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Post by anniefb on Feb 3, 2018 18:11:12 GMT
If a friend gave you something with that saying on it, what would you think? I was pissed. I’d be pea livid.
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Post by mollycoddle on Feb 3, 2018 18:43:32 GMT
I think that she was surprised that I said something in front of other people. What did you say to her? I said “ What exactly does this mean? Because it sounds like a dig.”
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2018 18:50:34 GMT
Of course, you can get some opinions!
It would not have bothered me. It is involved being me. Because I'm happier when I'm being me and it's tempting to try to be who you want me to be. But if you're expecting me to attend something I don't want to attend, you're going to find out I'm very involved with being me.
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Post by Belia on Feb 4, 2018 3:43:03 GMT
Any chance it was a bad re-gift? And that's why she couldn't really answer for it?
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Post by used2scrap on Feb 4, 2018 8:15:41 GMT
I'd think I either have a very passive aggressive friend, or a clueless naive friend. Either way I'd be reflecting on my recent behavior to see if her feelings were justifiable, and I'd be reflecting on my friendship to see how much I wanted someone like that in my life.
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Post by mollycoddle on Feb 4, 2018 9:09:57 GMT
Any chance it was a bad re-gift? And that's why she couldn't really answer for it? No. There were 3 of us, and she brought us each a little bag of gifts. This is a little box of tissues with a saying on it. TBH, I wouldn’t have thought twice about it, except for the fact that she said “Look at yours.”
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Post by anniebygaslight on Feb 4, 2018 9:12:27 GMT
Your life will be much less complicated and involved with her 'friendship' airbrushed out of it. Cow.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 4, 2018 10:47:15 GMT
I could see it as a thank you for hanging in there with me when so much was going on in my life. That is if so much was going on or if I was a pretty complicated person. It is hard to be friends with some people as they are so complicated perhaps in medical issues and dislikes, family issues and phobias. This person might be acknowledging that this is the case and giving you thanks for putting up with it. Of course, if she is using this line as a excuse, then that is a whole different matter.
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Post by jenjie on Feb 4, 2018 12:55:31 GMT
Any chance it was a bad re-gift? And that's why she couldn't really answer for it? No. There were 3 of us, and she brought us each a little bag of gifts. This is a little box of tissues with a saying on it. TBH, I wouldn’t have thought twice about it, except for the fact that she said “Look at yours.” Were the other recipients given snarky gifts? Were the rest of your items nice? Is there a possibility she grabbed it bc she thought it was funny and you would think so too? Did she seem surprised by your comeback? If she meant it as a dig I would not appreciate it.
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Post by paigepea on Feb 4, 2018 13:50:49 GMT
I would laugh because it doesn’t make sense at all.
Is friend not too bright? I’m not sure you can take that literally as it doesn’t make sense. If you try to analyze it it could go many different ways. I only read the OP and a couple of posts down so I don’t know if this was written out by friend or if she found some silly thing with these words on it. Either way it’s dumb. She can’t be a close friend.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Feb 4, 2018 14:17:01 GMT
If I said it about myself, that would be one thing. I'd probably be saying it while laughing at myself. I could completely see my mother saying it about me. And it would be intended as a passive aggressive dig at me. I might say something similar as well, but also as a way to poke fun at myself. I'm always willing to laugh at myself. When that kind of statement comes from another though, it often does have a passive-aggressive element to it. With the exception, I think, of those friends with whom we might share one of those more sarcastically-based relationships. I have a long-time friend whom I love dearly, but we do swap our fair share of pointed insults. Eh, it's balanced between us and we're okay with it. But if someone else said to me some of the very same things that she does, I might truly take offense.
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Post by mollycoddle on Feb 4, 2018 14:21:25 GMT
No. There were 3 of us, and she brought us each a little bag of gifts. This is a little box of tissues with a saying on it. TBH, I wouldn’t have thought twice about it, except for the fact that she said “Look at yours.” Were the other recipients given snarky gifts? Were the rest of your items nice? Is there a possibility she grabbed it bc she thought it was funny and you would think so too? Did she seem surprised by your comeback? If she meant it as a dig I would not appreciate it. It’s possible. I guess that I wonder why she didn’t explain when I asked her.
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Post by jenjie on Feb 4, 2018 14:26:33 GMT
Were the other recipients given snarky gifts? Were the rest of your items nice? Is there a possibility she grabbed it bc she thought it was funny and you would think so too? Did she seem surprised by your comeback? If she meant it as a dig I would not appreciate it. It’s possible. I guess that I wonder why she didn’t explain when I asked her. True. It’s all in how she reacted to your response. Uncomfortable at being called out, or surprised that you would think she thought that about you? I would have fallen all over myself explaining how that wasn’t my intention etc.
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Post by mollycoddle on Feb 4, 2018 15:02:21 GMT
It’s possible. I guess that I wonder why she didn’t explain when I asked her. True. It’s all in how she reacted to your response. Uncomfortable at being called out, or surprised that you would think she thought that about you? I would have fallen all over myself explaining how that wasn’t my intention etc. The best way that I can explain her reaction to my question is to say that she looked downcast. Weird response, I thought. And then I let it go because we were at someone’s house and I did not want to spoil the evening.
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Post by jenjie on Feb 4, 2018 15:32:44 GMT
True. It’s all in how she reacted to your response. Uncomfortable at being called out, or surprised that you would think she thought that about you? I would have fallen all over myself explaining how that wasn’t my intention etc. The best way that I can explain her reaction to my question is to say that she looked downcast. Weird response, I thought. And then I let it go because we were at someone’s house and I did not want to spoil the evening. Weird. Downcast? It sounds like she was disappointed you didn’t like it. Would she feel like that if she was calling you out?
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Post by milocat on Feb 4, 2018 15:44:13 GMT
The best way that I can explain her reaction to my question is to say that she looked downcast. Weird response, I thought. And then I let it go because we were at someone’s house and I did not want to spoil the evening. Weird. Downcast? It sounds like she was disappointed you didn’t like it. Would she feel like that if she was calling you out? Reading the thread I was thinking the friend was being a passive agressive bitch and good for OP for calling her on it. But maybe the friend thought it meant something different. She said look at yours - was she excited or shady? Then the downcast makes me think maybe she thought it was a compliment.
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Post by eleezybeth on Feb 4, 2018 16:16:29 GMT
I don’t even understand what it says. Is this a popular quote? Is this from some famous literature? I don’t get it at all.
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Post by mollycoddle on Feb 4, 2018 22:33:31 GMT
The best way that I can explain her reaction to my question is to say that she looked downcast. Weird response, I thought. And then I let it go because we were at someone’s house and I did not want to spoil the evening. Weird. Downcast? It sounds like she was disappointed you didn’t like it. Would she feel like that if she was calling you out? I don’t know. It’s possible. I’m glad that I let it drop
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Post by mollycoddle on Feb 4, 2018 22:34:48 GMT
I don’t even understand what it says. Is this a popular quote? Is this from some famous literature? I don’t get it at all. I’ve never seen it before.
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Post by mollycoddle on Feb 4, 2018 22:36:00 GMT
Weird. Downcast? It sounds like she was disappointed you didn’t like it. Would she feel like that if she was calling you out? Reading the thread I was thinking the friend was being a passive agressive bitch and good for OP for calling her on it. But maybe the friend thought it meant something different. She said look at yours - was she excited or shady? Then the downcast makes me think maybe she thought it was a compliment. Could be. I don’t understand why she wouldn’t quickly explain it. It’s a mystery.
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Post by eleezybeth on Feb 4, 2018 22:38:55 GMT
Was it these? I was so bothered by not even understanding the quote that I went to look it up. Since you said tissues, I'm guess that this was it? These pictures are usually meant to be quite sarcastic. I don't know that I would assume that the person was saying it about me or knowing that I would appreciate the sarcasm.
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Post by AussieMeg on Feb 4, 2018 22:56:51 GMT
If a friend gave you something with that saying on it, what would you think? I was pissed. Oh. I would be pissed off too. It sounds like she's saying she thinks you're a bit of a drama queen, or self-absorbed. Unless it's a long running joke between the two of you? Now I have a friend who really is a bit of a drama queen, and I can imagine me or another mutual friend giving her something like that as a joke. But I know she would take it as a joke. In fact this very thing came up in conversation just the other day. One of the girls posted a mug that said something like "Sarcastic Bitch" on it, and suggested that we buy it for her for her 50th birthday. I then suggested a hypochondriac cup for the other friend. We've been friends for 38 years and the sarcasm and hypochondriac and drama queen stuff has been a long running joke between the three of us for decades. So, I guess it depends on your relationship with this person.
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Post by katlaw on Feb 4, 2018 22:58:22 GMT
If a friend gave you something with that saying on it, what would you think? I was pissed. Is it an Anne Taintor item? I would probably be offended if I got something like that given to me, I guess it would depend on the person who gave it to me and if I thought she was trying to be nasty or funny. I had a friend who often gave stuff like this as gifts. It is not really my kind of humour. Kind of like Happy BunnyAnne Taintor I just don't get that sense of humour
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Post by AussieMeg on Feb 4, 2018 23:03:18 GMT
OK, now that I've read the whole thread and seen the photo eleezybeth posted, I think it's kinda funny. Yes, I think it's definitely meant to be funny/sarcastic. I imagine she looked downcast because she realised that her joke fell flat and that you were offended. I think if she hadn't specifically told you to look at yours it wouldn't seem as rude as it did to you. (And now I'm off to google where I can get one of those tissue boxes for my friend's 50th birthday! )
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Post by Delta Dawn on Feb 4, 2018 23:18:14 GMT
If a friend gave you something with that saying on it, what would you think? I was pissed. I’d be pea livid. There is no one in my circle of friends I would give something or say that about. None of my friends would say that about me either. I am offended for you and nothing offends me anymore. It's so hurtful. I do know someone who that applies to, though.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 4, 2018 23:25:25 GMT
Was it these? I was so bothered by not even understanding the quote that I went to look it up. Since you said tissues, I'm guess that this was it? These pictures are usually meant to be quite sarcastic. I don't know that I would assume that the person was saying it about me or knowing that I would appreciate the sarcasm. If this was it, I would think it funny. DD buys me a calendar every year with sayings and pictures like this. We think they are hilarious.
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Post by peasapie on Feb 4, 2018 23:41:14 GMT
I would think they are saying your life is full of drama. And I wouldn't like it unless it was a joke we had shared.
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Post by refugeepea on Feb 5, 2018 0:44:15 GMT
My first thought was someone joking around about being stressed and having a lot of unwanted drama in their life. I'd have to hear it to know.
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Post by refugeepea on Feb 5, 2018 0:46:19 GMT
If a friend gave you something with that saying on it, what would you think? I was pissed. I should have read the whole thread. Yes, that gift would bother me. If it was an Ann Taintor gift, I would find it hilarious. In conclusion, yes and no it would bother me.
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Post by papersilly on Feb 5, 2018 1:01:25 GMT
I'm such a pain in the ass?
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