Voting & Husbands

I have had respectful discussions with my spouse and his views and perspectives have made me reconsider my stances on certain subjects. So in that way, yes, I have been influenced by him.

However, my vote has never been influenced by how he wants me to vote or a feeling of needing to "match" or "align" with my husband's vote.

My husband has influenced my choices by discussion, just like those that I have with any other friend.

He has never advised me how to vote, and we have voted differently from time to time.

No, but to be honest, I have influenced him on local elections. I work in the public school system and he always asks me who I should vote for in school board/local elections.

I have far more interest in politics than he does so he is more likely to ask me about issues and candidates.

We are both left-wingers but usually have some issue or candidate where we differ on the ballot. We talk about it, but I don't think either of us has ever persuaded the other to switch.

Honestly? We rarely talk about it, mostly because neither one of us in much interested in politics, so it's not usually a topic of discussion around our house. Well, until this past year but we share the same views on all of the crap that's been going on, but he doesn't want to talk/hear about it so we still don't very often.

There have been a few times with local stuff that I've gone to an informational meeting and he's heard old groucy-butt stuff at work, where he's felt differently after visiting with me about what I've learned, but that's more of an educating ourselves about a particular issue than actually influencing each other.

Good/interesting question!

ETA:  I don't know if he's registered as a D or an R  - he's pretty much apolitical like me - and I don't ever ask him how he votes, although I'm 100% certain he did NOT vote for Trump!!!

We definitely discuss things and learn from each other, so in that respect, sure, he's influenced me. He tends to be more informed about national level economic issues, whereas I tend to know more about the more local things. I tend to be a more humanitarian voter than he does, although I think I've really influenced him on that over the years. (i.e. he's come more around to my way of thinking on humanitarian issues than vice versa.) I also tend to be more informed on specific bond issues, law changes, etc. so he generally asks me for my opinion on those and is largely content to go with my recommendation.

Having said all that, we both do vote independently of each other, and have certainly cancelled each other out at times. I do have to laugh, though, as many of the times where we voted for different people, he's come to regret his choice later. I just laugh and tell him I told him so - in good humor - and he laughs too then gets even saying he needs to remember to listen to his elders (which include me).

No, but our political views are very closely aligned, so there is no need for either of us to influence one another. It's not likely I would be married to someone who I was not this aligned with politically.

I was always a little more liberal than my husband but I made him see the light we’re both on the same page now

Pretty much the same in my house. And, at this point, with local elections, he asks me to write down who he should vote for (he doesn’t know the people running for Board of Ed and Selectmen and I know them personally.) 

I, and our four super liberal daughters, have pulled him over to our side on many issues. He’s still fiscally moderate/conservative, but with two gay siblings, he’s fairly socially liberal. 

Oh hell no.

I believe that people should vote the way they want , not the way the head of the family wants. It really torques my gourd when an adult woman follows her daddy's or husband's party line blindly.

DH and I usually enjoy discussing the elections and we know how far we can go with each other when we are opposites sides which is often. We don't really change each others minds though. We talked a lot through the primary season this last time; however, it got more difficult when we got to the general election. One of the many things I hate about the last election was that we were so divided we couldn't talk politics anymore. He is one of those people who would have voted for a trained monkey before voting for Hillary. If only the monkey he voted for had actually been trained.

Fiscally. That's the word I was looking for. 

ETA - since I posted again, I may as well add - I grew up in a home where my mother did not vote because it would cancel out my fathers vote. So so so much wrong with that. 

Never! And as long as he votes for who I tell him to vote for we're good! 

I really am kidding with that last comment. Luckily we're on the same page politically. Although in the last state election I encouraged him to vote for the party we normally wouldn't vote for due to one main issue that was important to us. Don't tell any of my fellow lefties that I voted right (aaaargh!), they might unfriend me! It was only state, not federal. 

no, because he doesn't really follow politics and in regards to current events in general, he is more of "read the headline" kinda guy.

then he says "did you hear x" and i tell him what is actually going on. and he say "huh, who knew?" and goes on his merry way.

he did want to vote conservative in an election years ago (based on headline he read, no actual research into issues) and when i said i was not he said "well your vote will just cancel mine then". and i told him i guess it would.