|
Post by katlady on Jan 13, 2018 22:48:03 GMT
This discussion came up the other day at work. Say you use Facebook to invite people to an event, and one person who should be included to the event is not on Facebook. Should they get an invite by some other method, or is it a "too bad, you lose" situation?
A couple of people say that it is their "problem" that they are not on Facebook, so "too bad". Others, like me, think that you can't dictate who uses FB and who doesn't and an invite should be sent to non-users by some other method.
How do you all see it?
|
|
|
Post by jeremysgirl on Jan 13, 2018 22:50:52 GMT
My feeling is if you can't pick up the phone to convey an invite then this is probably a terrible commentary on just how lazy and casual our society has become.  My dad is not on Facebook. He does text and email. When I do a Facebook invite and I do for casual get together, I always send him a text. Having BBQ, date and time. How tough is that?
|
|
|
Post by Charwee on Jan 13, 2018 22:51:21 GMT
If there's one person who should be invited, then they should be invited. It's called politeness. It's not like doing a quick text or email is a long laborious task.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Aug 18, 2025 19:52:51 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2018 22:52:49 GMT
This discussion came up the other day at work. Say you use Facebook to invite people to an event, and one person who should be included to the event is not on Facebook. Should they get an invite by some other method, or is it a "too bad, you lose" situation? A couple of people say that it is their "problem" that they are not on Facebook, so "too bad". Others, like me, think that you can't dictate who uses FB and who doesn't and an invite should be sent to non-users by some other method. How do you all see it? Send the invite another way. Email, text, phone call, talk to the in the hallway... whatever. Those who say "to bad you aren't on facebook" need to be not-invited to a few events that otherwise includes everyone to see how they feel about being left out.
|
|
NoWomanNoCry
Drama Llama

Posts: 5,856
Jun 25, 2014 21:53:42 GMT
|
Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jan 13, 2018 22:55:44 GMT
Plenty of other ways to send a invite.
|
|
dawnnikol
Prolific Pea
 
'A life without books is a life not lived.' Jay Kristoff
Posts: 9,460
Sept 21, 2015 18:39:25 GMT
|
Post by dawnnikol on Jan 13, 2018 22:58:22 GMT
I quit using FB years ago but had to rejoin to view PTO stuff for my kid's schools because that is the ONLY place to find out certain stuff. It's ridiculous and I hate it, even by only limiting it to that one thing to check on. Facebook sucks and nobody should be forced to use it.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Aug 18, 2025 19:52:51 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2018 22:59:14 GMT
I want to add, since this is WORK related, shouldn't invitations be going through WORK channels? Not everyone wants to friend their work mates on facebook.
|
|
|
Post by Woobster on Jan 13, 2018 23:03:21 GMT
Absolutely I would send the invitation another way. Even when people are on Facebook, many don't check it often. To leave people out simply because they aren't on Facebook is just childish.
|
|
|
Post by katlady on Jan 13, 2018 23:04:03 GMT
I want to add, since this is WORK related, shouldn't invitations be going through WORK channels? Not everyone wants to friend their work mates on facebook. It wasn't work related, the discussion just happened at work. It was a situation that one person in the group was involved in (outside of work).
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Aug 18, 2025 19:52:51 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2018 23:09:32 GMT
Are we talking about a general invite like a promo/announcement to a concert or an invite to a private party? If it's for a private party and people are saying "too bad", all I can say is friends don't do that to friends.
|
|
|
Post by AussieMeg on Jan 13, 2018 23:10:08 GMT
A couple of people say that it is their "problem" that they are not on Facebook, so "too bad". Seriously, who are these people who are saying "too bad"?!?! Arseholes, that's who they are.
|
|
|
Post by katlady on Jan 13, 2018 23:12:51 GMT
I quit using FB years ago but had to rejoin to view PTO stuff for my kid's schools because that is the ONLY place to find out certain stuff. It's ridiculous and I hate it, even by only limiting it to that one thing to check on. Facebook sucks and nobody should be forced to use it. I have one friend (who is not on FB) that hates when businesses use FB as their main method for advertising or getting news out. If he can't find the information on their website, or if they don't have a website, he pretty much flips them the bird and doesn't do business with them.
|
|
|
Post by jeremysgirl on Jan 13, 2018 23:12:59 GMT
A couple of people say that it is their "problem" that they are not on Facebook, so "too bad". Seriously, who are these people who are saying "too bad"?!?! Arseholes, that's who they are. Exactly. Might as well just say well I didn't even really want you there. Because that's what this is. Just asking for permission to exclude someone for stupid reasons.
|
|
|
Post by katlady on Jan 13, 2018 23:14:44 GMT
Are we talking about a general invite like a promo/announcement to a concert or an invite to a private party? If it's for a private party and people are saying "too bad", all I can say is friends don't do that to friends. It was to a private party. I guess the excuse that was used was that the person doing the invite didn't realize the person wasn't on FB and thought they had gotten an invite. This promoted our discussion on what to do if someone is not on FB. Yeah, it is hard to believe people can be that uncaring to others.
|
|
FurryP
Prolific Pea
 
To pea or not to pea...
Posts: 7,797
Site Supporter
Jun 26, 2014 19:58:26 GMT
|
Post by FurryP on Jan 13, 2018 23:15:05 GMT
Use another method for the other person. How stupid not to, or to think too bad so sad.
|
|
|
Post by Linda on Jan 13, 2018 23:53:03 GMT
use another method although I believe that one can invite people to FB events via email if they aren't ON FB
|
|
|
Post by hop2 on Jan 13, 2018 23:58:39 GMT
I’m in the use another method to invite them camp as well.
I won’t bother to comment on the wether or not a FB only invite is ‘correct’ in the first place. 😉 That’s a whole different thread.
But my kids would point out the age limitations of only people on FB are invited. And they don’t mean you’ll be leaving out ‘older People’ 😜
|
|
my3freaks
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,206
Location: NH girl living in Colorado
Jun 26, 2014 4:10:56 GMT
|
Post by my3freaks on Jan 13, 2018 23:59:02 GMT
Absolutely I would send the invitation another way. Even when people are on Facebook, many don't check it often. To leave people out simply because they aren't on Facebook is just childish. This sounds like me. I am technically on Facebook, but I hardly ever go there. I don't enjoy it. I can't believe that multiple people would be rude enough to think someone shouldn't be invited to a gathering because they're not on their preferred social media platform to receive the invite. These were probably the same people that said "so & so's not invited to my birthday part because they don't wear the right shoes or jeans." Dickheads.
|
|
|
Post by pierkiss on Jan 14, 2018 0:05:01 GMT
Holy hell. Send them an evite via email and be done. This is not that hard. The people that say that’s their problem and don’t want to send a separate invite are assholes.
|
|
kelly8875
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,448
Location: Lost in my supplies...
Oct 26, 2014 17:02:56 GMT
|
Post by kelly8875 on Jan 14, 2018 0:20:36 GMT
If the host knows someone who would otherwise be invited isn't in FB, of course they should still be invited. Pick up the phone or text at a minimum. You can't force people to be on FB because you are having a party.
|
|
|
Post by revirdsuba99 on Jan 14, 2018 0:23:29 GMT
No facebook. Happy to stay home!
|
|
snyder
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,493
Location: Colorado
Apr 26, 2017 6:14:47 GMT
|
Post by snyder on Jan 14, 2018 0:28:35 GMT
Those that say to bad, you loose are morons and I don't think I would want them to be in my circle. Selfish and thoughtless.
|
|
|
Post by lisae on Jan 14, 2018 0:45:50 GMT
If someone can't be bothered to pick up the phone or send me an email with an invitation to their event, then I'd rather not go. There are many of us who use Facebook sparingly or not at all for many reasons and I agree with you that you can't dictate who uses what platform.
|
|
|
Post by librarylady on Jan 14, 2018 1:16:31 GMT
I gave a bridal shower and used old fashioned paper invitations because: 1. not all are on FB or visit FB often. 2. Some won't open e-vite mailings because the person thinks it is spam. 3. That was the best way to know everyone really did receive/or should have received the invitation.
--I was a bit surprised to learn that several in my church group would not open those e-vite invitations.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Aug 18, 2025 19:52:51 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2018 1:29:05 GMT
you can't dictate who uses FB and who doesn't and an invite should be sent to non-users by some other method.  However, I would not use FB to invite people anyway.
|
|
|
Post by lucyg on Jan 14, 2018 1:34:15 GMT
And another thing ... Facebook is notoriously random about sending notifications. So you can't guarantee someone will see your invite in a timely fashion.
Truthfully, I'm thinking someone who can't be bothered to invite you somehow if you aren't active on Facebook is just as happy to have you not show up at all. Who needs friends like that?
|
|
|
Post by jeremysgirl on Jan 14, 2018 1:43:13 GMT
And another thing ... Facebook is notoriously random about sending notifications. So you can't guarantee someone will see your invite in a timely fashion. Truthfully, I'm thinking someone who can't be bothered to invite you somehow if you aren't active on Facebook is just as happy to have you not show up at all. Who needs friends like that? Right. It's just a convenient excuse
|
|
|
Post by lisacharlotte on Jan 14, 2018 3:16:24 GMT
I don't want to be friends with someone who thinks "too bad, so sad" if I don't have facebook and don't get invited.
|
|
|
Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 14, 2018 3:27:40 GMT
Absolutely I would send the invitation another way. Even when people are on Facebook, many don't check it often. To leave people out simply because they aren't on Facebook is just childish. This sounds like me. I am technically on Facebook, but I hardly ever go there. I don't enjoy it. I can't believe that multiple people would be rude enough to think someone shouldn't be invited to a gathering because they're not on their preferred social media platform to receive the invite. These were probably the same people that said "so & so's not invited to my birthday part because they don't wear the right shoes or jeans." Dickheads. I’m in the same boat. Technically I’m on there but weeks go by without me ever looking at it. I don’t like their invasive practices so I give them the least amount of information possible. If someone can’t bother to send me a text or an email invite, guess I’m not going. The way I see it, it’s their loss. Whatever.
|
|
|
Post by anniefb on Jan 14, 2018 3:39:09 GMT
Send the invite another way. Not everyone is on FB.
|
|