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Post by mollycoddle on Feb 5, 2018 1:07:41 GMT
If a friend gave you something with that saying on it, what would you think? I was pissed. I should have read the whole thread. Yes, that gift would bother me. If it was an Ann Taintor gift, I would find it hilarious. In conclusion, yes and no it would bother me. It was Ann Taintor. The name means nothing to me.
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Post by katlaw on Feb 5, 2018 15:17:22 GMT
It was Ann Taintor. The name means nothing to me. I think the gift giver chose the wrong audience to give that type of gift to. I am sorry you were offended, I would have been in the situation you describe.
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Post by Basket1lady on Feb 5, 2018 15:42:15 GMT
I should have read the whole thread. Yes, that gift would bother me. If it was an Ann Taintor gift, I would find it hilarious. In conclusion, yes and no it would bother me. It was Ann Taintor. The name means nothing to me. Google her or look on Pinterest. Basically, it’s images of 1950 era women who are tired of the BS work of daily life. The gist of it is that women need to stop putting up with the daily maytardom of motherhood and wifey ness and take care of themselves. Lots of drinking references, too. I think your your friend was trying to be funny. Nothing more than that. But I can see, if you aren’t familiar with the line, you could take offense.
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Post by gritzi on Feb 5, 2018 16:06:55 GMT
I would think, "Thank God I have one less friend" and walk away feeling grateful about cutting that person out of my life!
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Post by tiffanyr on Feb 5, 2018 16:19:43 GMT
OK, now that I've read the whole thread and seen the photo eleezybeth posted, I think it's kinda funny. Yes, I think it's definitely meant to be funny/sarcastic. I imagine she looked downcast because she realised that her joke fell flat and that you were offended. I think if she hadn't specifically told you to look at yours it wouldn't seem as rude as it did to you. I have to agree with AussieMegI think she thought it was funny and for whatever reason thought you would too. I think her "downcast" look may have been a bit of disappointment/embarrassment that it wasn't received as such. If you want to remain friends with her I think this may need a bit more conversation...not in an offended way but more of a "I hope we can work this misunderstanding out" way.
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Post by cannmom on Feb 5, 2018 16:21:46 GMT
I think she was trying to be funny. I would not have automatically taken it as a dig. If someone gave that to me; I would not be offended. I don't have a great number of friends. If this was someone that I truly considered a friend and she didn't normally behave in a passive-agressive way towards me; I would just let it go.
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Post by thundergal on Feb 5, 2018 16:28:29 GMT
I think that she would say both. People who live alone have a tendency, I’ve noticed, to be self-absorbed. That is true of me, I guess Posting before finishing the thread but I don't think that's true at ALL. I think thoughtless, self-absorbed people are thoughtless and self-absorbed whether they live alone or not. And I somehow doubt that you are either of those things. And I'm sorry this was said to you.
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Post by thundergal on Feb 5, 2018 16:31:22 GMT
except for the fact that she said “Look at yours.”
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Post by thundergal on Feb 5, 2018 16:35:52 GMT
Well damn...now that I've seen the item in question, I'm wondering if it wasn't a joke that fell flat. Maybe she asked you to look at yours because she thought it was the funniest and thought everyone would get a kick out of it...and that it wasn't directed AT you.
Man, I don't know.
But I think you handled yourself beautifully. Truly.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Feb 5, 2018 16:54:48 GMT
Based on you saying she's a nice lady and her response to your call out, as well as the post of the actual item. I'm going with attempt at joke that fell flat. Did the others receive tissues with different messages on them? I'd call her up and discuss before writing off the friendship.
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Post by mollycoddle on Feb 5, 2018 18:56:04 GMT
Based on you saying she's a nice lady and her response to your call out, as well as the post of the actual item. I'm going with attempt at joke that fell flat. Did the others receive tissues with different messages on them? I'd call her up and discuss before writing off the friendship. I’m not writing off the friendship. I am beginning to think that it was a joke with a wee bit of truth. She picked that one out for me. But she truly is a good person overall. I said my piece and I’m over it.
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Post by mollycoddle on Feb 5, 2018 18:57:27 GMT
I think she was trying to be funny. I would not have automatically taken it as a dig. If someone gave that to me; I would not be offended. I don't have a great number of friends. If this was someone that I truly considered a friend and she didn't normally behave in a passive-agressive way towards me; I would just let it go. Oh, I am letting it go. I’m over it.
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Feb 5, 2018 19:14:56 GMT
Wow, I'm glad I'm not friends with a lot of you IRL. You'd cut ties and walk away from a friend because of that? (not the OP) Seriously? I guess we are all free to pick and choose our friends and I'm glad that mine all like to laugh, can be self-deprecating, and can poke fun at each other (in loving, never mean ways)about things. We know each other very well and have a lot of jokes poking fun at ourselves and each other. Some of you would be very hard to be friends with if a snarky (funny) saying on a tissue box caused you to end the friendship. (again, not the OP)
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Feb 5, 2018 19:56:34 GMT
I think it depends on the item. Funny on a day planner. Not funny on a makeup mirror.
ETA: I see I didn't read far enough. Maybe she thought it was funny? Or she just likes the 50's throwback style stuff.
ETA, again: A friend got me an Ann Tainter pill box that said, "Stop me before I volunteer again." It was funny because I do volunteer too much...and sometimes accidentally (I speakin' to you, girl scout cookie chair for the whole freakin' town).
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Post by busy on Feb 5, 2018 19:59:19 GMT
"I make everything way more complicated than it needs to be and then tell everyone about all the unnecessarily dramatic details that they don't want to hear. TLDR: I'm exhausting."
ETA: Now I read everything and see the item... it seems like a crappy joke. I can totally see something like that being funny between the right friends, but this doesn't seem to be the appropriate friendship for that particular bit of humor. I wouldn't assume she meant it unkindly, but it's weird when people attempt potentially hurtful humor without any context.
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