freebird
Drama Llama
'cause I'm free as a bird now
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Post by freebird on Feb 28, 2018 17:27:36 GMT
I try to say nice things to people at the gym. Especially new ppl. It's hard putting yourself out there and I want them to keep going. Someone stopped me at walmart yesterday to tell me I was looking good (weight loss). She's not a stranger, I kind of know her because she's worked there for eons.
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ginacivey
Pearl Clutcher
refupea #2 in southeast missouri
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Jun 25, 2014 19:18:36 GMT
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Post by ginacivey on Feb 28, 2018 17:37:55 GMT
Recently I bought a couple of new dresses. I was excited to wear them because they were quite flattering on my short kinda dumpy body, and managed to camouflage the worst of my flaws. I felt quite fabulous and confident wearing them. I was a bit put out that not one single person said I looked nice when I wore them, not even my own mum! i can not remember the last time i had a compliment that didn't involve something i cooked or crafted i know i can't look like shit ALL the time - It makes me feel good to say nice things to people. i compliment people all the time - friends and strangers alike i think it's why it bugs me that i NEVER get one - maybe i need new friends i told you young man working the register yesterday - that he smelled fantastic and he really did he told me his mom told him it never hurt to smell good i told him to keep listening to his mom! gina
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Post by Just Beth on Feb 28, 2018 18:48:07 GMT
I was on vacation last week and I saw a girl about my 19yo DD age who was wearing a "Nevertheless She Persisted" T-shirt. As I walked past I grinned at her and said, "Nice shirt!" with a thumbs up. She smiled back and thanked me. It was a happy little moment!
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Post by maryland on Feb 28, 2018 18:55:45 GMT
I used to always compliment women I don't know on their nail polish, haircut, outfit. I was one to compliment often, but now I try to keep my mouth closed. I worry that just because something that I think would be a compliment, it may make the other person uncomfortable. But I love to receive compliments!
Now I always compliment good service! I often ask if I could speak to their manager or send an email to corporate complimenting them on their good work. If I also call and compliment truck drivers if their info is posted on the back of their truck.
When I see anyone with a Univ. of Maryland clothing item, bumper sticker, etc. I always say something to them! That's my alma mater, and we live in Pgh., so it's not like I live near Maryland campus. I pulled up next to a man with MD stickers all over his car in the fall, and rolled down my window and said "Go Terps!" We were at a long stoplight. I think I scared him at first, but then he laughed and we realized we were in college around the same time!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2018 18:58:36 GMT
When I was at lunch today the server complimented the necklace my husband bought me on our last cruise. I thought of this thread.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2018 19:23:36 GMT
I use to, a lot, but a person sent me a bible verse , something about beware the person who gives compliments, they are false.....
I don't compliment people as much as I did and that person isn't much of a friend anymore.
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Post by candygurl on Feb 28, 2018 19:24:57 GMT
Not often enough. I think it but am too shy to talk to them. I really should!
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Post by lisae on Feb 28, 2018 21:13:58 GMT
I compliment people on their clothes and jewelry frequently. I think it happens most when I'm being waited on like at the bank or library. It's easier to notice these details when you are standing there waiting on them to handle a transaction for you. I've had two compliments on my haircut recently though it isn't a new style. One lady at the post office wanted to know who cut it but unfortunately she was older and didn't want to drive as far as my stylist is away from our small town.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Mar 1, 2018 0:25:37 GMT
I use to, a lot, but a person sent me a bible verse , something about beware the person who gives compliments, they are false..... I don't compliment people as much as I did and that person isn't much of a friend anymore. Don’t let that change you! I could find 20scriptures off the top of my head that would support such kindness and encouragement compliments give. As long as they are sincere, and more important, not done with a motive of flattery to get something out of you, ( which is what your friend’s scripture is really about), then go for it.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Mar 1, 2018 0:34:49 GMT
Oh, I'll be the big old wet blanket and say that I almost never compliment anyone, stranger or not, on their physical appearance or their "beauty" choices. I will compliment on actions, behaviors, etc. when I can. I really hate the extreme emphasis we put on the importance of looking good or being pretty. I am not immune to perking up when complimented myself, so I get it, but I try not to be an active participant in something that I, me, myself, personally, think is something we should be moving away from not perpetuating. I totally get what you’re saying, and definitely agree. That is why I’ve worked hard on finding things to compliment that are about the person. And if I know them, that’s easy. If I am just passing them in public, or interacting with them for just a few minutes, I’m still going to tell them if I find something I like and appreciate, even if it’s clothes or hair or smile. I personally, really struggle to dress and present myself well, I feel very unsure of my choices sometimes. So when I get positive feedback, it really encourages me. Therefore, I try to do it for others. But I absolutely agree with what you said. For instance, I never praise someone for losing weight. I find some other way to encourage them. I’ve been that person who was told weight loss made a HUGE difference, and wondered just how bad did I look before anyway? And when I gained weight back, then I felt like all those praisers would be disappointed and critical of me. But I still think people need feedback and encourage, and if we’re sincere and think up ways that aren’t just about shallow externals, we can give it.
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Post by alexa11 on Mar 1, 2018 0:40:52 GMT
I do it frequently and also get complimented frequently- mostly in the gym. It's the South and we're friendly!
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Post by quinlove on Mar 1, 2018 0:58:41 GMT
I love to compliment strangers all the time. But, I generally am saying something nice to someone who, I think, needs it. Not necessarily about their gorgeous outfit or whatever. More like the elderly woman who has put forth a little extra effort to try and look special. I always find those people and say how nice they look today. It seems to make them feel good about themselves. I know that I feel better saying it.
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TankTop
Pearl Clutcher
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Jun 28, 2014 1:52:46 GMT
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Post by TankTop on Mar 1, 2018 3:09:46 GMT
I compliment people all the time. I try very hard to compliment things that are not tied to beauty.
On the other hand, I couldn’t tell you the last time someone other than a student complimented me.
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FurryP
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Jun 26, 2014 19:58:26 GMT
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Post by FurryP on Mar 1, 2018 3:20:14 GMT
My boss is coming to town next week to give us our annual reviews. I plan to write up a review for him. I want him to know I think he is great. Does that count?
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Post by crazy4scraps on Mar 1, 2018 15:53:34 GMT
Recently I bought a couple of new dresses. I was excited to wear them because they were quite flattering on my short kinda dumpy body, and managed to camouflage the worst of my flaws. I felt quite fabulous and confident wearing them. I was a bit put out that not one single person said I looked nice when I wore them, not even my own mum! i can not remember the last time i had a compliment that didn't involve something i cooked or crafted i know i can't look like shit ALL the time - It makes me feel good to say nice things to people. i compliment people all the time - friends and strangers alike i think it's why it bugs me that i NEVER get one - maybe i need new friends i told you young man working the register yesterday - that he smelled fantastic and he really did he told me his mom told him it never hurt to smell good i told him to keep listening to his mom! gina LOL. This reminded me of a time I happened to be in a paper store looking for bulk envelopes and the cashier was a youngish guy of about 20 or so. I was old enough to be his mom at the time. While I was getting my stuff rung up, he looks up and says, “You smell like Starbursts.” Um, okaaaay, thanks? I guess? I had on lime Skittles lip balm! That was definitely a little awkward!
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rickmer
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Jul 1, 2014 20:20:18 GMT
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Post by rickmer on Mar 1, 2018 17:06:46 GMT
i was at value village monday and tried on a dress. it was very mad men/early 1960s cut and i really liked it. unfortunately it was tight thru the bust and i *know* i wouldn't wear it because (at 46) i refuse to be uncomfortable. and old asian man was waiting for his wife trying stuff on and he kept smiling and nodding and finally gave me a big thumbs since i think he thought i was thick and not getting that he was trying to tell me it looked nice. this older woman came over to my girlfriend while i was taking it off and said "that dress looks lovely on her... she really should buy it. my husband said it was stunning". i was super-flattered (thumbs up AND stunning from two unknown men???) but didn't get it. it was fully lined so letting it out, if possible, would be a hassle. it was $17.99 and they wouldn't accept my 30% off card. i realize i think people look nice in my head but rarely say it out loud so am working on verbalizing my compliments more.
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