RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Dec 29, 2017 21:08:37 GMT
s/o the chronic interruptor thread.
I have the opposite problem but with the same effect of making me sit in a corner in silence because I can't get a word in edgewise. DH's sister and her family all shout over each other. At meals out, 2 of them simply don't stop. My DH is one of those who believes that if someone is talking to him, then however important what someone else has to say might be, he has to finish listening to the current speaker first. That is even if the first speaker is his 11 year old nephew who started twittering on about Skylanders when he walked in through the door and has been going for the past 40 minutes solid without drawing breath. And I, the interruptor, am trying to get the meal ordered. If I get acknowledged at all, I get the look that could kill, and a major tut. I dread these outings beyond belief.
So. For those who believe that interrupting is rude under any circumstances, how do I get round this?
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Post by katlady on Dec 29, 2017 21:33:06 GMT
I just say "Excuse me, I just need to know this one thing and then you can get back to your conversation." It usually works.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 29, 2017 22:21:42 GMT
s/o the chronic interruptor thread. I have the opposite problem but with the same effect of making me sit in a corner in silence because I can't get a word in edgewise. DH's sister and her family all shout over each other. At meals out, 2 of them simply don't stop. My DH is one of those who believes that if someone is talking to him, then however important what someone else has to say might be, he has to finish listening to the current speaker first. That is even if the first speaker is his 11 year old nephew who started twittering on about Skylanders when he walked in through the door and has been going for the past 40 minutes solid without drawing breath. And I, the interruptor, am trying to get the meal ordered. If I get acknowledged at all, I get the look that could kill, and a major tut. I dread these outings beyond belief. So. For those who believe that interrupting is rude under any circumstances, how do I get round this? In most cases I just say "excuse me I need to ask a quick question of Steve and then you can get back to your conversation" Then make SURE my question IS in fact quick. In your case I think you need to talk to your dh at a time away from the family and come up with a solution for how he wants to deal with the unbreathing child talking about skylander and your need to get information from him. He may be fine with an "excuse me" or he may want you to just order a meal for him and not interupt. But talk to him about his preferences. He is your spouse, right? |
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 29, 2017 23:39:06 GMT
With my in-laws, I don't even try.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Dec 30, 2017 0:02:00 GMT
Yay, my family doesn’t pause or even take a breath!! I know what you mean  |
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Post by Merge on Dec 30, 2017 0:08:28 GMT
In my opinion, non-stop talking/dominating the conversation is just as rude as interrupting. Do people not learn how to have conversations any more?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2017 0:12:05 GMT
You put up your little pointer finger and say, "Excuse me for just one moment. Can I interject a little something here?"
Or if you just want to end their ceaseless drone,
You stand up and say, "Please excuse me for a moment." That's all. No further explanation needed. They'll assume you have a pressing call from nature.
I did that the other night when a boring narcissist didn't come up for a breath while bragging about herself, her kids, the town she'd lived in and all the things she had bought for her kids.
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Post by Zee on Dec 30, 2017 0:13:23 GMT
In my opinion, non-stop talking/dominating the conversation is just as rude as interrupting. Do people not learn how to have conversations any more? IDK but in my experience old people are way worse about this than young people. |
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Post by jameynz on Dec 30, 2017 1:28:57 GMT
You hold up your pointy finger and go shush shush shush.....lol
I just say excuse me a minute, ask my question, say thank you and walk away....
I have been known to lean in to someone, whisper my question and leave....but I can be quite, and sometimes unintentionally rude at times
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 30, 2017 2:19:44 GMT
In my opinion, non-stop talking/dominating the conversation is just as rude as interrupting. Do people not learn how to have conversations any more? IDK but in my experience old people are way worse about this than young people. My kid can prattle on about Roblox endlessly. Until my ears bleed. |
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Post by Merge on Dec 30, 2017 3:29:04 GMT
In my opinion, non-stop talking/dominating the conversation is just as rude as interrupting. Do people not learn how to have conversations any more? IDK but in my experience old people are way worse about this than young people. Hmm. I've got a younger co-worker, about 30 years old, who is absolutely incapable of letting anyone else talk. And more than a few students in upper grades (so old enough to know better) who will absolutely dominate any classroom conversation if I don't remind them to let others have a turn. |
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