.

Then I realized: he is on the verge of being caught cheating again. About a month ago, one of his "friends" posted his on-line dating profile to his FB page. He deleted it and told everyone that it was old and he hadn't been active on it since he met his GF almost 4 years ago. He also has an IG page that I'm sure she doesn't know about it since it's under a fake name. So in addition to having all those adventures, he is constantly looking over his shoulder instead of being a stand-up guy.

My conscious is clear. I'm there for all my kids' big moments, something I wouldn't trade for the world!

I remind myself that what people show on FB is their highlight reel. You'd think I have this fabulous exciting life by what I post, but in reality, my life mimics the movie Groundhog Day. 

This and I have a friend who can't pay the bills and yet vacations at least every 6 weeks.


And should have added... She gets into knock down drag out fights with her husband. ( she does hit back). He broke her hand during one fight. He smokes weed drinks and has cheated on her. She left him once.
She can vacation all she wants , I know what goes on behind her closed doors and don't want her life.

Girl, I had to drag dd out of bed this morning. Teens. Ugh!

This. Exactly this.

But I found too, that reading such down and sad posts from others, made it harder to remember what I have that others dont.

I worked on that in therapy years ago and yes finding the positive is a great tool. And being thankful for what I have.

But when a mom friend is yet *again* posting about her awful day with the kids, its hard to stay positive.

Other peoples emotions affect me. So I cut out fb. And dang it have I been way less stressed and happy.

My best friend and I have a silly, not-very-mature, "drinking" game we play on Facebook. Every time that mutual acquaintance/Facebook friend posts about her faaaa-buh-louslife (new car, new toys, perfect city home, wonderful summer home, perfect children, perfect husband, etc.) we offer a private message toast to each other. It's amazing how many funny gifs or memes have to do with alcohol!

See, I told you it's not very mature, but it keeps us laughing!

I totally want to do this, but those acquaintances I follow on ig and fb that qualify are not followed by anyone I’m close to. I stick with those ones for entertainment purposes.