scrappinghappy
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Post by scrappinghappy on Feb 1, 2018 6:45:03 GMT
attached to my...car?!?
last week we were involved in a fender bender that caused enough damage to my faithful 2005 car that it made financial sense for us to take the insurance check and sell the car to the body shop.
Last night we leased a new car. It’s not my dream car but money is tight and the lease we were able to negotiate made it very, very attractive.
But I”m just not excited about it.
Not to trivialize the loss of a pet, because I’m still pretty upset over the loss of my pup 9 months, 1 week and 2 days ago, but this feels like I’m putting down another beloved pet before it’s time. As old as it was, and as many miles as I’ve driven in it, I just wasn’t ready for this “loss”.
I need to take the car to the body shop tomorrow and the thought of leaving it there is making me cry.
Fortunately DH is understanding and being supportive but my kids think I am NUTS!
Anyone else experienced this?
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Post by Deleted on Feb 1, 2018 6:48:33 GMT
I understand. Yes, I too get overly attached to inanimate objects like my car.
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hannahruth
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Post by hannahruth on Feb 1, 2018 7:15:36 GMT
Oh yes. Especially if I have had a vehicle for a good number of years and it has been reliable and not caused too many problems.
A new new car is good but I prefer the one I know!
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Post by miominmio on Feb 1, 2018 7:20:24 GMT
My sister was (is?) extremely attached to her previous car. She has a large picture of it on her living room wall (next to the photo of her kids), and when she sold it a couple of years ago, she was sick for a week. She's a very level headed woman, but not when it came to that car.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 1, 2018 7:23:28 GMT
that is why we keep our vehicles until they are so old they no longer are able to be fixed. Our mustang is 18 years old, the Ford F150 is 13 years old and so on. We are fortunate that hubby can do most of the work on them himself. Two winters ago, he put a new front end on the truck.
We once had a green pick up truck that did not use unleaded gas. When leaded gas was phased out, it was only a matter of time before it was unusable. So We traded it in and no more than two months later wee got a notice that it was sitting along the road and had thrown a rod. We got the notice because the paper work had not gone through on the new owners yet. So we sold it less than two months before it was "dead"
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Post by mymindseyedpea on Feb 1, 2018 7:53:06 GMT
The Liberty Mutual commercial comes to mind I never thought about whether I feel sentimentally connected to my car. We have 2 and it alternates which one I drive. I think I'm more sentimental with the experiences of driving in general.
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Post by ScrapsontheRocks on Feb 1, 2018 8:35:51 GMT
Yes. I am on the spectrum and was never expected to drive. It turned out that (properly trained and supported) I am a really good driver as long as I avoid driving while overtired etc. I know when I am able and when I should not get behind the wheel. I never take chances and I have never had even a bumper bashing (outside of competition conditions) except for when an idiot rear ended me in the queue at a car wash. I learned to drive on a racetrack and in a rally car and according to the (Internationally known, many years ago) driver who trained me I had superb reaction time. I have trophies to prove it.
I bought an automatic Golf. That is what I wanted, I had the means and the credit record to finance it. I stalked it, I planned it, I drove it home the day I got my license, on the first attempt, totally gobsmacking my first husband. I had not told him I was taking lessons, he wrapped me in cotton wool. His intentions were good, with a little bit of desire to control though.
I loved that car. I looked after it. It was the symbol of my freedom which I never thought I would achieve. When I left to work overseas for a year it made sense to sell it, but it really hurt to do it. I can still see and smell it and I will never forget how it felt.
OP, you are not nuts. I get it.
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melissa
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Post by melissa on Feb 1, 2018 11:26:10 GMT
Completely understand.
My 2010 Chevy HHR had a problem with the engine that did not affect how it drove. A cylinder would occasionally misfire. Unfortunately, that would be recorded by the car's computer and the check engine light would come on. In NJ, a car cannot pass inspection with that light on. The only way to fix it was to replace the whole engine which makes no financial sense on an almost 8 year old car. I drive my cars until the bitter end. I was hoping to get many more years out of it. I felt like the car was only about 1/2 way through it's "life." Plus it was an HHR, they are such cute cars. Dh and I liked that car so much that we had 2 of them!
One would think that I would have been excited about getting a new car. My friends did not understand why I was not excited about getting a new one. I wanted MY car! I wasn't ready to part with it yet.
SO, then I get a new to me car (bought a 2014). It takes a while, but I start to really like it. But then I get a call from the dealer that there's a problem with the title as it had been a diplomat's car and had an international diplomatic title. They said I needed to take my new car back to them and either get my money back or take another car from the lot. Well, now I am attached to THIS car. I don't want another one. In particular, I had driven the other models of this car on their lot and I only liked this exact one. I didn't like the higher end 2016 I drove. I didn't want my money back. I wanted this car! LOL. I posted about it here at one point. This was back in September. To make a complicated story short, in the end, I got my own way and I kept the car. Still waiting on the official title though.
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Post by kibblesandbits on Feb 1, 2018 11:28:56 GMT
I take forever to select a vehicle, research and drive and drive and research. Once I get one, it's MINE. I put all the miles on it, I take care of it. I name it. We're a team. I had to purchase a new car a couple of years ago, and it took two years to make the decision because I just didn't want to part with my baby of 12 years. I don' buy cars, I enter into lifelong relationships with them. Kills me to get rid of them. My last vehicle is at least still in the family, it's being driven by one of my kids. Sometimes I go drive her just for old times sake.
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Post by purplebee on Feb 1, 2018 12:08:52 GMT
I am still driving my 1998 Buick Century, even with a 2017 Hyundai Tucson sitting in the garage. I feel your pain.
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Post by YooHoot on Feb 1, 2018 12:37:11 GMT
I take forever to select a vehicle, research and drive and drive and research. Once I get one, it's MINE. I put all the miles on it, I take care of it. I name it. We're a team. I had to purchase a new car a couple of years ago, and it took two years to make the decision because I just didn't want to part with my baby of 12 years. I don' buy cars, I enter into lifelong relationships with them. Kills me to get rid of them. My last vehicle is at least still in the family, it's being driven by one of my kids. Sometimes I go drive her just for old times sake. Same! I research like crazy. And I felt like I was cheating on my old car when I pulled into the driveway next to her with my new shiny one. I patted her hood when I got out.
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scrappinghappy
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Post by scrappinghappy on Feb 1, 2018 13:09:14 GMT
I take forever to select a vehicle, research and drive and drive and research. Once I get one, it's MINE. I put all the miles on it, I take care of it. I name it. We're a team. I had to purchase a new car a couple of years ago, and it took two years to make the decision because I just didn't want to part with my baby of 12 years. I don' buy cars, I enter into lifelong relationships with them. Kills me to get rid of them. My last vehicle is at least still in the family, it's being driven by one of my kids. Sometimes I go drive her just for old times sake. Usually this is so me! But with this new car I am glad I leased it. I didnt have time to do all the research as the body shop offer was twice what everyone else was offering and we didnt want to lose out on it. We looked at 4 cars but only one ended up being close to what we could afford. The MSRP was about 25% MORE than another one I liked but the lease payment was 20% less on a January lease deal. That was the clincher. So hopefully next time I will have plenty of time to research and negotiate and get another long term car as I dont think I will get so attached to this one
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Post by Deleted on Feb 1, 2018 14:07:39 GMT
It's not unusual.
I will admit that I'm not attached to either car. However... a few years ago, DH was rear-ended while stopped for a school bus. Shattered the back window and the spare tire cover plus dented the rear panel. It needed to spend two weeks in the body shop. Insurance covered a rental. I didn't get a choice in cars. While I wasn't attached to the rav (I do like it and would get another), the rental made me miss it and ruled out any chance of us ever buying a Buick.
DH has said the only car he actually misses is his red ranger. He rolled it and totalled it.
Now ex on the other hand still talks about past cars like they are lost lovers. I think my dad would cry if anything happened to his Chevelle.
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Post by disneypal on Feb 1, 2018 15:06:24 GMT
I am actually very happy to see this thread. I thought I was the only one.... I purchased my last car in 2002 and loved it (Chevy Blazer). Plus it had a lot of memories tied to it, my dad helped me pick it out (he is now gone). I took dozens and dozens of trips with my dog in it (also now gone) and that car never gave me a day's trouble. However, it was 15 years old and starting to need a lot of replacements and work - which was going to cost 3 - 4 times more than the car was worth. I decided it was time because I didn't want to put that much money into a 15 year old car when I could use the money instead for a down payment. The day before I traded it in, I gave it such a good cleaning inside and out and it looked so good, I wanted to give her one last pampering. I cried on the way to the dealership because I didn't want to let her go - I felt so silly but I was just so attached to that car. (I'm even getting teary eyed writing this - how crazy is that?). I know it is just an object - it doesn't have emotions but I felt like I was betraying it - stupid I know - this sound so dumb. I do like my new car a lot - especially all the fancy new features that my old car didn't have but I still (7 months later) miss my old car. I have had other cars before and traded them in happily with the excitement of a new car but I never had a car 15 years before and never felt so attached to one before - I mean I had it in my late 30s, all of my 40s and my early 50s so a long time and a lot of happy memories tied to it. Perhaps that was why. So I totally get where you are coming from scrappinghappy
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Post by mlana on Feb 1, 2018 15:13:15 GMT
attached to my...car?!? last week we were involved in a fender bender that caused enough damage to my faithful 2005 car that it made financial sense for us to take the insurance check and sell the car to the body shop. Last night we leased a new car. It’s not my dream car but money is tight and the lease we were able to negotiate made it very, very attractive. But I”m just not excited about it. Not to trivialize the loss of a pet, because I’m still pretty upset over the loss of my pup 9 months, 1 week and 2 days ago, but this feels like I’m putting down another beloved pet before it’s time. As old as it was, and as many miles as I’ve driven in it, I just wasn’t ready for this “loss”. I need to take the car to the body shop tomorrow and the thought of leaving it there is making me cry.
Fortunately DH is understanding and being supportive but my kids think I am NUTS! Anyone else experienced this? In 2014 my beloved Odyssey lost her transmission. With over 250K miles other, I didn't think I could justify putting another $4k in her. There were other considerations, as well, including the fact that I didn't really NEED a van any longer. I reluctantly 'traded' her in for a much newer Accord. Three weeks later my DD's Saturn blew its version of a transmission and we were down a car. There was no way I could afford another newish vehicle. I called the service person at my Honda dealership and asked them if there was any chance they still had my van. They didn't, of course. I borrowed a vehicle from my brother until my Dd left for China and I got my Accord back. I drove the Accord, named Tootsy, until DD got back a year later. No matter how hard I tried, I just never felt at home in her. At my family's urging, I let DD take Tootsy and I bought a used 2006 Odyssey. Inga, as I named her, is a Touring Edition, and has lots of bell's and whistles including seat memory and extended pedals. I utterly adore her, but I still regret leaving Piggy, my previous van, at the dealership. Yeah, we get attached to our vehicles. We buy them used and drive them until they won't drive anymore. They're a part of our family for at least 10 years and we mourn them when they go. Not as much as we mourned the loss of our beloved pup, but mourned nonetheless. Marcy
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Feb 1, 2018 16:31:48 GMT
I cried when I traded in my 2003 Impala. I'd owned it 10 years and driven it over 250,000 miles. My son went from infant carrier to football player in that car. So many family vacations. It was supposed to be my daughters first car, I couldn't part with it. Our English bulldog that we lost in 2013 rode in the backseat (velour cloth) and every now and then my son would find one of her furs.
I loved that car. The day I traded it, I went in to sign the paperwork from my brand new car, was handed the keys and walked outside. It had a big ugly tag on the car that said "Auction." It broke my heart.
Enjoy your new car, but know that many of us understand your attachment to a car that holds so many memories.
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Post by ginacivey on Feb 1, 2018 16:55:46 GMT
i'm still in my 2007 trailblazer
and i have no desire to buy a new car
we have a relatively new truck
along with a little vw bug, two old rangers, and a restored 55 chevy truck
lately my DH has been talking about buying a new car
i am NOT INTERESTED - i love my trailblazer - i know it - and it's never let me down
i don't want a car payment and i don't want a car i have to worry about losing a french fry in
gina
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Post by mcscrapper on Feb 1, 2018 17:10:04 GMT
I felt the same way about my 2003 MDX! I was almost embarrassed by my emotion after hearing it was totaled. I gave that car to my DD when she turned 16 two years ago and I got a new car. I was really happy about the new car and happy my dd was going to drive my old car. When I got the call, I felt an immediate sadness to never see that car again. It gave me THIRTEEN great years! That was longer than my first marriage lasted! I sang a lot of songs, cried a lot of tears, helped me move out of my marriage, helped me haul kids, and so many other things in that car! It even took me all over the eastern half of this country with my dd sitting in various carseats and boosters in the back with our dog faithfully by her side. She learned to drive in that car! I hardly ever had to have repairs other than normal maintenance. Needless to say, that car was faithful and good to me and my little family. It was sad to see her go! I understand the emotional connection!
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Post by Anne-Marie on Feb 1, 2018 17:16:24 GMT
This is me. I LOVE my car. It is nothing fancy but it is comfortable and I spend a lot of time in it between my commute and taxiing kids around. I feel like I could drive it in my sleep. Two weeks ago my driver window made a horrible noise when I tried to roll it up and now isn't usable. I am unnaturally sad about it. DH has a friend with a shop that has given us a quote on how much it will cost to take the door apart and diagnose the issue alone - who knows what it will cost to fix it. I told DH I don't think it's worth that amount of money that we could certainly put to good use elsewhere and I'll just not use that window. But he knows how much I love my car and how often I need to use the window so he made an appointment to have it looked at tomorrow. So I'll have to drive DH's car tomorrow while mine is in the shop. There is nothing wrong with DH's car but I hate driving it. It's not MY car. Watching the odometer go up and up has made me so sad b/c I know I won't be able to drive it forever.
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Post by jayfab on Feb 1, 2018 17:32:59 GMT
I take forever to select a vehicle, research and drive and drive and research. Once I get one, it's MINE. I put all the miles on it, I take care of it. I name it. We're a team. I had to purchase a new car a couple of years ago, and it took two years to make the decision because I just didn't want to part with my baby of 12 years. I don' buy cars, I enter into lifelong relationships with them. Kills me to get rid of them. My last vehicle is at least still in the family, it's being driven by one of my kids. Sometimes I go drive her just for old times sake. This is me. I think I will actually cry when I need/have to lose my 2006 MINI. I love her so much.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 1, 2018 17:34:14 GMT
I’m pretty attached to mine because my husband bought it brand new for me to haul the kids around in. I was attached to my previous vehicle because I bought one month before separating from my 2nd husband and made every single payment all by myself. We still have it and will keep it until it falls apart! Lol
But I love taking care of my van, it’s so pretty!
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Post by gracieplusthree on Feb 1, 2018 22:08:33 GMT
that's me and my jeep.. 1994 jeep cherokee country 4.0 straight 6 cylinder 4x4, it has 312,+++ miles on it.. LOVE my jeep. however it's off insurance currently and not being driven, I just needs too much work so for now it's parked. I've had it since 2002 when my late husband bought it for me, which may lend to some of it too, he died in 2003 so some of it IS that,but tbh this jeep has only tore up about 4 times in the whole time I've had it--the repairs it needs now are normal wear an tear, still isn't torn up but components of the front suspension are simply worn out(they are original parts after all)..
I'm not the only one who doesn't want to get rid of it. at least 2 of my 3 kids don't want it to go anywhere either(the other just doesn't really care), and the 19yr old flat out states it is NOT going anywhere,he was 3 when we got it so he doesn't remember life without this jeep in it. so it stays. even if the repairs cost more than it is technically booked valued at, to US it's worth it, it's been SOO dependable and SO trustworthy that I can't get rid of it because WE wore replaceable parts on it out.*shrug* the 19yr old is the one who is slowly fixing it
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Post by 950nancy on Feb 1, 2018 22:12:28 GMT
We just sold my 2005 Trailblazer in November. I am leasing a sparkly, red 2017 Toyota 4 Runner. I felt guilty for about two weeks because there was nothing wrong with my Trailblazer. I have since gotten over the guilt and love my new SUV.
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Post by papersilly on Feb 1, 2018 23:24:40 GMT
i have liked all my cars but one. it's always sad to see them go especially since we never keep them long enough to get tired of them. 5-6 years on average.
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Post by Mystie on Feb 2, 2018 0:28:55 GMT
I was never attached to cars until I got my very first brand new car in 2013 and got to pick out the color and everything. Quite a thrill at age 42. I really love this car. I rear-ended a guy in December at a stoplight and jacked up my front bumper and hood (just dented his bumper) and next to feeling terrible about hitting him, the worst part was hurting my cute car and having to drive a terrible rental for three days. Oh, and that $500 deductible was painful, too. But yes, I love my car.
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Post by likescarrots on Feb 2, 2018 6:27:59 GMT
I sold my car in november to a guy that works at my work and I thought to myself 'well at least I can visit it in the parking lot'...
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Post by carhoch on Feb 2, 2018 14:58:03 GMT
In my driveway right now sit a Ford Explorer that I bought new in 1999 I used it for 10 years then it went to Virginia Tech with my son for five years ,now back with me . We use it to go to Lowe’s ,transport yard debris to the dump and mostly to bring the dogs to the woods where they come back cover in mud . That poor car is super dirty a little rusty and I still love her , I understand your pain .
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Post by gmcwife1 on Feb 2, 2018 17:51:33 GMT
I get very attached to my cars too Dh usually has to really talk me into giving one up for the next. I also put out really strict requirements for my next car, possibly hoping that will delay the switch some My last switch was from my Sebring to the 4Runner. I now love my 4Runner, but missed my Sebring for almost that entire first year. Before the Sebring I had a Grand Am that I loved. Dh told me we could give my Grand Am to ds, so of course I didn't want to say no to that I think he is also finding ways around my delays! I'm sorry about your fender bender and loss of your car
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Post by gmcwife1 on Feb 2, 2018 17:54:14 GMT
We just sold my 2005 Trailblazer in November. I am leasing a sparkly, red 2017 Toyota 4 Runner. I felt guilty for about two weeks because there was nothing wrong with my Trailblazer. I have since gotten over the guilt and love my new SUV. 4Runners are one of the best dog cars Mine is a 2007 that I've had for six years now and I love that thing. I keep the crate in the cargo for the dogs and love that I can roll the back window down to give them just as much air as I want And the crate is big enough that we can fit both the GSD and the Samoyed in it. It's a little tight so we only do that for short trips, but they fit fine and don't seem to mind
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Post by alsomsknit on Feb 2, 2018 17:58:14 GMT
You are not alone. When we sold the truck, I cried while following my husband to the drop off point.
It is going to be awful when I have to give up my Escape. I hated it the first few months, as DH kind of pushed it on me. The only choice I had was color. I did not want it at all. Anyway, its a 2003 and I've had it since December of 2002. It has almost 120,000 miles on it.
I've kind of been eyeing the Toyota C-HR. It doesn't have leather seats though.
I can't imagine another car being this perfect for me.
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