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Post by missysauter on Sept 11, 2014 16:32:34 GMT
Over the summer DD (18) and her boyfriend went skydiving. I took tons of photos. I was smart enough to get just as many photos of her by herself as I did of the two of them together. Well, after two and a half years of dating, she broke up with him last week. The 6x8 album I ordered for this project came in two days later.
I was going to do this album for her and give it to her for Christmas. Would you simply wait till closer to Christmas to make a decision about doing it? Don't worry about doing it at all? Include photos of him? It wasn't a bad break up, but they were together for a long time.
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Post by sunshinestate on Sept 11, 2014 17:29:59 GMT
I would do it, sounds like fun. Maybe you could put the pictures of him on tags that can be hidden (or even discarded if she wants to).
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Post by ScrappyJac on Sept 11, 2014 18:23:41 GMT
I would give it some time, then ask her what she prefers. You could even work on layouts of just her in the meantime.
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Post by kellynn on Sept 11, 2014 19:51:17 GMT
Personally, I think that you should include him as well. However I'm not sure that I would give it to her this Christmas. He was a huge part of her life for a long time...you know teenage years are like dog years. As I have gotten older, I can look at pictures similar to this and remember all of the fun, and not necessarily be sad about the break up. I try to remember that each person I dated helped me in choosing to marry my spouse. It's fun to go down memory lane, but only you can determine when your daughter may be ready for that sweet and heartfelt album.
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christinec68
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Post by christinec68 on Sept 11, 2014 20:55:11 GMT
I would wait and see how she's feeling about him and the breakup when it's closer to the holiday.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 11, 2014 21:07:31 GMT
Well, I guess I would make the book but make the focus of it more about her and her adventure than about the two of them. That said, I would include a few pics including him because he IS a part of the story. Maybe those pics could be under a flap or on a tag or something if you don't like the idea of them being visible on the page. It is what it is, life happens. Breakups happen. I look at things like that as stepping stones to something better coming down the road.  I don't believe in purposefully excluding things or people on my pages if they were there and / or a part of something. I also second the idea of not giving it to her for Christmas. |
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Post by LisaDV on Sept 11, 2014 21:34:15 GMT
I think I would work on photos with her only, so the story and memory is fresh in my mind. Then ask her later, maybe next year, if she wants the photos of him included.
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Post by Dani B. on Sept 12, 2014 16:47:50 GMT
Personally, I think that you should include him as well. However I'm not sure that I would give it to her this Christmas. He was a huge part of her life for a long time...you know teenage years are like dog years. As I have gotten older, I can look at pictures similar to this and remember all of the fun, and not necessarily be sad about the break up. I try to remember that each person I dated helped me in choosing to marry my spouse. It's fun to go down memory lane, but only you can determine when your daughter may be ready for that sweet and heartfelt album. Well, I guess I would make the book but make the focus of it more about her and her adventure than about the two of them. That said, I would include a few pics including him because he IS a part of the story. Maybe those pics could be under a flap or on a tag or something if you don't like the idea of them being visible on the page. It is what it is, life happens. Breakups happen. I look at things like that as stepping stones to something better coming down the road.  I don't believe in purposefully excluding things or people on my pages if they were there and / or a part of something. I also second the idea of not giving it to her for Christmas. I agree with you both. He is a part of her story. And later on in life even if they are not together the album will bring memories of this time. Focusing on her instead of them two would be better in my opinion, even if they haven't broke up. Imagine if you have gotten it done and later on they would have broken up. The album would still be there. We don't know our kids future (I wish!) I would definitely focus on her, crazy4scrap suggestion on hiding him under a flap is a good idea! |
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Post by blemon on Sept 12, 2014 23:11:33 GMT
I wouldn't want pictures of old boyfriends in scrapbooks if I could avoid it.
With some I absolutely cringe when I find an old photo.
She broke up with him for a reason.
I don't need any more truth in my life. I want to forget all the yucky stuff -- not remember it.
Even if it was a fun day for her...
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Post by myboysnme on Sept 12, 2014 23:40:07 GMT
I would scrap all the photos of her and a few of the two of them because she is in the photos, but none of him by himself.
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Post by alphagam5 on Sept 13, 2014 2:27:42 GMT
I really dig the idea of the pics of him on pull out tags behind the photo. But check with her on wether she wants them at this time. If she says no just save the photos and maybe she will later. I personally don't keep pics of old boyfriends but with shared experience like that, it could become the elephant in the room.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Sept 13, 2014 2:39:56 GMT
I would scrap all the photos of her and a few of the two of them because she is in the photos, but none of him by himself.  |
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Post by anonrefugee on Sept 14, 2014 22:15:13 GMT
I would scrap all the photos of her and a few of the two of them because she is in the photos, but none of him by himself. And agree with blemon, She broke up with him for a reason. If for some reason they get back together and marry, you can always add his other photos. I'm on a minimizing kick so take my advice with grain if salt, I've spent too much time scrapping moments or kids friends that were temporary. I need to put more effort into scrapping the deeper thoughts or life experiences. |
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I don't believe in purposefully excluding things or people on my pages if they were there and / or a part of something. I also second the idea of not giving it to her for Christmas.
